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5 surprising birth stories from 'Bachelor' contestants

You can't write a better Bachelor ending than that!

5 surprising birth stories from 'Bachelor' contestants

After a combined 47 seasons of the not-so-guilty pleasure reality show we were bound to see bachelors and bachelorettes go from paradise to parenthood. More and more Bachelor alumni are not only staying together, but they're making babies and creating the next generation of Bachelor Nation!

Here are five of our favorite past contestants and their intense and interesting birth stories:

1. Jade + Tanner

Jade Roper, (of Chris Soules' season) did not take home the final rose, getting eliminated in week eight. She eventually found love on the 2nd season of the crazy summer spinoff Bachelor in Paradise with Tanner Tolbert (of Kaitlyn's season). They got married on TV the following summer and became first-time parents to baby girl Emerson in August 2017. This road to happiness, however, wasn't as easy as it looked on television.

Jade and Tanner recently revealed on Instagram via a YouTube video that she got pregnant during the filming of Bachelor in Paradise, having conceived during an overnight fantasy suite date with Tanner. Jade then shared, "I had a miscarriage. These words have burned inside me for over three years." She added "my journey with my grief has been a rollercoaster, and so I've never even known really where to start with telling others." Grateful for the supportive comments received on social media, Jade said "they've made me feel very loved and have made me feel less alone."

When Emerson (who has her own Instagram (@emmy_tobert) arrived in 2017 she came into the world early, but not quite as quickly as her little brother, who was (accidentally) born in the Tolbet's home this week.

"I accidentally gave birth at home last night, in our master closet," Jade wrote on Instagram. "I've been still processing the shock of this all, as this was not all at what I had planned, but I am so so thankful for each person who helped bring our son into the world safely. I'll share my whole birth story soon, but long story short, my waters broke and 75 minutes later I gave birth to our healthy baby boy while clutching a bench in our closet."

We are so happy that everyone is safe and sound, but the Tolbert's stories prove that parenthood can be just as dramatic as reality TV!

2. Shayne + Nik

Eighties TV heartthrob Lorenzo Lamas' daughter, Shayne Lamas, won season 12 of The Bachelor when British bachelor Matt Grant proposed. The two tried to make it work but split less than a year later. Shayne then met and married Internet personality Nik Richie in 2010 and the couple welcomed daughter Press Dahl Lamas-Richie in 2011.

Following a near-fatal second pregnancy in 2014, it was Shayne's stepmother Shawna Craig who stepped in to be their surrogate.

In 2015, Nik and Shayne welcomed son Lyon Lamas-Richie to the world. Shayne told reporters at the time, "Shawna's not just my stepmother. She's like a soul sister."

3. Carly + Evan

Fan favorites Carly Waddell (of Chris Soules' season) met Evan Bass (of JoJo Fletcher's season) on season 3 of Bachelor in Paradise. When we say these two didn't initially hit it off, we are not exaggerating.

It took Evan faking his own medical emergency during Bachelor in Paradise to get Carly to hop into the ambulance, then eventually straight into Evan's heart.

Since their season wrapped, these two cuties fell head over heels and got married back on the same beach where they met. Carly became a stepmom to Evan's three sons Nathan, Liam, and Ensley, then they had a baby girl Isabella and are now expecting baby number two in November! This blended family truly cannot get any cuter, please keep having babies!

4. Lauren + Arie

Can The Bachelor be a villain? Well, some say "if the rose fits"!

Bachelor Nation watched as race car driver Arie Luyendyk Jr. (of Emily Maynard's season) proposed to Becca Kufrin then publicly dumped poor Becca, then proceeded to propose to runner-up Lauren Burnham during the After The Final Rose episode. But I digress, we are here to talk babies. And yes, Arie and Lauren welcomed a baby girl in May and seem very much in love.

A baby girl named Alessi Ren. Arie recently posted to Instagram a captioned photo of some snuggling saying "Fatherhood is the best. I think my heart just grew two sizes".

The couple is now coming under social fire however as Lauren posted a snap to Instagram June 5 of a lunch date with a friend, leaving one week old Alessi Ren home with grandma. We're still looking for the problem with that and according to People magazine, so is Arie:

"To all the negative comments regarding leaving her with grandma for a 45min lunch, cut her some slack! It was my idea because she has been working so hard to keep up and quite frankly I commend her for 1. Being an incredible mom and getting the breast feeding down enough to make sure she had enough while she was at lunch. (Moms know that breastfeeding can be difficult) and 2. So much of being a good parent is making sure you take care of yourself. She wanted a healthy meal with her sister who is in town. I get so frustrated at the comments because she is such a kind soul and takes these comments to heart. Be kind people!"

Papa is not here for this! Good job Dad.

