Moms are calling this AI tool a ‘lifesaver’ for the mental load they carry every day

From meal planning to daycare checklists, one mom’s creative use of ChatGPT is giving exhausted parents everywhere a reason to exhale.

When Lilian Schmidt hit her breaking point, it wasn’t because of one big thing—it was the accumulation of everything. The German mom of two, living in Switzerland, was managing the morning chaos, a full-time job, overstimulated daycare pickups, and a running list of invisible tasks. She felt alone in the mental load, even though she had a supportive partner.

“It’s not that I have to carry everything alone, but I still often feel that way,” Schmidt told Newsweek. “Even if my partner and I try to split things 50/50, our brains just work differently.”

So she turned to something unexpected: ChatGPT.

In a now-viral TikTok that’s been viewed more than 710,000 times, Schmidt (@heylilianschmidt) explained how she’s using AI as an emotional and logistical support system—what some commenters called a “co-parent,” “therapist,” and even “doula.”

@heylilianschmidt The prompt that made my mom life 10x easier👇 As a full-time working toddler mom, life moves FAST. And even with a loving, supportive partner I still often feel like the default parent. Because the mental load? Mostly mine. Four months ago, I hit a breaking point and was like: „Wouldn’t it be nice for a change if I could just turn my brain off and say things like: „What’s for dinner?“ „What should we get Emma for her birthday?“ „Just tell me what I need to pack for daycare and I’ll do it“ „Oh there’s no grocery list yet? How will I know what to buy?“ That day, I turned ChatGPT into my co-parent – and my life got 10x easier. Now, ChatGPT… 🥘 plans a week of healthy meals my kids will actually eat 🛒 writes the grocery list – sorted by aisle 🎁 finds the perfect birthday gift AND helps me write the card 🎒 creates daycare and travel packing lists I can just tick off 🧘‍♀️ lets me finally turn my brain OFF for a minute and breeeeeathe 😮‍💨 And the best part? Whenever I ask it to something, it just… does. No follow-up questions like „Where do I find that?“ or „Okay, but which one?“ – it just DOES 😅 If you’re drowning in mom life and want a co-parent who never forgets the sunscreen or asks you to write things down, you’ll find the exact prompts in the comments! 🫶 This one’s a game changer, mama ❤️ #coparenting #chatgpt #chatgptformoms #mentalload #workingmom #toddlermom #sahmlife #defaultparent ♬ Manchild – Sabrina Carpenter

What she actually uses ChatGPT for

For Schmidt, the mental load wasn’t just about remembering daycare pickup. It was about planning, anticipating, emotionally regulating, and making a thousand tiny decisions every single day.

So she started giving those tasks to ChatGPT. Now, it:

• Plans a full week of meals her kids will actually eat
  
• Writes grocery lists
  
• Suggests age-appropriate birthday gifts
  
• Creates daycare and travel packing checklists
  
• Offers calm, thought-out responses when she’s emotionally overwhelmed

“When I’m overwhelmed with so much to get done with work and the kids and house etc I list it all out and ask chat to help me be sat on the sofa by x time or in bed by x time. It gives me a full timed to-do list and it works every time,” shared user @jojo.reid.

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Why even “involved” partners don’t eliminate the mental load

Schmidt was clear that her partner is an active parent—not only to their 3-year-old but also as the primary caregiver for his 14-year-old son. But even in egalitarian households, the default parent role—and the cognitive load that comes with it—often falls to moms.

Research shows that moms carry a significantly heavier share of the mental load at home. A 2023 brief from the Council on Contemporary Families found that partnered mothers spend more than twice as much time as fathers on cognitive labor—things like planning, organizing, and keeping track of family needs. That imbalance isn’t just frustrating—it’s linked to increased stress, burnout, and lower overall well-being for moms.

That’s why tools like ChatGPT, when used intentionally, can offer more than convenience. They offer clarity, relief, and the feeling of not carrying everything alone.

Why the video resonated so deeply

The comments on Schmidt’s video tell the story of a much bigger shift. Parents aren’t just looking for productivity—they’re desperate for emotional relief.

@bridget🌻provençalkitchen shared, “I prompt it to create a recipe with what is left in the fridge. I think it helps with the mental load.”

@cks wrote, “I gave it background on my baby’s sleep and it tracked it over a few days then told it to act like a sleep consultant and it tells me what to do for naps etc 🤣🤣🤣 xx”

@confidentsimone added, “It helped me since two weeks with our sleep regression for our 18 months old😂”

“It’s my sparring partner when I need to make a decision; my research assistant when I don’t have three hours to scroll through Google; and my emotional buffer when I’m about to overthink something,” Schmidt shared.

She emphasizes it’s not about becoming more efficient. “It’s about doing the same things faster and with help,” she told Newsweek. “My life has gotten 10 times easier and, for the first time in a long time, I feel like I have space to breathe.”

Curious what moms are asking ChatGPT? We asked—and the responses were great:

• @ashm15: “Baby sleep schedule and tips. Acitvities to do with baby at home.”
• @just.another.canadian.mother: “Make signs for party. Find activities for kids. Meal ideas. Help with mental load.”
• @mqu2487: “It walked me through secondary infertility. Mental support, and understanding results.”
• @lastjenks: “Yes! For my infant – Wake windows, when to feed, goals for daytime/nighttime sleep.”

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Gentle ways to try this yourself

If you’re curious but hesitant, there are simple ways to ease into using ChatGPT for everyday parenting stress. You can start by asking it to create a weeknight dinner plan that factors in leftovers and picky eaters. It can help generate packing checklists for daycare, suggest rainy day activities for toddlers, or draft a respectful message to reschedule a work meeting around a pediatric appointment.

This isn’t about outsourcing your role—it’s about having support for the mental load that comes with it.

A different kind of breakthrough

What makes Schmidt’s story stand out isn’t the novelty of using AI. It’s the honesty about what it feels like to be maxed out and still expected to remember sunscreen, RSVP to birthday parties, and stay calm through tantrums.

In a world where moms are told to lean in, do more, and “just get organized,” Schmidt’s approach offers something gentler. A moment of space. A sense of support. A reason to exhale.

And with more than 710,000 moms watching—and relating—it’s clear she’s not alone.