It’s all going way too fast

As much as I would love to push pause and keep my babies “my babies” forever, there are also things I look forward to. 

It’s all going way too fast

The other day my five year old daughter and I were playing on the floor in the living room with her little sister.

Suddenly, my 3-year-old son came racing through with his superhero cape on, just narrowly missing the baby. Entirely unfazed by the potential collision, she pushed up on all fours a la downward facing dog and held herself in place for a few seconds before dropping to the ground and army crawling after him.

Oh, you’re such a big girl! I squealed. Please stop growing!

But, mama. My oldest protested. Why would you want that? Don’t you want her to be big and strong like me?


As I glanced back and forth between my two girls, a lump formed in my throat.

Of course I want all of my children to grow big and strong. (And kind. And curious. And generous. I want so many things for them…) I just wish it wouldn’t be happening quite so quickly.

I’m pretty convinced that time speeds up when you become a mother.

With each baby we’ve brought home, it’s only gotten faster. They progress from newborn to infant to baby to toddler in just a few years. Then, like my oldest this fall, they are off to Kindergarten and not so little anymore.

And so I find myself at a parenting crossroads. Suddenly all of the “firsts” we celebrated so enthusiastically with our first two children—first night sleeping in their own room, first steps, first words, first day of preschool—now seem bittersweet.

Every time one of my kids reaches a milestone it’s exciting, but it’s also a sobering reminder that this phase of our children’s lives is approaching its end all too soon.

And so I welcome my oldest into our bed when she has the occasional bad dream, because someday soon she won’t come snuggle anymore.

I carry my now three-year-old more than I probably should, because someday soon I won’t be able to lift him so effortlessly.

I keep our baby in our room, not because she isn’t ready to be in her own space, but because I’m not quite ready to let her go.

I try to unplug and live in the moment. Yet somehow my heart aches for time to slow down even when I’m fully present.

As much as I would love to push pause and keep my babies “my babies” forever, there are also things I look forward to.

I’m excited to jump in a car and go without worrying about car seats and booster seats and strollers. Grocery shopping without a temper tantrum in the middle of the store. No more diapers. Or potty training. I welcome the day I no longer have to clean up poop.

I think about their futures, too. I wonder what their interests will be, what things they’ll choose to pursue and how they’ll handle things when life gets hard. Because it will. And I hope I will have done enough to prepare them for those moments. I can’t wait to see who they will become.

I don’t want my babies to stop growing. Not really anyway.

Still, as I watched my baby scootch across the floor on her tummy, the lump in my throat grew larger. At six months, she is in that sweet spot of babyhood. No longer a needy newborn, not yet a fully-mobile. Everything is impressive to her. Every day she accomplishes something new. I felt proud and happy and sad all at once.

Why can’t she be little forever?

I took out my iPhone, snapped a photo and took a video of her siblings playing with her. I hope that when my kids are grown, these images will bring me back to this exact moment.

It’s going by way too fast.

I put the phone away and got back down on the floor with my family and reminded myself that the best is yet to come.

By its very nature, motherhood requires some lifestyle adjustments: Instead of staying up late with friends, you get up early for snuggles with your baby. Instead of spontaneous date nights with your honey, you take afternoon family strolls with your little love. Instead of running out of the house with just your keys and phone, you only leave with a fully loaded diaper bag.

For breastfeeding or pumping mamas, there is an additional layer of consideration around when, how and how much your baby will eat. Thankfully, when it comes to effective solutions for nursing or bottle-feeding your baby, Dr. Brown's puts the considerations of mamas and their babies first with products that help with every step of the process—from comfortably adjusting to nursing your newborn to introducing a bottle to efficiently pumping.

With countless hours spent breastfeeding, pumping and bottle-feeding, the editors at Motherly know the secret to success is having dependable supplies that can help you feed your baby in a way that matches lifestyle.

Here are 9 breastfeeding and pumping products to help you no matter what the day holds.

Customflow™ Double Electric Breast Pump

Dr. Brown's electric pump

For efficient, productive pumping sessions, a double electric breast pump will help you get the job done as quickly as possible. Quiet for nighttime pumping sessions and compact for bringing along to work, this double pump puts you in control with fully adjustable settings.


Hands-Free Pumping Bra

Dr. Brown''s hands free pumping bra

Especially in the early days, feeding your baby can feel like a pretty consuming task. A hands-free pumping bra will help you reclaim some of your precious time while pumping—and all mamas will know just how valuable more time can be!


Manual Breast Pump with SoftShape™ Silicone Shield

Dr. Brown's manual breast pump

If you live a life that sometimes takes you away from electrical outlets (that's most of us!), then you'll absolutely want a manual breast pump in your arsenal. With two pumping modes to promote efficient milk expression and a comfort-fitted shield, a manual pump is simply the most convenient pump to take along and use. Although it may not get as much glory as an electric pump, we really appreciate how quick and easy this manual pump is to use—and how liberating it is not to stress about finding a power supply.


Nipple Shields and Sterilization Case

Dr. Brown's nipple shields

There is a bit of a learning curve to breastfeeding—for both mamas and babies. Thankfully, even if there are some physical challenges (like inverted nipples or a baby's tongue tie) or nursing doesn't click right away, silicone nipple shields can be a huge help. With a convenient carry case that can be sterilized in the microwave, you don't have to worry about germs or bacteria either. 🙌


Silicone One-Piece Breast Pump

Dr. Brown's silicone pump

When you are feeding your baby on one breast, the other can still experience milk letdown—which means it's a golden opportunity to save some additional milk. With a silent, hands-free silicone pump, you can easily collect milk while nursing.


Breast to Bottle Pump & Store Feeding Set

After a lifetime of nursing from the breast, introducing a bottle can be a bit of a strange experience for babies. Dr. Brown's Options+™ and slow flow bottle nipples were designed with this in mind to make the introduction to bottles smooth and pleasant for parents and babies. As a set that seamlessly works together from pumping to storing milk to bottle feeding, you don't have to stress about having everything you need to keep your baby fed and happy either.


Washable Breast Pads

washable breast pads

Mamas' bodies are amazingly made to help breast milk flow when it's in demand—but occasionally also at other times. Especially as your supply is establishing or your breasts are fuller as the length between feeding sessions increase, it's helpful to use washable nursing pads to prevent breast milk from leaking through your bra.


Breast Milk Storage Bags

Dr. Brown's milk storage bags

The essential for mamas who do any pumping, breast milk storage bags allow you to easily and safely seal expressed milk in the refrigerator or freezer. Dr. Brown's™ Breast Milk Storage Bags take it even further with extra thick walls that block out scents from other food items and feature an ultra secure lock to prevent leaking.


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