5. Bekah with a K + Grayston

Bekah Martinez (of Arie's season) was the outspoken contestant with the cutest pixie cut and opinions for days. Fans fell for her honest (sometimes even brash) nature as we watched Bekah defend her young age throughout the whole season. Thirty-six-year-old Bachelor Arie fell hard, but then quickly backed away when he learned Bekah was only 22.

While Bekah didn't get the final rose, she was cast on Bachelor in Paradise but plans abruptly changed when she announced she was expecting her first child with climbing gym owner and new boyfriend Grayston Leonard. In a 2018 Bekah reflected on the moment they found out they were expecting after just a few months of dating. "I was in disbelief and thought, is this really happening?". She then stated "I immediately called Grayston and then went across the street to the Dollar Tree and bought two more pregnancy tests. They of course, were both positive."

Fast forward to February 2019, Bekah and Grayston welcomed 7 lb 10 oz Ruth Ray De La Luz into the world via water birth in Los Angeles. A water birth that was heavily documented and shared via Bekah's Instagram. On June 21, the 8-minute YouTube video of the unmedicated water birth was posted and is garnering quite a bit of media attention.

Bekah makes no apologies for sharing this powerful moment, sharing to Instagram that "Ruth's birth is officially up on YouTube, linked in bio."

Wow. You can't write a better Bachelor ending than that!

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Tips parents need to know about poor air quality and caring for kids with asthma

There are steps parents can take to keep their children as healthy as possible.

When wildfires struck the West Coast in September 2020, there was a lot for parents to worry about. For parents of children with asthma, though, the danger could be even greater. "There are more than 400 toxins that are present in wildfire smoke. That can activate the immune system in ways that aren't helpful by both causing an inflammatory response and distracting the immune system from fighting infection," says Amy Oro, MD, a pediatrician at Stanford Children's Health. "When smoke enters into the lungs, it causes irritation and muscle spasms of the smooth muscle that is around the small breathing tubes in the lungs. This can lead to difficulty with breathing and wheezing. It's really difficult on the lungs."

With the added concern of COVID-19 and the effect it can have on breathing, many parents feel unsure about how to keep their children protected. The good news is that there are steps parents can take to keep their children as healthy as possible.

Here are tips parents need to know about how to deal with poor air quality when your child has asthma.

Minimize smoke exposure.

Especially when the air quality index reaches dangerous levels, it's best to stay indoors as much as possible. You can find out your area's AQI at AirNow.gov. An under 50 rating is the safest, but between 100-150 is considered unhealthy for sensitive groups, such as children with asthma. "If you're being told to stay indoors, listen. If you can, keep the windows and doors closed," Oro says.

Do your best to filter the air.

According to Oro, a HEPA filter is your best bet to effectively clean pollutants from the air. Many homes are equipped with a built-in HEPA filter in their air conditioning systems, but you can also get a canister filter. Oro says her family (her husband and children all suffer from asthma) also made use of a hack from the New York Times and built their own filter by duct taping a HEPA furnace filter to the front of a box fan. "It was pretty disgusting what we accumulated in the first 20 hours in our fan," she says.

Avoid letting your child play outside or overly exert themselves in open air.

"Unfortunately, cloth masks don't do very much [to protect you from the smoke pollution]," Oro says. "You really need an N95 mask, and most of those have been allocated toward essential workers." To keep at-risk children safer, Oro recommends avoiding brisk exercise outdoors. Instead, set up an indoor obstacle course or challenge your family to jumping jacks periodically to keep everyone moving safely.

Know the difference between smoke exposure and COVID-19.

"COVID-19 can have a lot of the same symptoms—dry cough, sore throat, shortness of breath and chest pain could overlap. But what COVID and other viruses generally cause are fever, chills, vomiting, diarrhea and body aches. Those would tell you it's not just smoke exposure," Oro says. When a child has been exposed to smoke, they often complain of a "scrape" in their throat, burning eyes, cough, shortness of breath, chest pain or wheezing. If the child has asthma, parents should watch for a flare of symptoms, such as coughing, wheezing or a tight sensation in their chest.

Unfortunately, not much is known about long-term exposure to wildfire smoke on a healthy or compromised immune system, but elevated levels of air pollution have been associated with increased COVID-19 rates. That's because whenever there's an issue with your immune system, it distracts your immune system from fighting infections and you have a harder time fighting off viruses. Limiting your exposure to wildfire smoke is your best bet to keep immune systems strong.

Have a plan in place if you think your child is suffering from smoke exposure.

Whatever type of medication your child takes for asthma, make sure you have it on-hand and that your child is keeping up with regular doses. Contact your child's pediatrician, especially if your area has a hazardous air quality—they may want to adjust your child's medication schedule or dosage to prevent an attack. Oro also recommends that, if your child has asthma, it might be helpful to have a stethoscope or even a pulse oximeter at home to help diagnose issues with your pediatrician through telehealth.

