TikTok mom’s list of things she doesn’t care about goes viral—because it’s perfect

There are certain things some parents tend to care about that maybe not every parent does—it’s all about conserving energy, after all! One TikTok mom is going viral for her video about the things most parents care about that she just doesn’t, and it’s got a lot of parents thinking.

Danielle is a mom of a blended family with four kids, so you know she doesn’t have time for things that don’t really matter in the grand scheme of things. And that’s really what her video is all about.

@lifewithdaniielle This might ruffle some feathers but… let’s talk about things I don’t care about as a ✨MOM✨ #momlife #lifewithkids #motherhood #momrules #nonstrictparents #grwm #blendedfamily #motherhoodunfiltered #momsoftiktok #moms #ilovebeingamom ♬ original sound – Danielle

“First thing is waking them up early on the weekend. Why?” she says. “If we have nothing going on I will not wake them up early. Sleep in, I don’t care! If you want to sleep until 3 p.m., sleep in, you know your body best.”

Next on the list is snacks, which she says her kids can eat whenever they want—and wherever they want, even in bed (as long as they clean up after themselves).

“If you’re hungry, have a snack, I don’t care! I’m not going to tell you that you can’t eat, you know your body best. If you want two snacks, have two snacks. I don’t care,” she says.

And those moms who force their kids to eat the dinner they made even if they don’t like it? Danielle isn’t one of ’em.

“I will make multiple dinners if I have to,” she says. “You don’t have to eat something you don’t like. Maybe I won’t cook multiple meals, but there can be multiple dinners, meaning if you don’t like spaghetti and I cook spaghetti, is there a way you’ll eat the spaghetti that I can make it for you? Will you eat like, butter noodles with parmesan? Because I can skip the red sauce on yours.”

But one of the most relatable things Danielle says in her video is that she doesn’t care if her kids have an attitude.

“I think a lot of people forget that kids are human too,” she explains. “I don’t expect them to be in a good mood 24/7. I don’t expect them to be happy 24/7. Things are going to hurt their feelings, things are going to upset them and that’s fine.”

She’s not wrong. When parents are patient and understanding, it creates an emotionally secure environment for children. They feel accepted, valued, and safe to express themselves without fear of harsh criticism or overreaction. No judgment on liking buttered noodles falls into this category!

Patient and understanding parents are also more likely to respond to their children’s behavior with empathy and guidance rather than harsh punishment or criticism. Kids are able to develop a positive self-image and confidence in themselves. Kids with patient and laid-back parents like Danielle tend to experience lower levels of stress and anxiety. They don’t feel the need to be perfect or fear making mistakes, which can be a significant source of anxiety for some children.

So yeah, her list makes total sense. In the comments, people are very on board with this philosophy.

“Are these not normal things? I guess I didn’t realize some parents are so controlling,” one person wrote.

Another added, “My mom raised me this way too, she’s my bestie now.”

This is an attitude (and outcome) we can get on board with.