As both technology and companies that value flexibility continue to grow, it’s not a stretch to say many of us will get to know that oft-misunderstood beast—the job that “lets” you work from home—on a pretty intimate basis at some point in our careers.

And misunderstood it is. For those who haven’t personally experienced “telecommuting” for themselves, the sound of it is pretty glamorous (in the I-can-wear-pjs-all-day sort of glamour). Admittedly, there are perks: the aforementioned pjs; no more obnoxious commute; getting to work from the comfort of your couch or bed. But unlike the idealized vision many of us cubicle workers have cooked up, working from home is still working—and sometimes, it’s working harder than you would be at an office.


Here’s a little reality check for anyone who still believes working from home is tantamount to working basically not all:

1. Working from home essentially means working "round the clock"


This is because without a set start and stop to your work day, it’s easy to lose track of time and structure. (10 a.m.? 10 p.m.? What’s the difference!) You’ll likely try to keep “regular” working hours, at least in the beginning, but actually enforcing them for yourself is another matter.

2. People will ask favors of you and expect you to help them now—right now

As previously established, most office workers operate with a bias, conscious or not, toward their at-home peers. No matter how many times you explain otherwise, on some level, people are always going to assume you have all the time in the world—and that you should be using it to help those of us who “really” work. Talk about obnoxious...

3. The perceived luxury of getting to wear pjs during the day, all day, comes with an expiration date

There will be days where you wish so dang bad you had a reason to shower and wear real clothes. No, seriously. That happens.

4. Your human interaction during the week becomes severely limited

In the beginning, you’ll likely be rejoicing the fact you no longer have to endure meaningless chit-chat at the water fountain. But for anyone whose work transpires mainly online, having your main spoken conversation of the day be a phoned-in takeout order is liable to eventually feel pretty weird. Probably, you’ll try taking your work to a nearby coffee shop to shake things up and at least be able to sit near some other human beings. In the end, though, those coffee machines are just way too loud, and the barista's taste in music stinks.

5. And when you do go to company events—no one believes that you actually work with them

This can feel a wee isolating, especially if your in-office coworkers actually enjoy a healthy, collaborative work culture. (Another related thing: “happy hour” is not in your vocabulary.)

6. “What’s a sick day?” you’ll stuffily whisper into the void

When your day primarily consists of working on a laptop from your couch or bed anyway, “taking a sick day” isn’t liable to feel within the realm of reason. It’d feel weird not to work.

7. Distractions will lose their luster

After a day or two of subpar focus with the TV on “in the background,” it’s probably getting shut off, for good. Many of us use Netflix or reading on the couch as a means to decompress after a full day at the office. But if you’re already spending the day on your couch, staying on it to veg in the little bit of time you aren’t working is hardly going to feel relaxing. More likely, you’d develop some pretty raging cabin fever.

8. But that doesn’t mean you can ignore them—especially if you’re a parent who works at home

How does working from home while your kid is also home sick or on a break from school sound? Less than ideal? Yeah, that’s what we thought.

To be fair, there really are many wonderful advantages to working from home, and for a lot of people, it’s an ideal situation. But rest assured—it’s an ideal work situation. Because working from home is definitely, without a doubt, working.

Case closed.

Original story by Liv McConnell for Fairygodboss.

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Motherhood is a practice in learning, growing and loving more than you ever thought possible. Even as a "veteran" mama of four young sons and one newly adopted teenager, Jalyssa Richardson enthusiastically adapts to whatever any given day has in store—a skill she says she's refined through the years.

Here's what just one day in her life looks like:

Jalyssa says she learned to embrace agility throughout her motherhood journey. Here's more from this incredible mama of five boys.

What is the most challenging part of your day as a mom of five?

Time management! I want to meet each of the boys' individual needs—plus show up for myself—but I often feel like someone gets overlooked.

What's the best part of being a mom of five?

The little moments of love. The hugs, the kisses, the cuddles, the smiles... they all serve as little reminders that I am blessed and I'm doing okay.

Are there misconceptions about raising boys?

There are so many misconceptions about raising boys. I think the biggest one is that boys don't have many emotions and they're just so active all the time. My boys display many emotions and they also love to be sweet and cuddly a lot of the time.

What do you think would surprise people the most about being a mom of five?

How much I enjoy it. I never knew I wanted to be a mom until I was pregnant with my first. My desire only grew and the numbers did! I am surprised with every single baby as my capacity to love and nurture grows. It's incredible.

How do you create balance and make time for yourself?

Balance for me looks like intentional planning and scheduling because I never want my boys to feel like they aren't my first priority, but it is extremely difficult. What I try to do is not fit it all into one day. I have work days because motherhood is my first priority. I fit in segments of self-care after the kids' bedtime so I don't grow weary.

What's the biggest lesson you have learned from motherhood?

I have learned that sacrifice is actually beautiful. I was terrified of the selflessness motherhood would require, but I've grown so much through the sacrifice. There is nothing better than living for something bigger than myself.

When did you first feel like a mom? How has your motherhood evolved?

I first felt like a mom when I was pregnant with my first son and I intentionally chose to change my eating habits so my body could be strong and healthy for him. I didn't have to think twice—I just did what I thought would be best for him. That decision being so effortless made me realize I was made for motherhood.

My perspective has changed with each baby as I've realized motherhood doesn't have to be one-size-fits-all. With my first son, I was a by-the-book mama and it was so stressful. With each baby, I have felt more freedom and it has made motherhood so much more beautiful. I have evolved into the mother that they need, I am perfect for these boys.

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