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“Join a mom group!,” they said. “It will keep you sane!,” they said. Forget about the unsolicited delivery horror stories and the constant inquiry into the kind of birth you’ll have. Once you have a baby, “joining a mom group” becomes the number-one piece of mom advice you get. But putting yourself out there can be intimidating, and finding a mom tribe can be difficult for every first-time mom. Then add in the fact that you work 40+ hours a week (on top of mommying), and it becomes a pretty overwhelming feat.

It was certainly a big challenge for me. I didn’t have any mom friends and couldn’t attend most of the mommy-and-me yoga classes and park playdates happening around me. I was stuck behind my desk, at work. Eventually, I was so fed up with my feelings of isolation that I went on Meetup.com. I originally went on there to try and find this elusive mom group everyone was talking about, but ended up creating a group for “Working Moms of Los Angeles,” fully expecting to cancel my subscription the following month. Fast forward to 6 months later, and we have over 100 members who meet on a monthly basis.

The moms who joined showed so much enthusiasm to finally be part of a group. They shared my struggle to make mom friends and told me their work didn’t allow them to attend any of the daytime activities that were such a big part of the bonding experience among mothers. So if, like us, you are a working mom and have had a hard time building relationships with other moms, I’d like to share my tips to help you find the support you need after having a baby.

Here are 4 tips to build your mommy tribe when you are a working mom.

1. Don’t be a flake.

I have yet to plan an event I didn’t have the urge to bail on. When I put it on the calendar, it seems like a great idea. But life and responsibilities get the best of me every, single, time. I urge you to do what you need to do to make attending possible, even if you are “not in the mood” when the day arrives. It is easy to hide behind the excuse that you are “too busy” to make friends. I leave every meetup feeling loved, positive, inspired and energized. You will too.

2. Band together with moms you work with.

As working moms, we often feel like we need to suppress that side of our lives in the workplace in order to appear more “dedicated” to our job. I am here to tell you, this idea is total nonsense. We need to own the reality that we are awesome employees AND awesome moms, if we want others to do so too. Talk with your HR representative about starting a committee of mothers at your workplace. Come prepared with a well thought-out objective for your committee and how you will achieve it. For example, your objective could be to promote bonding and build morale among the mothers at your office. If a committee sounds like too much of an undertaking right now, invite a mom you work with but don’t know very well to coffee this week.

3. Start your own group.

I promise you, you are not the only working mom in your area who wishes there were a group that fits her schedule -- even if you do feel like you are alone on an island most of the time. Meetup.com is a great place to do this. Create the group you wish existed, and like-minded mamas will come.

4. Keep it virtual to start

If meeting strangers in person is not your jam, take baby steps and connect with other moms online. A quick way to do this is by joining a Facebook mom group in your area. You can search by city or neighborhood. But if you’d rather have a group that focuses on your parenting style of choice, you can search by that too! (If your parenting style of choice is to give them lollipops to keep them quiet and yourself red wine most nights to keep it together, I will not judge you -- I will join you). Join the group of your choice, get engaged in the conversations, add your fave moms as “friends.” You may just work up the trust overtime to become offline friends too.

Danielle lives in Santa Monica California with her husband and daughter. She manages a business development team for a prominent tech company in Silicon Beach and works diligently to grow her own small business, Olivia + Ocean, a boutique child swimwear line that gives back.

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Baby stuff comes in such cute prints these days. Gone are the days when everything was pink and blue and covered in ducks or teddy bears. Today's baby gear features stylish prints that appeal to mom.

That's why it's totally understandable how a mama could mistake a car seat cover for a cute midi skirt. It happened to Lori Farrell, and when she shared her mishap on Facebook she went viral before she was even home from work. Fellow moms can totally see the humor in Farrell's mishap, and thankfully, so can she.

As for how a car seat cover could be mistaken for a skirt—it's pretty simple, Farrell tells Motherly.

"A friend of mine had given me a huge lot of baby stuff, from clothes to baby carriers to a rocker and blankets and when I pulled it out I was not sure what it was," she explains. "I debated it but washed it anyway then decided because of the way it pulled on the side it must be a maternity skirt."

Farrell still wasn't 100% sure if she was right by the time she headed out the door to work, but she rocked the ambiguous attire anyway.

"When I got to work I googled the brand and realized not only do they not sell clothing but it was a car seat cover."

The brand, Itzy Ritzy, finds the whole thing pretty funny too, sharing Farell's viral moment to its official Instagram.

It may be a car seat cover, but that print looks really good on this mama.

And if you want to copy Farell's style, the Itzy Ritzy 4-in-1 Nursing Cover, Car Seat Cover, Shopping Cart Cover and Infinity Scarf (and skirt!) is available on Amazon for $24.94.

Motherly is your daily #momlife manual; we are here to help you easily find the best, most beautiful products for your life that actually work. We share what we love—and we may receive a commission if you choose to buy.You've got this.