Most importantly, don't panic.

In some cases, social distancing and distance learning due to COVID may be helping to keep sensitive groups like children with asthma safer. Oro says wildfires in past years have generally resulted in more ER visits for children, but the most recent fires haven't seen the same results. "A lot of what we've seen is that the smoke really adversely affects adults, especially older adults over 65," Oro says. "Children tend to be really resilient."

This article was sponsored by Stanford Children's Health. Thank you for supporting the brands that support Motherly and mamas.

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They transition seamlessly for indoor play.

With fall in full swing, most parents are fresh out of boxes to check on their "Fun Concierge" hit list. It's also the point of diminishing returns on investing in outside-only toys. So with that in mind, we've rounded up some of our favorite toys that are not only built to last but will easily make the transition from outdoor to indoor play. Even better, they're Montessori-friendly and largely open-ended so your kids can get a ton of use out of them.

From sunny backyard afternoons to rainy mornings stuck inside, these toys are sure to keep little ones engaged and entertained.

Wooden doll stroller

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Take their charges on a stroll around the block with this classic doll stroller. With the same versatility they're used to in their own ride, this heirloom quality carriage allows their doll or stuffy to face them or face the world.

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Detective set

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This set has everything your little detective needs to solve whatever mystery they might encounter: an eye glasses, walkie-talkie, camera, a red lens, a periscope and a bag. Neighborhood watch? Watch out.

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Sand play set

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Whether you're hitting the beach or the backyard sandbox, this adorable wooden sand set is ready for action. Each scoop has an embossed pattern that's perfect for sand stamping. They're also totally suitable for water play in the wild or the bathtub.

$30

Water play set

Plan Toys water play set

Filled with sand or water, this tabletop sized activity set keeps little ones busy, quiet and happy. (A mama's ideal trifecta 😉). It's big enough to satisfy their play needs but not so big it's going to flood your floors if you bring the fun inside on a rainy day.

$100

Mini golf set

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Fore! This mini golf set is lawn and living room ready. Set up a backyard competition or incorporate into homeschooling brain breaks that shift focus and build concentration.

$40

Vintage scooter balance bike

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Pedals are so 2010. Balance bikes are the way to go for learning to ride a bike while skipping the training wheels stage altogether. This impossibly cool retro scooter-style is built to cruise the neighborhood or open indoor space as they're learning.

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Wooden rocking pegasus

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Your little will be ready to take flight on this fun pegasus. It gently rocks back and forth, but doesn't skimp on safety—its winged saddle, footrests and backrest ensure kids won't fall off whether they're rocking inside or outside.

$100

Croquet set

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The cutest croquet set we've ever seen! With adorable animal face wooden balls and a canvas bag for easy clean up, it's also crafted to stick around awhile. Round after round, it's great for teaching kiddos math and problem-solving skills as well.

$45

Wooden digital camera

fathers factory wooden digital camera

Kids get the chance to assemble the camera on their own then can adventure anywhere to capture the best moments. With two detachable magnetic lenses, four built-in filters and video recorder, your little photographer can tap into their creativity from summertime to the holidays.

$179

Wooden bulldozer toy

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Whether they're digging up sand in the backyad or picking up toys inside, kids can get as creative as they want picking up and moving things around. Even better? Its wooden structure means it's not an eye sore to look at wherever your digger drops it.

$100

Pull-along hippo

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There's just something so fun about a classic pull-along toy and we love that they seamlessly transition between indoor and outdoor play. Crafted from solid cherry and beechwood, it's tough enough to endure outdoor spaces your toddler takes it on.

$33

Baby forest fox ride-on

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Toddlers will love zooming around on this fox ride-on, and it's a great transition toy into traditional balance bikes. If you take it for a driveway adventure, simply use a damp cloth to wipe down the wheels before bringing back inside.

$88

Balance board

Plan Toys balance board

Balance boards are a fabulous way to get the wiggles out. This one comes with a rope attachment, making it suitable for even the youngest wigglers. From practicing their balance and building core strength to working on skills that translate to skateboarding and snowboarding, it's a year-round physical activity that's easy to bring inside and use between Zoom classes, too!

$75

Meadow ring toss game

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Besides offering a fantastic opportunity to hone focus, coordination, determination and taking turns, lawn games are just plain fun. Set them up close together for the littles and spread them out when Mom and Dad get in on the action. With their low profile and rope rings, they're great for indoors as well.

$30

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This is the decade that saw the face of first-time motherhood change. The number of first-time mamas under 30 is shrinking, while more and more women are becoming moms after 40.

Cameron Diaz is one of them. The actress and businesswoman, now 48, became a mom in January at the age of 47. In a new episode of Naomi Campbell's YouTube series, No Filter, Diaz opens up about what it's like to become a mom in your fourth decade.

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