Is there a more discussed, controversial topic in parenting than sleep? How children fall asleep, for how long, etc. Everyone has big Thoughts and Opinions, which is fine. Regardless, it’s refreshing to hear Christina Ricci talk about her kids’ vastly different sleeping patterns and habits, because if nothing else it’s a reminder that we, as parents, can’t be 100% in control of everything 100% of the time.

The star of “Yellowjackets” spoke with PEOPLE about life with her 9-month-old daughter, Cleopatra, and her son, Freddie, 8. She says her daughter is already sleeping well on her own—something every parent fervently hopes for.

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“The fact that I can put her down in her crib and she just goes to sleep when my 8-year-old still sleeps with me is amazing,” Ricci says, confirming that Cleo is sleep-trained. Things did not go so well for her son, Freddie, however.

The first time she attempted sleep-training with her oldest, “He screamed himself hoarse and started banging his head against the crib railing,” so she stopped after that.

“But with Cleo, when we decided to try it and see how she would react to it, she just sort of whined for about seven minutes and then laid down, clutched her little unicorn and went to sleep,” she says. “It was like she was ready and she wanted to do it, and it was right for her.”

Now there’s something any parent with more than one child can relate to, right? It’s almost like the second child is designed to be the polar opposite of their older sibling, or vice versa. If one child struggles in one area, the other one aces it. Especially when it comes to sleep.

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Ricci isn’t the only celebrity mom who has opened up about bed sharing with their “big” kids. Over the summer, Alicia Silverstone revealed that she and her 11-year-old son, Bear, are still co-sleeping.

“Bear and I still sleep together,” Silverstone said on The Ellen Fisher Podcast, “I’ll be in trouble for saying that, but I really don’t care.”

Silverstone explained that she’s a “natural mama” who believes in “love and nature” while chiding society for being scared of those things.

Whether you go down the co-sleeping-with-your-big-kid route or try your hand at gentle sleep-training your baby (a phrase I personally don’t like at all, as I believe it’s really more about teaching necessary skills versus “training”), as long as your children are happy, healthy, and safe—that’s all that matters in the end.