This week, two high-profile women shared very similar stories with their social media followers. Influencer Arielle Charnas of Something Navy and Katrina Scott of Tone It Up both took to Instagram this week to discuss how they recently suffered pregnancy losses.
Arielle Charnas of Something Navy on recovering from an ectopic pregnancy
Arielle Charnas of Something Navy used Instagram Stories to announce her pregnancy loss this week, revealing how she recently suffered an ectopic pregnancy.
"I went through something a couple of weeks ago that I didn't share," she told her 1.3 million followers. "I was pregnant and I was expecting my third baby and things just went wrong and I ended up losing the pregnancy. So it's been a very difficult time for me, especially after having two healthy pregnancies this really just came out of nowhere and was the worst experience I have ever lived through. I am definitely going through an emotional roller abut I truly believe in everything happening for a reason
"I was in the hospital, that's why I was away from the kids for a week, but I'm okay."
Ectopic pregnancies are dangerous to a mother, and can be fatal. They occur when a fertilized egg implants and grows outside of the uterus. The pregnancy can't continue this way.
Ectopic pregnancies can be so devastating, and Charnas is among the many celebrities speaking up these days about just how hard pregnancy loss is.
Katrina Scott talks openly about her pregnancy loss
While Charnas told her story in her Stories, fellow Instagram star Katrina Scott took to her grid to explain how hard it is to cope when pregnancy apps keep reminding her of the pregnancy she recently lost.
In her heartbreakingly honest post, Scott revealed that she is still crying and mourning the loss of the pregnancy she first described in a video post in May. She's also still seeing baby apps pop up every time she looks at her phone.
"I'm not entirely sure why I still haven't adjusted the few baby apps that I have... maybe I want the reminders to remember? maybe I need them for permission to cry— I don't know. some days I even wonder how I can get that baby back... sounds crazy I know, but it still crosses my mind" Scott writes.
In her grief and in an effort to find practical information, she turned to her followers, who have offered an influx of support and stories similar to her own.
Kimberly Van Der Beek lost her recent pregnancy at 17 weeks
The stories of loss shared by Charnas and Scott follow a similar conversation that unfolded just days earlier on Instagram when James Van Der Beek announced his wife Kimberly recently suffered another pregnancy loss, this time at 17 weeks. The couple has been very open about their previous loss and hope that by sharing the stories of these losses they can help other parents who are coping with their own grief.
Jessica McCormack, a licensed marriage and family therapist in private practice at The Self Care Path, previously spoke to Motherly about pregnancy loss and why some women choose to talk about it on social media.
According to McCormack, marking one's miscarriage with social media post can be a good way for a mother to invite people to support her in her time of need. "It also reduces the stigma by bringing to light that it is completely normal for women to experience something like this," she explained.
That's exactly why these celebrities are making these announcements so publicly.
Hilaria Baldwin has been so honest about pregnancy loss
Hilaria Baldwin is currently pregnant and expecting her fifth child, but she's been very public about her pregnancy losses.
"I want to share with you that I am most likely experiencing a miscarriage," Baldwin wrote back in 2019. "I always promised myself that if I were to get pregnant again, I would share the news with you guys pretty early, even if that means suffering a public loss."
Baldwin spoke out about her decision to share this information with her Instagram followers in real-time, and eventually, she confirmed her pregnancy was over.
"Even before I got pregnant, I thought about what it would be like to have to share news like this. Having a miscarriage would hurt if I went through it in silence and it would hurt if I lost the pregnancy in front of everybody, I realized. At least sharing my story might help me and other women dealing with a miscarriage to find support," she told Glamour.
This experience is unfortunately common, as Baldwin told Glamour.
"Pregnancy loss is a topic that touches almost everyone—10 to 25% of all known pregnancies end in miscarriage. I'm not surprised at how common they are. Almost every single one of my friends has experienced some kind of struggle with infertility or miscarriage," she said.
We thank women like Baldwin, Charnas, Scott and Van Der Week for making these kinds of announcements because no mother should have to feel alone when suffering pregnancy loss, and hearing these stories lets women know they are not alone.
We wish these women could have made the social media announcements they were expecting to make, but we are grateful for their honesty.
[A version of this post was originally published April 4, 2019. It has been updated.]