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Kerry Washington’s natural hair isn’t a fashion statement—it’s a message to her kids

“I love myself no matter what way I choose to wear my hair that day.”

Kerry Washington’s natural hair isn’t a fashion statement—it’s a message to her kids

Kerry Washington inspires women each week in her role as empowered leader Olivia Pope in ABC’s Scandal. But, even though she’s not a mama on screen, Washington says some of Pope’s qualities have made a positive impression on her parenting—especially in the ways she teaches her children, Isabelle and Caleb, the importance of loving themselves just the way they are.


That’s something Washington practices at home by wearing her natural hair, which she hopes sends a positive message to her children.

“For me, loving yourself and accepting yourself is not a destination... It’s my job to keep returning to the truth that I am lovable and capable and deserving,” Washington told TODAY Parents. “You want to make sure you’re modeling self-love and unconditional self-love. I love myself no matter what way I choose to wear my hair that day.”

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Teaching kids self-love is pivotal in how they begin to form ideas and thoughts on what love really means, both with themselves and others. Because your little ones pick up on how you behave, showing rather than telling can be the most effective way to get this message across—and that carries out through romantic relationships, too.

“How can I love my partner more and have more respect for my partner? It’s being that; it’s doing that,” she said.

Why empowerment is more important than ever

In a time where the world can be a scary place, Washington is passionate about empowering her daughter right now.

“The most important thing we can do as women to empower our daughters is to do the homework on ourselves,” she said. “What we do is more important than what we say. You can say to a child they have to love themselves. But until you can embody that truth and live it, what you’re saying is much less important.”

Beyond that, Washington is ensuring mamas everywhere are uplifting one another by providing each other with support, stopping mommy-shaming and embodying equality. If we can teach our daughters to do this now—and practice self-love—then they can carry it out through future generations.

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    These challenges from Nike PLAYlist are exactly what my child needs to stay active

    Plus a fall family bucket list to keep everyone moving all season long.

    While it's hard to name anything that the pandemic hasn't affected, one thing that is constantly on my mind is how to keep my family active despite spending more time indoors. Normally, this time of year would be spent at dance and gymnastics lessons, meeting up with friends for games and field trips, and long afternoon playdates where we can all let off a little steam. Instead, we find ourselves inside more often than ever before—and facing down a long winter of a lot more of the same.

    I started to search for an outlet that would get my girls moving safely while we social distance, but at first I didn't find a lot of solutions. Online videos either weren't terribly engaging for my active kids, or the messaging wasn't as positive around the power of movement as I would like. Then I found the Nike PLAYlist.

    I always knew that Nike could get me moving, but I was so impressed to discover this simple resource for parents. PLAYlist is an episodic sports show on YouTube that's made for kids and designed to teach them the power of expressing themselves through movement. The enthusiastic kid hosts immediately captured my daughter's attention, and I love how the physical activity is organically incorporated in fun activities without ever being specifically called out as anything other than play. For example, this segment where the kids turn yoga into a game of Paper Scissors Rock? Totally genius. The challenges from #TheReplays even get my husband and me moving more when our daughter turns it into a friendly family competition. (Plus, I love the play-inspired sportswear made just for kids!)

    My daughter loves the simple Shake Ups at the beginning of the episode and is usually hopping off the couch to jump, dance and play within seconds. One of her favorites is this Sock Flinger Shake Up activity from the Nike PLAYlist that's easy for me to get in on too. Even after we've put away the tablet, the show inspires her to create her own challenges throughout the day.

    The best part? The episodes are all under 5 minutes, so they're easy to sprinkle throughout the day whenever we need to work out some wiggles (without adding a lot of screen time to our schedule).

    Whether you're looking for simple alternatives to P.E. and sports or simply need fun ways to help your child burn off energy after a day of socially distanced school, Nike's PLAYlist is a fun, kid-friendly way to get everyone moving.

    Need more movement inspiration for fall? Here are 5 ways my family is getting up and getting active this season:

    1. Go apple picking.

    Truly, it doesn't really feel like fall until we've picked our first apple. (Or had our first bite of apple cider donut!) Need to burn off that extra cinnamon-sugar energy? Declare a quick relay race up the orchard aisle—winner gets first to pick of apples at home.

    To wear: These Printed Training Tights are perfect for when even a casual walk turns into a race (and they help my daughter scurry up a branch for the big apples).

    2. Visit a pumpkin patch.

    We love to pick up a few locally grown pumpkins to decorate or cook with each year. Challenge your child to a "strongman" contest and see who can lift the heaviest pumpkin while you're there.

    To wear: Suit up your little one in comfort with this Baby Full Zip Coverall so you're ready for whatever adventures the day brings.

    3. Have a nature scavenger hunt.

    Scavenger hunts are one of my favorite ways to keep my daughter preoccupied all year long. We love to get outside and search for acorns, leaves and pinecones as part of our homeschool, but it's also just a great way to get her exercising those gross motor skills whenever the wiggles start to build up.

    To wear: It's not truly fall until you break out a hoodie. This cozy Therma Elite Kids Hoodie features a mesh overlay to release heat while your child plays.

    4. Have a touch-football game.

    Tip for parents with very little kids: It doesn't have to last as long as a real football game. 😂 In fact, staging our own mini-games is one of our favorite ways to get everyone up and moving in between quarters during Sunday football, and I promise we all sleep better that night.

    To wear: From impromptu games of tag to running through our favorite trails, these kids' Nike Air Zoom Speed running shoes are made to cover ground all season long.

    5. Create an indoor obstacle course.

    Pretending the floor is lava was just the beginning. See how elaborate your personal course can get, from jumping on the couch to rolling under the coffee table to hopping down the hallway on one foot.

    To wear: These ready-for-any-activity Dri-FIT Tempo Shorts are perfect for crawling, hopping and racing—and cuddling up when it's time to rest.

    This article was sponsored by Nike. Thank you for supporting the brands that supporting Motherly and mamas.

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