To our nanny: Thank you for everything you do

Thank you for giving us the peace of mind that he is well taken care of, loved, respected and nurtured every single day.

To our nanny: Thank you for everything you do

I never thought I'd have children. My goal in life was to travel the world and experience things far, far away from home. Then I got pregnant and was far away from home, and quickly realized how lonely motherhood could be.

Growing up, my mom was my only caregiver. After struggling with over a decade of unexplained infertility and a complicated pregnancy, she decided to quit her booming career to become a stay-at-home mom. Sure, sometimes my grandmother took the night shift so my parents could go out to a fancy event, but mostly she did everything solo.

When my son was born on a cold February afternoon, my parents were in a different city. They were freaking out trying to buy plane tickets to make it in time (which they didn't) and that's when it hit me: Being a mom far away from my family is—on top of all the other ways motherhood is hard—a challenge I would have to learn to overcome.


All too quickly my maternity leave was over and it was time to go back to work. The stress of finding childcare in a city that is not yours, in a language that is not your first, in a place where everyone is so busy and disconnected overwhelmed me.

My husband and I decided we wanted to have a nanny because that would give us the flexibility we needed with both of us sometimes working long hours way past bedtime.

And so the interviewing began.

I struggled with the idea of leaving my 6-month-old tiny human with someone I didn't know. Everyone we talked to had stellar references and yet I would find reasons to keep looking. I even had a panic attack thinking we would never find someone and declared that that was it, I was quitting my job, even though I didn't really want to. It was all so overwhelming.

Until we found her.

I knew she was going to be our nanny the second she asked to pick up our son and he smiled at her.

She was gentle and caring, even when she had just met all of us.

She didn't mind the chaos caused by our dogs barking or that our apartment was tiny and cramped.

She immediately felt like family. Like the family we didn't have physically near us.

I thank her every day for the things she does for us.

For cooking delicious meals for our son and helping his taste buds expand to new flavors.

For being a holding hand while he was learning how to walk.

For teaching him Spanish and making sure he knows how to say phrases in both languages—because she knows how important that is for us.

For taking him on all the adventures we can't take him on because we are busy at work all day.

For going to the park and letting him make new friends and interact with children of all ages.

For giving us the peace of mind that he is well taken care of, loved, respected and nurtured every single day.

For reminding me that I need to buy more diapers (oh, they don't magically appear at our doorstep?).

For sending me photos every day, which always have my smiling, shining, little boy in them.

For teaching him respect and setting boundaries, especially now that he is a rebellious toddler.

For teaching me how to be a better mother—after all, she has raised her children and grandchildren successfully so she's an encyclopedia of knowledge compared to me.

And for allowing us to have a date from time to time, even encouraging us to do so when we feel bad for making her stay way past her normal hours.

I sometimes get jealous of my friends who can pick up the phone and ask the grandparents to take care of their children. I'm jealous of childless weekend trips and vacations with families.

Sure, we are missing out on that, but I'm so, so, so thankful for what we do have: a newly adopted Grandmother (I call her our third Grandma jokingly, but also, I'm for real.)

My version of motherhood is not the same as my mom's was or even what my friends have, but it is exactly what my family needs. I wouldn't be able to be the parent I am if it weren't for our nanny. And for that, I will forever be grateful.

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I never wanted to be a mom. It wasn't something I ever thought would happen until I fell madly in love with my husband—who knew very well he wanted children. While he was a natural at entertaining our nephews or our friends' kids, I would awkwardly try to interact with them, not really knowing what to say or do.

Our first pregnancy was a surprise, a much-wanted one but also a unicorn, "first try" kind of pregnancy. As my belly grew bigger, so did my insecurities. How do you even mom when you never saw motherhood in your future? I focused all my uncertainties on coming up with a plan for the delivery of my baby—which proved to be a terrible idea when my dreamed-of unmedicated vaginal birth turned into an emergency C-section. I couldn't even start motherhood the way I wanted, I thought. And that feeling happened again when I couldn't breastfeed and instead had to pump and bottle-feed. And once more, when all the stress from things not going my way turned into debilitating postpartum anxiety that left me not really enjoying my brand new baby.

As my baby grew, slowly so did my confidence that I could do this. When he would tumble to the ground while learning how to walk and only my hugs could calm him, I felt invincible. But on the nights he wouldn't sleep—whether because he was going through a regression, a leap, a teeth eruption or just a full moon—I would break down in tears to my husband telling him that he was a better parent than me.

Then I found out I was pregnant again, and that this time it was twins. I panicked. I really cannot do two babies at the same time. I kept repeating that to myself (and to my poor husband) at every single appointment we had because I was just terrified. He, of course, thought I could absolutely do it, and he got me through a very hard pregnancy.

When the twins were born at full term and just as big as singleton babies, I still felt inadequate, despite the monumental effort I had made to grow these healthy babies and go through a repeat C-section to make sure they were both okay. I still felt my skin crawl when they cried and thought, What if I can't calm them down? I still turned to my husband for diaper changes because I wasn't a good enough mom for twins.

My husband reminded me (and still does) that I am exactly what my babies need. That I am enough. A phrase that has now become my mantra, both in motherhood and beyond, because as my husband likes to say, I'm the queen of selling myself short on everything.

So when my babies start crying, I tell myself that I am enough to calm them down.

When my toddler has a tantrum, I remind myself that I am enough to get through to him.

When I go out with the three kids by myself and start sweating about everything that could go wrong (poop explosions times three), I remind myself that I am enough to handle it all, even with a little humor.

And then one day I found this bracelet. Initially, I thought how cheesy it'd be to wear a reminder like this on my wrist, but I bought it anyway because something about it was calling my name. I'm so glad I did because since day one I haven't stopped wearing it.

Every time I look down, there it is, shining back at me. I am enough.

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When Chrissy Teigen announced her third pregnancy earlier this year we were so happy for her and now our hearts are with her as she is going through a pain that is unimaginable for many, but one that so many other mothers know.

Halfway through a high-risk pregnancy complicated by placenta issues, Teigen announced late Wednesday that she has suffered a pregnancy loss.

Our deepest condolences go out to Chrissy and her husband, John Legend (who has been by her side in the hospital for several days now).

In a social media post, Teigen explained she named this baby Jack.


"We are shocked and in the kind of deep pain you only hear about, the kind of pain we've never felt before. We were never able to stop the bleeding and give our baby the fluids he needed, despite bags and bags of blood transfusions. It just wasn't enough," she wrote.

She continued: "We never decide on our babies' names until the last possible moment after they're born, just before we leave the hospital. But we, for some reason, had started to call this little guy in my belly Jack. So he will always be Jack to us. Jack worked so hard to be a part of our little family, and he will be, forever."

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