40 things every mom learns in her baby’s first year

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Baby’s first year of life is full of exciting changes and growth, which can sometimes be overwhelming for both first-time moms and seasoned ones. At Motherly, we have collectively a gazillion* children so we wanted to share our knowledge with the world, especially to new mamas out there who are wondering if they are doing a good job at this whole raising tiny humans thing (trust me, you are!)
(*A gazillion, approximately. 😆)
Here’s what our team learned in their babies’ first year:
- You need at least one mom friend you can text about literally anything and literally any time of the day or night.
- You will talk A LOT about baby poop and even snap photos of it.
- You will at least have one call with your pediatrician in the middle of the night for what turns out to be just gas.
- You’ll know all the most baby-friendly restaurants in the neighborhood.
- You’ll need to have a canned response to when someone asks you if you are breastfeeding, if you “work or stay home,” and all the questions strangers love to ask moms.
- Self-care isn’t selfish, it’s essential.
- If you’re wondering if it’s poop or chocolate, it’s definitely poop.
- You’ll spend way too much time stressing about little things, we’ve all done it.
- How your baby is born is a tiny bleep in comparison to everything else that comes after.
- You know your baby better than anyone else.
- It is equally important for you to love your child’s pediatrician as it is that your child loves them.
- Baby smiles make any day significantly better.
- It’s okay to take your baby to the pediatrician because YOU are worried about something (even when everyone else says it’s probably fine).
- It’s okay to trust your gut. You’ve got a good gut.
- Don’t rush crawling or walking. That “potted plant phase” where they can sit up unassisted but also stay put is just so convenient.
- There are so many things you can do one-handed.
- The internet can be your friend and your enemy, mom groups can be great and Google searches can be evil.
- Breastfeeding is hard, period.
- Don’t feel guilty about not doing “anything” during your baby’s nap, you need time off too.
- Sometimes, they only want mama.
- Babies turn into amazing people.
- A family dance party is a cure for most problems.
- It gets easier, until it’s hard again, only to get easier and hard again.
- They will eventually stop napping on you (and maybe you’ll miss it.)
- Always have your phone charged, your remote near and an empty bladder before sitting on a couch while holding a baby. You might be stuck there for hours.
- It’s okay to let your partner or a different caregiver do things in their way. It’s not wrong, just different.
- Know the signs of PPD and PPA , they can show up way after birth.
- Babies will sleep through anything, except mom tiptoeing 500 feet away, that will wake them up immediately.
- You’re capable of doing things you used to think were impossible.
- If your baby is crying it’s usually because they’re hungry, tired or wet/poopy. But also, sometimes babies just cry. And when they do that you can just hold them.
- Hard days are temporary.
- Always carry extra clothes for you and baby, blowouts can happen anywhere at any time.
- It’s okay to ask for help.
- You can’t do it all, nor should you.
- It’s totally normal to need a break from your baby, you’re not a bad mom.
- It’s possible to get by on two hours of sleep but it’s not sustainable.
- No one gets it right all the time (not even that “perfect” mom you know)
- They don’t know what they’re doing either. (Even if it seems like they do.)
- Your baby thinks you are perfect.
- You know what you’re doing, you really do.