What #MeToo Has To Do with Motherhood

And 4 other things you need to know about this week.

What #MeToo Has To Do with Motherhood

It seems like every time you go online, the worst of humanity is in your face. Social media is media, and tends to show the extremes of human behavior. But while you can get the worst of things, you also see the best of humanity online too. This week, we rounded up stories of survival, support, and a little bit of wisdom too for Well Rounded’s Weekly Links.

1. Last weekend we saw an incredible display of the power of social media as sexual abuse, harassment and assault survivors posted their stories with the hashtag #MeToo. Originally founded by grassroots activist Tarana Burke in 2007, the #MeToo tag went viral overnight as people of all genders, orientations and backgrounds stepped up to share their stories. Moms across the internet are adding their voices in a powerful way--read one mom's essay here.

2. Most women have been told not to share the news about their pregnancies until after the first trimester, but that frequently means no one is there to support you if a miscarriage happens. To commemorate the difficult experiences being shared and to mark Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, the #IHadAMiscarraige campaign commissioned a line of prints reminding us that women deserve support throughout all stages of their pregnancy, available for free here.

3. The campaign to end mom shaming usually covers hot button issues like feeding styles and sleeping arrangements, but very little is said about shaming single mothers. From implying that they “should’ve picked a better husband” to passing them up for promotions because of imagined child-care issues, single moms are often the subject of gossip, ridicule and unfounded speculation. Read a fantastic essay on single-mom shaming and how to recognize it here.

4. Just in time for cold and flu season, the popular and ingredient-conscious brand Little Remedies has rolled out a new book, A Little More Wisdom. Though short, this book is filled with gorgeous illustrations and tips on how to care for your baby from day one. The book is available as a free download here.

5. Okay, so the love affair that most moms have with Target is no secret, but we’re really impressed with the new expansion to Cat & Jack, the superstore’s signature line. After releasing a selection of sensory-friendly clothing in August, the brand has rolled out an adaptive-friendly assortment made for children living with disabilities. The line has items for boys and girls and includes closet staples like hoodies, puffer jackets, tees, leggings and bodysuits, all with side and back snaps zippers and hidden abdominal access. Most pieces are under $19.99, and are available on starting October 22nd.

10 must-have registry items that will change your life, mama

The baby gear heavy hitters that should be top of your list

Calling all mamas-to-be! It's a fundamental truth of (impending) motherhood that your prepping-for-baby To Do list can feel a mile long, but really the best way to feel organized is to sort out the most important item at the top of your list: your registry. Sure the items you choose to include will end up running the gamut from nice-to-haves to absolutely essential game-changers, but mamas in the know quickly learn one thing: Not all baby gear is created equal.

So while you can and should pepper your registry with adorable inclusions that aren't necessarily can't-live-withouts (go ahead, add 'em!), you should make sure you're ticking the boxes on those pieces of baby gear that can be absolute life savers once you're in full-blown mama mode. From car seats to bouncers and playmats, your play and travel gear will be some of the most obvious important items on your list, but so can unexpected things, like a super comfy baby carrier and a snooze-inducing white noise machine. So to help you sort through the must-have options, we turned to the holy grail of motherhood that is buybuy BABY and handpicked 10 of the very best essential pieces that will change your life, we promise.

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Our Partners

Every week, we stock the Motherly Shop with innovative and fresh products from brands we feel good about. We want to be certain you don't miss anything, so to keep you in the loop, we're providing a cheat sheet.

So, what's new this week?

Earth Mama: Effective, natural herbal care for mamas and babies

Founded and grown in her own garage in 2002, Earth Mama started as an operation of one, creating salves, tinctures, teas and soaps with homegrown herbs. With a deep desire to bring the healing powers of nature that have been relied on for thousands of years to as many mamas as possible, Melinda Olson's formulas quickly grew into Earth Mama Organics. Since then, the brand has remained committed to manufacturing clean, safe and effective herbal solutions for the entire journey of motherhood, including pregnancy, breastfeeding and baby care, and even the loss of a baby.

Bravado Designs: Soothing sounds for a good night's sleep

With 28 years of serving pregnant and postpartum mamas under their belt, Bravado Designs is a true authority on the needs of changing bodies. It's true that we have them to thank for rescuing us from the uncomfortable and frumpy designs our own moms had to live with. Launched in Canada by two young mamas, they designed the first prototypes with extra leopard print fabric certain that a better bra was possible. Throughout the years they've maintained their commitment to ethical manufacturing while creating long-lasting products that truly work.

The Sill: Instagram-ready potted plants

We've long admired this female-founded brand and the brilliant mind behind it, Eliza Blank. (She even joined Motherly co-founder Liz Tenety on and episode of The Motherly Podcast!) The mission behind the business was simple: To make the process of bringing plants into your home as easy as possible, and as wonderful as the plant themselves. With their in-house, exclusively designed minimalist planters, the end result makes plant parenthood just a few clicks away.

Not sure where to start? Here's what we're adding to our cart:

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The 6 biggest lies I believed before having kids

Just about all of us had set assumptions about raising kids before we became parents ourselves.

Just about all of us had set assumptions about raising kids before we became parents ourselves. Some of these ideas might have been based on our own ideas of how we would absolutely do things differently than everyone else. Others, we believed what everyone else told us would happen would apply to our littles, too. But, that's not always the case, mama.

Below are six of the biggest lies I believed before having kids—and the reality of what actually happened for me.

1. Put your baby down drowsy, but awake

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