Dear husband, I don’t thank you enough for all that you do

When I put a pillow over my head and try to pretend it’s your turn to get up, I should stop and thank you for all the (many!) times you’ve comforted her at night.

Dear husband, I don’t thank you enough for all that you do

Dear husband,

Back in our Dual Income, No Kids days, I couldn't imagine what kind of father you would be. I had barely seen you interact with children. In those fleeting moments with my nieces you seemed awkward, aloof, cracking nerdy jokes they were too young to understand.

I wondered if you really liked babies, let alone if you were ready to make one.

You had told me early on, just a few weeks after we met, that you wanted children. You said, "Lots of children, in fact, because becoming a dad one day was "a great purpose" in life.

I was taken aback, told you that I felt too old to hatch a brood. Can we start with one and play it by ear? I wondered if you really knew how much a child would change your world.


Later, we found ourselves pregnant at (almost) the first try. I was curious and excited to see you in your dad shoes, pictured you with our tiny someone cradled in the crook of your arm.

But I couldn’t predict if you would like being a dad. Would it be a struggle to bond? Would you know what games to play? As it was, we didn’t get the chance to find out.

When our baby dream crumbled, and me along with it, you were a rock. Stoic, logical, focused on the next attempt, while I cried hot tears and kept asking why.

I wondered if, to you, a child was just a concept, vivid in your mind but not in your heart?

Then, at last, came our rainbow baby, a perfect little girl, with a button nose and almond eyes and palms as soft as marshmallow.

In those first moments holding her, squalling and blanketed, you fell head-over-heels. A daddy was born, as easy and natural as her first breath, and you became more fully you. I should never have doubted.

I don't thank you enough for being the father that you are.

The one who changed every hospital diaper and perfected the art of swaddling while I clung to sleep.

The one who knows a single lullaby and is brave enough to sing it over and over.

The one who paces the floor, rocking, and dancing, massaging and shushing, helping ease those colic pains into the wee small hours.

Our daughter's favorite mountain to climb.

Car-seat-swinger extraordinaire.

The best running mate a tired mama could ask for.

Fatherhood fits you like a glove, and no one knows it better than our daughter does. Her face lights up when you come home from work. It wasn’t my tickles that first made her giggle, but yours. It’s your hair that is the most fun to pull, you who makes bath time the highlight of the day.

I don't thank you enough for all that you do.

When I nag you that no, her leggings go on OVER her onesie, I should stop and thank you for dressing our baby girl.

When I complain that there’s soapy water all over the floor, I should stop and thank you for bathing her.

When I berate you for a wonky diaper or for too much butt paste, I should stop and thank you for changing her.

When I shout after you to "SLOW DOWN around the corners!" I should stop and thank you for taking her out for a walk.

When I roll my eyes at your age inappropriate History of Transportation book, I should stop and thank you for reading to her.

When I put a pillow over my head and try to pretend it's your turn to get up, I should stop and thank you for all the (many!) times you've comforted her at night.

When I tut that your knees aren't big enough for both a baby and a laptop, I should stop and thank you for spending the first hour of your work day watching our daughter while I slept in.

Most of all, I should thank you that you have made her your greatest priority.

I can't wait to see how you grow, together.


Your wife

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    These challenges from Nike PLAYlist are exactly what my child needs to stay active

    Plus a fall family bucket list to keep everyone moving all season long.

    While it's hard to name anything that the pandemic hasn't affected, one thing that is constantly on my mind is how to keep my family active despite spending more time indoors. Normally, this time of year would be spent at dance and gymnastics lessons, meeting up with friends for games and field trips, and long afternoon playdates where we can all let off a little steam. Instead, we find ourselves inside more often than ever before—and facing down a long winter of a lot more of the same.

    I started to search for an outlet that would get my girls moving safely while we social distance, but at first I didn't find a lot of solutions. Online videos either weren't terribly engaging for my active kids, or the messaging wasn't as positive around the power of movement as I would like. Then I found the Nike PLAYlist.

    I always knew that Nike could get me moving, but I was so impressed to discover this simple resource for parents. PLAYlist is an episodic sports show on YouTube that's made for kids and designed to teach them the power of expressing themselves through movement. The enthusiastic kid hosts immediately captured my daughter's attention, and I love how the physical activity is organically incorporated in fun activities without ever being specifically called out as anything other than play. For example, this segment where the kids turn yoga into a game of Paper Scissors Rock? Totally genius. The challenges from #TheReplays even get my husband and me moving more when our daughter turns it into a friendly family competition. (Plus, I love the play-inspired sportswear made just for kids!)

    My daughter loves the simple Shake Ups at the beginning of the episode and is usually hopping off the couch to jump, dance and play within seconds. One of her favorites is this Sock Flinger Shake Up activity from the Nike PLAYlist that's easy for me to get in on too. Even after we've put away the tablet, the show inspires her to create her own challenges throughout the day.

    The best part? The episodes are all under 5 minutes, so they're easy to sprinkle throughout the day whenever we need to work out some wiggles (without adding a lot of screen time to our schedule).

    Whether you're looking for simple alternatives to P.E. and sports or simply need fun ways to help your child burn off energy after a day of socially distanced school, Nike's PLAYlist is a fun, kid-friendly way to get everyone moving.

    Need more movement inspiration for fall? Here are 5 ways my family is getting up and getting active this season:

    1. Go apple picking.

    Truly, it doesn't really feel like fall until we've picked our first apple. (Or had our first bite of apple cider donut!) Need to burn off that extra cinnamon-sugar energy? Declare a quick relay race up the orchard aisle—winner gets first to pick of apples at home.

    To wear: These Printed Training Tights are perfect for when even a casual walk turns into a race (and they help my daughter scurry up a branch for the big apples).

    2. Visit a pumpkin patch.

    We love to pick up a few locally grown pumpkins to decorate or cook with each year. Challenge your child to a "strongman" contest and see who can lift the heaviest pumpkin while you're there.

    To wear: Suit up your little one in comfort with this Baby Full Zip Coverall so you're ready for whatever adventures the day brings.

    3. Have a nature scavenger hunt.

    Scavenger hunts are one of my favorite ways to keep my daughter preoccupied all year long. We love to get outside and search for acorns, leaves and pinecones as part of our homeschool, but it's also just a great way to get her exercising those gross motor skills whenever the wiggles start to build up.

    To wear: It's not truly fall until you break out a hoodie. This cozy Therma Elite Kids Hoodie features a mesh overlay to release heat while your child plays.

    4. Have a touch-football game.

    Tip for parents with very little kids: It doesn't have to last as long as a real football game. 😂 In fact, staging our own mini-games is one of our favorite ways to get everyone up and moving in between quarters during Sunday football, and I promise we all sleep better that night.

    To wear: From impromptu games of tag to running through our favorite trails, these kids' Nike Air Zoom Speed running shoes are made to cover ground all season long.

    5. Create an indoor obstacle course.

    Pretending the floor is lava was just the beginning. See how elaborate your personal course can get, from jumping on the couch to rolling under the coffee table to hopping down the hallway on one foot.

    To wear: These ready-for-any-activity Dri-FIT Tempo Shorts are perfect for crawling, hopping and racing—and cuddling up when it's time to rest.

    This article was sponsored by Nike. Thank you for supporting the brands that supporting Motherly and mamas.

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