5 things you might feel after finding out you’re pregnant

1. Not feeling pregnant, like, at all.

5 things you might feel after finding out you’re pregnant

So you peed on the pregnancy stick and it’s telling you, “You’re



Before you start researching all about pregnancy, you might want to take some time to just let that news really sink in.

Here are some things that are totally normal to feel during your first trimester that no one might tell you about.

Not feeling pregnant, like, at all

So your doctor has just confirmed the news and you’re

wondering, “I should feel pregnant right?”

“I mean if there’s a human being

growing inside of me I should feel


Even if you are extremely sick—you still might not “feel” pregnant. It can be a hard thing to believe.


let me be the first to tell you, this is completely normal. Even though your body

is going through great changes it takes a little while for your brain to

register this new normal.

You might wonder every day if everything is going

well, but the truth is that not feeling anything weird is often a great


So relax and let your body do its thing. You will see that belly grow and

feel your baby soon enough.

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Worrying how your life will change

Even if you’ve been waiting to have a baby for a while or you

weren’t expecting this at all, it’s okay to feel a little sad at the realization

that your life will never be the same.

I call it “mourning the pre-mama life.”

You have plenty of time after your little one is born to be grateful for your baby

and the joy he/she will bring. So take this time to get used to the idea of a

new life with a child.

You most likely have 9 months, so enjoy this time, you

will be grateful you did.

Holding your breath until the end of the first trimester

It is very likely that you or someone you know has

miscarried. So feeling nervous or afraid is completely normal, but going on with

life as normally as possible is probably the best thing you can do.

Worrying might come naturally, but it won’t help.

If you feel afraid speak to your doctor, follow through with

their recommendations and carry on. Speak your thoughts with people who love

and support you and fill yourself with positivity.

Feeling so emotional—or not at all

We have all heard of the fragile emotional state of pregnant

women, and though this might immediately happen to you, it is also so normal to

surprisingly not feel emotional at all.

While everyone who knows you’re

pregnant might expect you to break down in tears at any second—it’s okay if you don’t.

There are a lot of new changes happening in your body at the

moment and it’s okay not to understand this new you quite yet.

This is a new stage in

your life and it will take some adjusting.

Falling completely in love with a person you’ve never met

Though it may or may not happen right away, you will soon

begin to fall in love with the little person growing inside of you. You will

begin to dream and wonder what this little baby will look like and what they will

do. One day you will see that going through this pregnancy season was so worth

it, because you never knew you could love anyone you had never met, so much.

A new pregnancy will change you for the better. So just enjoy it and remind yourself, You’ve got this.

Juli is a first time mom to her daughter Mia. She is also a wife, writer, photographer and videographer from Miami. You can follow her on her blog.

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A curated box of the pregnancy products you'll want.

We know just how profound the journey to becoming a mother is, and we want to celebrate and honor you through every step of the way.

That's why we created the Becoming Mama Pregnancy Box—and we are thrilled to share it with you first!

Curated by the founders of Motherly, our resident midwife and our fabulous team of motherhood gurus, it's a swoon-worthy box full of items you will adore.

You'll find some of our favorite products to help you on your journey to becoming a mama. We focused on three key feelings of pregnancy: preparation, wellness and celebration.

Preparation: What do you need to prepare for becoming a mama? We've been in your shoes so we handpicked products that focus on you as you prepare for this chapter.

Wellness: Self-care during your pregnancy (and beyond) is so important—mama, you deserve it. That's what helped up select the most luxurious and beautiful pieces to help you embrace your wellness.

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Guess what, mama? You can order you box now! But only for three days—act fast so you don't miss out!

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The Becoming Mama Pregnancy Box is available for ordering—but only for three days! Order now so you don't miss out. Boxes will ship in just a few weeks. We will send you updates as the ship date gets closer.


Motherly's Becoming Mama Pregnancy Box FAQs

What's in the box?

The Becoming Mama Pregnancy Box is an exclusive set of products designed to help you on your journey to becoming a mama. We handpicked pieces to help you prepare, stay well and celebrate your anticipation. What's in the box is a surprise, and we know you are going to love it!

Psst: But check out a few sneak peeks here!

How much does it cost?

The box costs $125—it's valued at almost $300!

When will the box ship?

The box will ship in 4 to 6 weeks. We will announce the official date when we launch the box.

How do I get it?

Preordering is available right now! But you'll have to act fast—it's only open for 3 days.


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