Welcome to motherhood, that thing that makes you feel like you’re constantly swinging between a real-life superhero and an absolute mess. One day, you’ve managed to diffuse the tantrums, make delicious meals, keep the house tidy, stay on top of the laundry and lap up all the sweet hugs. And the next? Well, let’s just say tantrums and scattered toys and chicken nuggets run the show.

Contrary to what we often see or hear, we all have those moments. There’s no such thing as a perfect mom. And while for so long, social media has been chock-full of images that make it seem like everyone is keeping it all together all the time, things are changing. More and more parents are getting real about the behind-the-scenes chaos that is so often the backdrop of modern-day motherhood.

See: Jenna Dewan, who just posted an honest Instagram post revealing that she too has those moments (and days and weeks) where she just doesn’t quite crush it. Because no matter how famous you are, no matter how much help or privilege you may have, no matter how easy you may make it look, we all have those messy mom moments.

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“Didnt [sic] nail it this week,” the actress writes. “A lot of things i wish i handled a little differently. As someone who has always been a little too hard on myself..I’ve also realized it’s pretty healing to just accept you’re not perfect.”

We can relate — particularly right now, as we attempt to navigate pandemic parenting. In the past year, many of us have like those “didn’t nail it” weeks are, well, kind of the norm. Motherhood has never been harder than it is right now for so many of us. But let’s remember that we are living through an incredibly tough set of circumstances right now, and those messy moments are both inevitable and normal. So let’s give ourselves grace.

“When you have the best of intentions but it doesn’t always go the way you were hoping and you take a moment to look at your harried self in the mirror and it’s okkkkkk,” Dewan continues. “[I]t’s all about growing and learning anyways. Go lightly people.”

Dewan’s post is resonating with moms everywhere.

” For admitting you are not perfect, especially in Hollywood. Moms can’t hear this enough. There is no perfect mom. We’ve all nail-failed it. But you’ve nailed reality and that’s more important,” commented one follower.

“You’re human my darling, like us all. And pretty spectacular. Thank you for the reminder ❤️,” wrote another.

Actor Laura Benanti commented, “These honest posts are so important. You have such a beautiful heart ♥️”