Hey mama, it’s time to ditch the clothes that no longer fit

What to wear now that I’ve had a baby.

Hey mama, it’s time to ditch the clothes that no longer fit

Once upon a time, I was a woman whose life revolved around what to wear each day.

I mean, not literally, but I took a lot of pride in how I looked.

I wanted my work outfit to say: “Take this woman seriously!” I wanted my date night look to say, “Take her home, husband!” I wanted my casual look to say, “She might be heading to yoga class, (she’s probably not) but dang, she looks so casually chic.”

I put a lot of effort into these “casual chic” outfits.

And then I found myself 9 months pregnant in a Washington, DC summer. I could barely find a circus tent to wrap around my sweaty, swollen, enormously pregnant body. Clothes became a utility—something I needed to function—rather than the ultimate expression of who I was. It felt exasperating to get dressed (I remember tears)—but it also felt freeing to finally accept that the way that I looked didn’t always have to mean so much.

Pregnancy taught me a lot. Among the lessons: To let go of worrying about what other people thought about how I looked.

But dealing with postpartum body image was the hardest part.

After my baby was born, NONE of my pre-pregnancy clothes fit. When I wore maternity clothes, people would ask when my baby was due. (Um, negative 3 months ago, thanks for asking.)

Eventually, I lost 50 pounds of baby weight I had gained with each of my pregnancies—3 times.

But even when the pregnancy weight slowly came off, I found that the woman inside was different, too—

I didn’t want to wear uncomfortable outfits just to impress people.

I didn’t want to keep tiny clothes that might fit “one day.”

I didn’t want to keep bikinis and low rise jeans and other clothing that actually made zero sense for my new momlife. (It’s cool if you want to, but I was just done.)

My lifestyle changed, too—

I started working from home.

I started playing on the floor more.

I started carting babies all over town.

But inside my closet, dressers and drawers—my clothing was haunted me.

So during our most recent move, I decided I had enough. I was done with literally dragging along my previous carefree, kid-free life around in the form of a wardrobe that just didn’t work for my life. It was time to get rid of the clothes I accumulated since college, in a big purge, to embrace the life that I had now.

I was ready to say goodbye to clothes that fit me literally 3 lifetimes ago.

I ditched the dress that I need to lose 30 pounds to wear.

I got rid of the tops that make me feel self-conscious about my maternal belly.

I tossed the pajama pants that dug into my hips.

I gave away outfits that reminded me that I haven’t had an office job in 5 years. (I work from home.)

I ditched the “fun, fearless + free” workout t-shirt I once bought. (These days, the idea of those 3 things makes me laugh until I cry underneath a pile of unfolded laundry.) I am now vaguely fun, full of fear (momlife anxiety, anyone?) and… what is the opposite of free?

I purged and Marie Kondo’d and donated and Poshmarked 75% of the clothes I owned. IT WAS AMAZING. “Does this spark joy?” “Does it fit?” “Will I wear it this year?” If yes → keep. If no → Thank you for your service. Goodbye.

So what did I keep?

I kept the clothes that serve my body + life as it exists now—that make me feel beautiful, motherly and sophisticated.

I kept the yoga pants. ALL OF THEM.

The nursing bra that I can wear to a business meeting.

The investment pieces I feel amazing in: The perfect silk blouse I wore at a conference in Rome. The black dress that actually NEVER does me wrong.

The two pairs of pants that make me feel like an entrepreneur on a mission.

There are dramatically fewer “things” in my wardrobe now—and I love it.

I also gave myself permission to invest in a few, high quality items I adore.

My clothes work for me now.

My clothes do not have my permission to make me feel bad about myself.

I wouldn’t keep negative people in my life around who constantly whispered mean things in my ear. Why was I keeping clothes that were holding me back from embracing my busy, purposeful, full #momlife exactly as it is?

Perhaps my old wardrobe symbolized the freedom I had before kids. The stretch-mark free belly that I used to long for. The excitement of showing up to a vibrant office.

But my new life—full of tiny people, creative work and much more comfortable clothing—well, I like this new life just fine.

Maybe I’ll lose the rest of the baby weight. Maybe I won’t. Maybe I’ll go back to work in an office. Maybe I won’t. Maybe I’ll go clubbing with the girls in Miami—but honestly, it’s probably not going to happen.

Motherhood has transformed my life in a million wonderful ways. And now it’s transformed my wardrobe, too.

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    But it can also feel a bit overwhelming to make sense of all the gear on the market. That's why we suggest mentally dividing your registry into two categories: items you need to prepare for your baby's arrival and items that sure would be nice to have.

    Here at Motherly, our editors have dozens of kids and years of parenting experience among us, so we know our way around the essentials. We also know how mama-friendly the registry-building experience is with Target, especially thanks to their recently upgraded registry and introduction of Year of Benefits. Just by creating your baby registry with Target, you'll snag a kit with $120 in discounts and samples. The savings keep coming: You'll also get two 15% off coupons to buy unpurchased items from your registry for up to a year after your baby's expected arrival. Change your mind about anything? The Year of Benefits allows for returns or exchanges for a full year. And as of August 2020, those who also sign up for Target Circle when creating a baby registry will also get the retailer's Year of Exclusive Deals, which includes ongoing discounts on baby essentials for a full year.

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    Safety 1st OnBoard 35 LT Infant Car Seat

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    Baby Trend Lil Snooze Deluxe II Nursery Center

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    Our best registry advice? Think ahead. It really won't be long before your child is ready for those first bites of solid food, at which point you'll need a high chair. We like one that transitions to a booster seat atop an existing dining room chair.


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    Munchkin Secure Grip Waterproof Diaper Changing Pad 16X31"

    We can confidently predict there will be a lot of diaper changes in your future. Do yourself a favor by registering for two comfortable, wipeable changing pads: one to keep in the nursery and another to stash elsewhere in your house.


    A way to keep an eye on your baby at night

    Infant Optics Video Baby Monitor DXR-8

    Feeling peace of mind while your baby sleeps in another room truly is priceless.That's why we advocate for a quality video monitor that will allow you to keep tabs on your snoozing sweetheart.


    A comfortable carrier to free up your hands

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    A full set of bottles + cleaning supplies

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