For some mothers a glass of wine is a welcome treat with dinner or a way to unwind in the evening. And for others it’s just not even on the menu.
The whole #winemom culture makes it seem like moms and wine always go together, but the truth is a lot more nuanced than that. Moms are people, and like any other group of adults we each make different choices about our personal alcohol consumption. Some are into it, some aren’t, and some decide to give it up.
Actress Anne Hathaway is in that last category. Mom to 2-year-old Jonathan, Hathaway opened up about her alcohol consumption on “The Ellen DeGeneres Show” this week, declaring that she’s done with booze until her son is 18.
“I’m going to stop drinking while my son is in my house just because I don’t totally love the way I do it and he’s getting to an age where he really does need me all the time in the mornings,” Hathaway told Ellen. “I did one school run one day where I dropped him off at school, I wasn’t driving, but I was hungover and that was enough for me. I didn’t love that one.”
It’s kind of brave of Hathaway to admit that the way she does alcohol doesn’t work for her and her family, and that it’s time for a change. It’s also cool that she’s saying she’s going to stop for now, not forever. That’s a nuanced approach that’s often missing from conversations about alcohol, in which people are forced to put themselves in categories they’re not sure they belong in.
And by making this declaration so publicly, Hathaway may be helping her future self stay accountable. When you’ve said you’re done drinking on national television, people are going to remember that.
For Hathaway, the decision to stop drinking came in October, after she’d been hitting some rum spots with Serenity co-star Matthew McConaughey and his wife, Camila.
“They’re both cool, and I just can’t drink as much as them,” she told Ellen. “We drank the night away, and then I had to go to a meeting with Steven Knight, our director, the next day, and I was just kinda—have you guys ever had to do a meeting hungover? I was just kinda stumbling in with one eye open and I was trying to convince him about certain things about my character.”
When the meeting was over Hathaway confessed that she was hungover. Knight said he couldn’t tell, but the next time, he could. “Then two days later we had another meeting and I showed up and he said, ‘Oh, now I can,'” Hathaway explained.
So with alcohol impacting her work life and her home life, she decided to give it up, at least for the next 16 years.
That’s a totally valid choice (and one that she could certainly change her mind about down the road), and she’s certainly not alone in making it. For some people, alcohol is an enjoyable treat like a latte or a slice of cheesecake, but for some, like Hathaway, it gets in the way of the things we really enjoy. When that happens, it’s fine to say you’re done.