True life: I'm an ambitious career woman *and* a devoted mama

Ambition does not and should not halt with the arrival of motherhood.

True life: I'm an ambitious career woman *and* a devoted mama

The year 2012 was a defining year for me: I was pregnant with my third child and was faced with a life-changing decision between my career and my family. We were living in Chicago at the time and my husband had a job change that required our family to move to the Bay Area of California.

I was working for an ad agency, at the forefront of ad tech and analytics, with the most amazing people, and had wonderful mentors who supported my growth professionally and who valued family. I traveled globally and I was thriving. At least that's what it felt like.


I felt like I myself again after having two kids. I was living the dream moms around me wanted: I was a successful career woman and a mom at the same time.

Suddenly, I experienced one of the toughest downfalls. Chasing the "balanced life" became a hot topic around our household. I felt the life I'd built for myself, my family and my colleagues was crashing down all around me. And it did.

Needless to say, we moved back to California while I was seven months pregnant. My company had offices in San Francisco, so I was able to transfer successfully—but my entire team remained in Chicago so I managed the team remotely. This proved difficult since my role entailed engaging with people globally on a daily basis. I was up at 5 am with colleagues in Europe and working late at night with others in Asia.

Keeping up with the two hour time difference between San Francisco and Chicago and then integrating that into my family became difficult to manage. And, in the midst of it all, I delivered my third child. But, I remained steadfast in my career, traveling extensively to Chicago, New York, then to Europe and Asia.

To effectively develop talent strategies and implement organizational changes (both huge parts of my job) engagement was a key component to the success of these efforts, so being onsite was important. Corporate behavior, culture, systems and mindset aren't channels that can be changed by remote control or the flip of a switch.

But I knew better. I knew once I made the decision to move back to California that this would be the end of my career. My gut felt it.

I ended up leaving my job in advertising shortly after moving back to San Francisco. I stopped traveling. I gave up a job I loved for my family. But, living in the Bay Area and supporting three kids meant we needed two incomes. So I went back to consulting, begrudgingly.

My fast-track career had been derailed. Yes, I was earning an income. Yes, I was spending more time with my kids—which was great, don't get me wrong. But was I supposed to love this new arrangement? Was this "it" for me? Was I a mom with a job that just paid the bills?

It has taken me a long time to get back on my feet. I have always been independent, ambitious and driven. It's my nature. If you ask me about leaning in or leaning out, I probably would say "lean in." But I realize this is really hard to do with kids, especially if you want to be an engaged parent. It feels like a no-win situation: you lean in, your family suffers because they don't see you as much. You lean out, and perhaps your " whole self" falls apart into pieces. Could there by another option?

In retrospect, going through this experience taught me ambition does not and should not halt with the arrival of motherhood. In fact, it made me realize the tremendous capabilities and the enormous capacity that mothers possess, and these should be treated as assets, not as liabilities.

My experience has now made me a huge advocate of breaking old paradigms and mindsets around women who want to have careers and a family. If I am going to tell my daughters that they can be anything they want to be, then we should have the infrastructure, systems, and policies to support them so they can thrive in their careers and beyond.

Because women play multiple roles: mothers, partners, daughters, sisters, career professionals and more. And we should all hold these titles with integrity, resilience and purpose.

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These are only the vitamins I give my children and here's why

It's hard to say who loves these more—my kids or me.

When I became a mama five years ago, I didn't put too much thought into whether my son was getting the right vitamins and minerals. From breastfeeding to steaming and pureeing his first bites of solid food, I was confident I was giving him everything to support his growth and development.

But then the toddler years—and the suddenly picky palate that accompanied them—came along. Between that challenge and two additional children in the mix… well, I knew my oldest son's eating plan was falling short in some vitamin and mineral categories.

I also knew how quickly he was growing, so I wanted to make sure he was getting the nutrients he needed (even on those days when he said "no, thank you" to any veggie I offered).

So when I discovered the new line of children's supplements from Nature's Way®, it felt like a serious weight off my chest. Thanks to supplements that support my children's musculoskeletal growth, their brain function, their immune systems, their eyes and more, I'm taken back to that simpler time when I was so confident my kids' vitamin needs were met.*

It wasn't just the variety of supplements offered by Nature's Way that won me over: As a vegetarian mama, I'm the picky one in the family when it comes to scanning labels and making sure they meet our standards. The trick is that most gummy vitamins are made with gelatin, which is not vegetarian friendly.

But just like the other offerings from Nature's Way that I've already come to know and love, the children's supplement line is held to a high standard. That means there's no high-fructose corn syrup, gelatin or common allergens to be found in the supplements. The best part? My two oldest kids ensure we never miss their daily vitamins—they are so in love with the gummy flavors, which include tropical fruit punch, lemonade and wild berry.

