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What Post Malone taught me about parenting

The girls lost cell phone reception and could only text. I lost partial hearing in both ears.

What Post Malone taught me about parenting

I didn't know there were radio versions of songs and concert versions of songs. That's my story, and I'm sticking to it. For all you parents who share my ignorance, the radio version is clean. The concert version is not.

I didn't understand this whole concept of "versions of songs" so when my 15-year-old daughter asked to go to the Post Malone concert, I said, "Sure." I'm not his usual demographic, but I do enjoy his music: Better Now, I Fall Apart, Sunflower, Psycho. It's an impressive body of work.

He's also quite the personality—very charismatic and articulate. I would describe him as the worst-looking man I've ever seen and adorable all at the same time. For any parent of a teen who doesn't know what Post Malone looks like, Google him and you'll understand.

I was looking forward to the concert. I love sharing experiences with my daughter. Making memories, I call it. It was a lovely outdoor venue and the weather was perfect. My daughter brought a friend and they wanted to try to get closer. They are responsible girls. Again, I said, "Sure." I was feeling pretty good about my mother-of-the-year chances.

I claimed our home base up on the ridge. I was feeling good about the whole situation, actually.

Everything was going fine until it wasn't.

The opening act was vulgar. I was confused. I had heard this group on the radio many times. Something was not right. That's when I learned about the whole radio version/concert version.

Our evening was rapidly disintegrating.

The crowd got bigger and I lost sight of my child's blonde head. The young people pushed closer to the front. The parents (there were less than 20 of us) got squished towards the back.

The girls lost cell phone reception and could only text. I lost partial hearing in both ears.

One of the parents suggested we say a prayer. I disagreed. I didn't think we needed to bring God into a Twenty One Savage opening act. God would say we got ourselves into the mess, we should get ourselves out. Literally. God would have said, "Grab your children and get out of that pit of sin." He would have been right. If we were staying, waiting on the headliner, it was going to be on us.

I was about to find the girls and head out when Post Malone came on stage. He is even worse looking and more adorable in real life. I decided to stick it out.

My text messages to the girls evolved from "check in with me every 15 minutes" to "try your best not to inhale." Before the night was over, the messages were, "Are you alive?" I was relieved each time to see the bouncing dots and then a simple "yes."

Overall, I enjoyed the show. The opening acts should be ashamed of themselves, and I should be ashamed for sitting through it. But Post Malone brought down the house. It was worth losing my nomination for mother of the year.

It took forever to get out of the parking lot like it always does. A kid was selling concert t-shirts, and I was caught up in the moment. I handed my $20 out the window, and he tossed me a shirt.

Time passed. Back to our routine. One day my daughter came downstairs wearing a shirt with the words "beer bong" on the front. "Where in the world did you get that shirt?" I asked, "Go take it off right now." My child loved pointing out it was the shirt from our Post Malone adventure—the shirt that I bought for her.

The name of the tour was "Beer Bong and Bentleys." Who knew? I took a Sharpie and marked out the words "beer" and "bong." Now, her t-shirt had two versions—just like pop music.

We went from a parking lot version of a t-shirt to a back-home version. That's my story and I'm sticking to it.

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They say you shouldn't make too many major life transitions at once. But when I was becoming a mama for the first time nearly five years ago, my husband and I also moved to a new town where we didn't know a soul, bought our first house and changed jobs.

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Here's one piece of advice I did take: I registered at Target so I could take advantage of the retailer's benefits for registrants, which include a welcome kit valued over $100, a universal registry function and more. Fast-forward a few years and Target has made the registration perks even better for expectant parents: As of August 2020, they've added a Year of Exclusive Deals, which gives users who also sign up for Target Circle a full year of savings after baby is born on all those new mama essentials, from formula to diapers and beyond.

Honestly, even without the significant perks of a free welcome kit with more than $100 in coupons, additional 15% off coupons to complete the registry and a full year of free returns, registering at Target wasn't a hard sell for me: Even though the experience of shopping for baby items was new, shopping with Target felt like returning home to me… and the comfort of that was such a gift.

And of course, Target's registry plays a vital role right now, as expectant parents everywhere are being forced to cancel in-person baby showers and navigate early parenthood without the help of a hands-on village. A registry like this represents a safe way for communities to come through for new parents. If you're anything like me (or any of the other mamas here at Motherly), you certainly have emotional ties and fond memories associated with Target.

What to register for at Target was also an easy talking point as I began to connect with moms in my new community. I will always remember going on a registry-building spree with my next door neighbor, who had young children of her own. As we walked the aisles of Target back in 2015, she suggested items to add… and we laid the foundation for what has since become one of my most cherished friendships.

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In the years since, "community" has taken on a wonderfully complex new meaning for me… and, in these times of social distancing, for the rest of the world. I've come to cherish my newfound friends in our local community alongside those long-time friends who are scattered around the county and my virtual mama friends.

Now, as my friends' families grow, I'm so grateful that I can show them the same love and support I felt during my first pregnancy. I sing the praises of Target's baby registry—especially in light of the pandemic, since I know mamas can do everything from a distance thanks to Target's website and the added benefit of getting trusted reviews and helpful registry checklists.

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For my friend who is a fellow runner, I teamed up with a few others to give the jogging stroller she had on her registry.

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For other friends, I've bundled together complete "sets" with everything they need for bathing or feeding their children.

I know from my own experience that, yes, the registry purchases are so appreciated, but the thoughtfulness and the support they represent means even more. Because although my village may have been distant, the support they showed me was the next best thing to in-person hugs.

Start your own Target Baby Registry here to experience a Year of Benefits including a Year of Exclusive Deals through Target Circle to enjoy for a full year following your baby's arrival, a year of free returns, two 15% off completion coupons and a free welcome kit ($100 value).

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4. Get resealable snacks

When getting out with toddlers and older kids, snacks are the key to success. Still, it isn't fun to constantly dig crumbs out of the bottom of your diaper bag. Our editors love pouches with resealable caps and snacks that come in their own sealable containers. Travel-sized snacks like freeze-dried fruit crisps or meal-ready pouches can get an unfair reputation for being more expensive, but that isn't the case with the budget-friendly Comforts line.

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You'll think a lot about what your child needs for an outing, but you can't forget this must-have: your keys. Add a carabiner to your keychain so you can hook them onto a loop inside your diaper bag. Trust us when we say it's a much better option than dumping out the bag's contents on your front step to find your house key!

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