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Daycare for infants is expensive across the country, and California has one of the worst states for parents seeking care for a baby. Putting an infant in daycare in California costs $2,914 more than in-state tuition for four years of college, according to the Economic Policy Institute.

Paying north of $1,000 for daycare each month is an incredible burden, especially on single-parent families. The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services defines affordable childcare as costing no more than 10% of a family's income—by that definition, less than 29% of families in California can afford infant care. Some single parents spend half their income on day care. It is an incredible burden on working parents.

But that burden may soon get lighter. CBS Sacramento reports California may put between $25 and $35 million into child care programs to make day care more affordable for parents with kids under 3 years old.

Assembly Bill 452, introduced this week, could see $10 million dollars funneled into Early Head Start (which currently gets no money from the state but does get federal funding) and tens of millions more would be spent on childcare for kids under three.

The bill seeks to rectify a broken childcare system. Right now, only about 14% of eligible infants and toddlers are enrolled in subsidized programs in California, and in 2017, only 7% of eligible children younger than three years of age accessed Early Head Start.

An influx of between $25 to $35 million dollars could see more spaces open up for kids under three, as Bill 452, if passed, would see the creation of "grants to develop childcare facilities that serve children from birth to three years of age."

This piece of proposed legislation comes weeks after California's governor announced an ambitious plan for paid parental leave, and as another bill, AB 123, seeks to strengthen the state's pre-kindergarten program.

Right now, it is difficult for some working parents to make a life in California, but by investing in families, the state's lawmakers could change that and change California's future for the better.

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When a mama gets married, in most cases she wants her children to be part of her big day. Photographers are used to hearing bride-to-be moms request lots of pictures of their big day, but when wedding photographer Laura Schaefer of Fire and Gold Photography heard her client Dalton Mort planned to wear her 2-year-old daughter Ellora instead of a veil, she was thrilled.

A fellow mama who understands the benefits of baby-wearing, Schaefer was keen to capture the photos Mort requested. "When I asked Dalton about what some of her 'must get' shots would be for her wedding, she specifically asked for ones of her wearing Ellie, kneeling and praying in the church before the tabernacle," Schaefer tells Motherly.

She got those shots and so many more, and now Mort's toddler-wearing wedding day pics are going viral.

"Dalton wore Ellie down the aisle and nursed her to sleep during the readings," Schaefer wrote on her blog, explaining that Ellie then slept through the whole wedding mass.

"As a fellow mother of an active toddler, this is a HUGE win! Dalton told me after that she was SO grateful that Ellie slept the whole time because she was able to focus and really pray through the Mass," Schaefer explains.

Dalton was able to concentrate on her wedding day because she made her baby girl a part of it (and that obviously tired Ellie right out).

Ellie was part of the commitment and family Dalton if forging with her husband, Jimmy Joe. "There is no better behaved toddler than a sleeping toddler, and she was still involved, even though I ended up unwrapping her to nurse her. I held her in my arms while my husband and I said our vows. It was really special for us," Dalton told POPSUGAR.

This is a wedding trend we are totally here for!

Congrats to Dalton and Jimmy Joe (and to Ellie)! 🎉

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The internet is freaking out about how Peppa Pig is changing the way toddlers speak, but parents don't need to be too worried.

As Romper first reported, plenty of American parents have noticed that preschoolers are picking up a bit of a British accent thanks to Peppa. Romper's Janet Manley calls it "the Peppa effect," noting that her daughter started calling her "Mummy" after an in-flight Peppa marathon.

Plenty of other parents report sharing Manley's experience, but the British accent is not likely to stick, experts say.

Toronto-based speech and language pathologist Melissa James says this isn't a new thing—kids have always been testing out the accents they hear on TV and in the real world, long before Peppa oinked her way into our Netflix queues.

"Kids have this amazing ability to pick up language," James told Global News. "Their brains are ripe for the learning of language and it's a special window of opportunity that adults don't possess."

Global News reports that back in the day there were concerns about Dora The Explorer potentially teaching kids Spanish words before the kids had learned the English counterparts, and over in the U.K., parents have noticed British babies picking up American accents from TV, too.

But it's not a bad thing, James explains. When an American adult hears "Mummy" their brain translates it to "Mommy," but little kids don't yet make as concrete a connection. "When a child, two, three or four, is watching a show with a British accent and hears [words] for the first time, they are mapping out the speech and sound for that word in the British way."

So if your baby is oinking at you, calling you "Mummy" or testing out a new pronunciation of "toh-mah-toe," know that this is totally natural, and they're not going to end up with a life-long British pig accent.

As Dr, Susannah Levi, associate professor of communicative sciences and disorders at New York University, tells The Guardian, "it's really unlikely that they'd be acquiring an entire second dialect from just watching a TV show."

It sure is cute though.

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