Are you a Type A or Type B mom? Here’s why you need the other in your life

A recent video that’s racked up over 7.5 million views on Instagram proves what many moms already know: the best friendships often come from pairing opposites. In the clip, one mom proudly shows off a meticulously organized snack tray—while her friend rummages through a bag filled with everything imaginable.

It’s the classic dynamic: Type A moms thrive on order and planning, while Type B moms embrace flexibility and spontaneity. But what makes this pairing so successful? According to psychologists, it’s because opposites attract and create balance—and that’s exactly what moms need most.

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Why opposites attract in mom friendships

It turns out, mom friendships thrive when opposites come together. According to psychological research, complementary traits create stronger bonds because they help balance each other out. A type A mom thrives on order, preparation, and structure—she’s the mom with the color-coded calendar and emergency snacks always on hand. Meanwhile, the type B mom brings a sense of calm and adaptability to the mix. She’s the one who can make the best of any situation and remind everyone to breathe when things get chaotic.

The magic lies in how these traits complement each other. The type A mom helps keep things running smoothly, while the type B mom helps everyone stay grounded when things inevitably go off course. This balance creates trust and emotional connection—two key ingredients for lasting friendships.

The science behind balance in parenting

Interestingly, research shows that kids benefit from this balance, too. A study found that children with parents who balanced structure and flexibility demonstrated better emotional regulation and adaptability. A type A mom’s predictability provides a sense of security, while the type B mom’s relaxed nature helps kids learn to adapt and problem-solve.

And moms benefit, too. When a type A mom starts spiraling because the plan isn’t working, a type B mom steps in to say, “It’s fine—we’ll figure it out.” And when the type B mom starts to feel overwhelmed by the lack of structure, the type A mom can create a plan and help them reset. It’s a tag team strategy that makes parenting feel a little less overwhelming.

Sometimes, the best parenting strategy is knowing when to hand over the snack tray and when to dig through the bag.

And the comments? They’re everything:

• “How did you get that video of the inside of my bag?!” — @kelseyrenkim 😮
• “I’m a little of both. Depends if I’m running late or really late 😂” — @lalainboca

No matter which mom you are (or both!), it’s proof that parenting takes a village—and a mix of personalities to survive the chaos.

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Source:

1. Children with balanced structure and flexibility. National Library of Medicine. 2015. “Resilience as Regulation of Developmental and Family Processes.”
2. Opposites attract and create balance. Psychology Today. 2014. “The Real Reason That Opposites Attract.”