Motherly’s 2025 State of Motherhood Survey reflects something mothers have been whispering to one another for years: Life feels heavy, and many days feel like a marathon without a finish line. Yet there is something powerful threaded throughout the responses from the more than 2,000 mothers who participated. Mothers are finding their voice. They are describing what is not working, naming their needs clearly, and reminding us that they deserve support and connection in order to truly thrive.

This year’s survey gives us a fuller picture of what modern motherhood looks like and what mothers need in order to feel more confident, more supported, and more hopeful. The results are honest, but they also make something beautifully clear: Mothers are not giving up. They are asking for more because they know they deserve more.

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What mothers are saying

Mothers are stretched thin. Nearly half say they feel less financially secure than last year, and 54 percent say childcare is barely or not at all affordable. These pressures pull at their confidence and make daily life harder.

Motherhood feels lonelier than it should. Seventy percent of respondents shared that motherhood is more isolating than they expected. This is painful to hear, but it also validates what so many mothers feel in their hearts: You are not the only one longing for community.

Mothers want their voices heard. Only 9 percent feel that policymakers are listening. While this can feel discouraging, it also highlights a growing collective strength. Mothers are raising their voices together and shaping the conversation about family support in ways that did not exist even a decade ago.

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Why these feelings make sense

The emotions behind these statistics are backed by research. Studies consistently show that a lack of social support increases stress and lowers maternal confidence. A systematic review in the journal BMC Pregnancy and Childbirth notes that both emotional and practical support are essential for mental well-being during the perinatal period. The Policy Center for Maternal Mental Health issued a C minus rating for the United States in 2025, showing that our systems have not caught up to mothers’ needs.

So if you feel overwhelmed or unsure, you are responding appropriately to the pressures you face. Your feelings are not a personal failing. They are a sign of how much responsibility mothers carry and how much support they deserve.

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The hope inside the hard parts

Even in challenging seasons, mothers continue to show incredible adaptability. Many are creating their own systems of support and discovering small practices that help them feel grounded again. Research shows that even modest increases in social connection can significantly reduce stress and loneliness.

Here are a few simple steps that can help mothers move toward thriving, even in small but meaningful ways:

1. Create your own small circle of support

A friend who checks in regularly. A weekly library story time. A neighborhood parent who trades childcare for an hour. Micro-communities are powerful. Studies show that peer support can improve maternal mood, confidence, and daily resilience.

2. Ask for the type of help you need

Whether emotional or practical, support matters. This might look like asking a partner to take the bedtime routine or requesting help with meals. When mothers receive even a little more support, their stress levels drop and their sense of control improves.

3. Use accessible mental health and connection tools

Digital supports, including perinatal mental health apps and hotlines, have been shown to increase engagement and reduce emotional distress for moms who cannot easily access in-person care. Even quick daily check-ins or guided breathing sessions can make a surprising difference.

4. Remember that your voice truly matters

The survey confirms that mothers are speaking up more loudly than ever. Collective advocacy creates momentum. Whether it is sharing your experience with a local representative or adding your name to a petition, your voice contributes to change that will benefit families in the years ahead.

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A new path forward

Yes, many mothers feel they are surviving more than thriving. But inside that truth is an incredible story about courage, clarity, and connection. When thousands of mothers say the same thing at the same time, it becomes impossible to ignore. It becomes a catalyst for change.

The 2025 State of Motherhood Survey is not just a report. It is a reflection of mothers’ resilience and the hope they carry for themselves, their families, and their communities. By listening to these voices and by taking small, compassionate steps toward support, mothers can begin to reclaim the joy and confidence they deserve.

Motherhood is not meant to be lived alone. And this survey is a reminder that mothers everywhere are walking parallel paths. When one mother speaks, another feels seen. That connection is where thriving begins.

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