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Meanwhile, my pharmacist husband has different criteria when evaluating supplements, especially when it comes to those for our kids. He appreciates the variety of options from Nature's Way, which gives us the ability to rotate the vitamins based on our kids' daily needs. By keeping various children's supplements from Nature's Way on hand, I can customize a regimen to suit my kids' individual requirements.

Of course, high-quality products often come at a higher price point. But (to my immense gratitude!) that isn't the case with Nature's Way, which retails for a competitive value when compared to the other items on the shelf.

Like all mamas, my chief concern is supporting my children's health in any way I can. While I see evidence of their growth every time I pack away clothes they've outgrown, I know there is much more growth that doesn't meet the eye. That's why, for my oldest son, I like stacking the Brain Builder gummy with the Growing Bones & Muscles gummy and the Happy & Healthy Multi. My 3-year-old also enjoys getting her own mix to include the Healthy Eyes gummy. And both of my older kids are quick to request the Tummy Soothe tablet when something isn't sitting right in their stomachs.* And I'll admit it: I've tried it myself and the berry blast flavor really is tasty!

Although my current phase of motherhood may not be as "simple" as it once was, there is so much to appreciate about it—like watching my kids play and sing and create with their incredible imaginations. Along the way, I've eased up on some of my need for control, but it does help to have this range of supplements in my motherhood tool kit. So while I may not be able to convince my son to try kale, having the Nature's Way supplements on hand means I do know he's right on track.*These statements have not been evaluated by the Food & Drug Administration. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease.

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Motherly editors’ 7 favorite hacks for organizing their diaper bags

Make frantically fishing around for a diaper a thing of the past!

As any parent knows, the term "diaper bag" only scratches the surface. In reality, this catchall holds so much more: a change of clothes, bottles, snacks, wipes and probably about a dozen more essential items.

Which makes finding the exact item you need, when you need it (read: A diaper when you're in public with a blowout on your hands) kind of tricky.

That's why organization is the name of the game when it comes to outings with your littles. We pooled the Motherly team of editors to learn some favorite hacks for organizing diaper bags. Here are our top tips.

1. Divide and conquer with small bags

Here's a tip we heard more than a few times: Use smaller storage bags to organize your stuff. Not only is this helpful for keeping related items together, but it can also help keep things from floating around in the expanse of the larger diaper bag. These bags don't have to be anything particularly fancy: an unused toiletry bag, pencil case or even plastic baggies will work.

2. Have an emergency changing kit

When you're dealing with a diaper blowout situation, it's not the time to go searching for a pack of wipes. Instead, assemble an emergency changing kit ahead of time by bundling a change of baby clothes, a fresh diaper, plenty of wipes and hand sanitizer in a bag you can quickly grab. We're partial to pop-top wipes that don't dry out or get dirty inside the diaper bag.

3. Simplify bottle prep

Organization isn't just being able to find what you need, but also having what you need. For formula-feeding on the go, keep an extra bottle with the formula you need measured out along with water to mix it up. You never know when your outing will take longer than expected—especially with a baby in the mix!

4. Get resealable snacks

When getting out with toddlers and older kids, snacks are the key to success. Still, it isn't fun to constantly dig crumbs out of the bottom of your diaper bag. Our editors love pouches with resealable caps and snacks that come in their own sealable containers. Travel-sized snacks like freeze-dried fruit crisps or meal-ready pouches can get an unfair reputation for being more expensive, but that isn't the case with the budget-friendly Comforts line.

5. Keep a carabiner on your keychain

You'll think a lot about what your child needs for an outing, but you can't forget this must-have: your keys. Add a carabiner to your keychain so you can hook them onto a loop inside your diaper bag. Trust us when we say it's a much better option than dumping out the bag's contents on your front step to find your house key!

6. Bundle your essentials

If your diaper bag doubles as your purse (and we bet it does) you're going to want easy access to your essentials, too. Dedicate a smaller storage bag of your diaper bag to items like your phone, wallet and lip balm. Then, when you're ready to transfer your items to a real purse, you don't have to look for them individually.

7. Keep wipes in an outer compartment

Baby wipes aren't just for diaper changes: They're also great for cleaning up messy faces, wiping off smudges, touching up your makeup and more. Since you'll be reaching for them time and time again, keep a container of sensitive baby wipes in an easily accessible outer compartment of your bag.

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It's science: Why your baby stops crying when you stand up

A fascinating study explains why.

When your baby is crying, it feels nearly instinctual to stand up to rock, sway and soothe them. That's because standing up to calm babies is instinctual—driven by centuries of positive feedback from calmed babies, researchers have found.

"Infants under 6 months of age carried by a walking mother immediately stopped voluntary movement and crying and exhibited a rapid heart rate decrease, compared with holding by a sitting mother," say authors of a 2013 study published in Current Biology.

Even more striking: This coordinated set of actions—the mother standing and the baby calming—is observed in other mammal species, too. Using pharmacologic and genetic interventions with mice, the authors say, "We identified strikingly similar responses in mouse pups as defined by immobility and diminished ultrasonic vocalizations and heart rate."

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