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Mindy Kaling is refreshingly honest about how #momlife surprised her

"I wasn't ready," she told USA Today. "I don't think anyone is ever ready. I definitely knew I wanted kids, but the decision, it was not something that I had, like, planned."

Mindy Kaling is refreshingly honest about how #momlife surprised her

Mindy Kaling may be one of the most successful women in television right now, but that doesn't mean she doesn't feel the same insecurities about being a working mom that so many women do. Kaling revealed to People that she hasn't yet found the perfect balance between motherhood and work and is still struggling to figure it out.

"When things get so bad that there's a work emergency, I know I have to jump in there," she says of work. "Then when I'm working and I'm worried my baby is going to start calling her grandfather Mama, I'm like, 'Okay, I need to be back home.'"

As Raegan Moya-Jones wrote in her book, "What It Takes: How I Built a $100 Million Business Against the Odds" both children and work "can feel like a calling, we can feel devoted to both. But which one takes precedence moment to moment? What is the cost to our children when we give our career priority in a given moment? These are questions all parents grapple with on a daily basis, even if unconsciously."

This is especially true for those of us who don't necessarily want to give up our careers when we become mothers. For Kaling, she was used to working and working hard, and she clearly has not given that desire up.

"I am someone who loves work. That will never change. But the kind of work that I do has changed," she recently told The New York Times Magazine. "When I did the first season of 'The Mindy Project' at Hulu, they were like, 'You could do as many episodes in a season as you want.' And I was like, 'Can we do the maximum?' But waking up at 5 o'clock in the morning to do 26 episodes of TV is not something that I'm going to do again. Right now I'm surprised at how much I enjoy being a mom"

In fact, Kaling jokingly revealed that working too much actually worked in her favor when she became a mother, as it prepared her for how sleep-deprived she would feel after her baby was first born. "I was used to little sleep," she told People. "When I was up every three hours to feed my baby, it was not a huge rude awakening for me."

Still, in spite of being prepared for the lack of sleep, Kaling admits in a refreshingly candid confession that she wasn't quite ready when it came to the timing of when she got pregnant, even though she had a desire for children. "I wasn't ready," she told USA Today. "I don't think anyone is ever ready. I definitely knew I wanted kids, but the decision, it was not something that I had, like, planned."

When The New York Times Magazine recently asked her about her decision to not publicly name her daughter's father, Kailing set some clear boundaries for her family's privacy: "My feeling is that until I speak to my daughter about that, I'm not going to talk to anyone else about it," she said.

She draws inspiration from her personal life, but isn't willing to share her entire private life with the world, and says she doesn't know if she will ever write about her own experience as a single, first-time mom, but she does say that while "the three months after giving birth, especially since I did it by myself, were very funny, and at times very gruesome," she has been really surprised by how much time she craves with her baby, as she wasn't always sure she had a lot of maternal instinct.

"I'm very impatient, and having a baby requires an amount of patience that I was worried about. But they don't tell you that the thing will look so much like you, and do things that are so sweet and adorable, that you'll naturally not have the same impatience that you would have with a stranger or someone who works for you," Kailing told The New York Times Magazine.

Kaling's candor about motherhood and all of the surprises and challenges that walk hand in hand with its incredible rewards are a refreshing change to the same narrative we hear too often. As so many moms struggle with feelings of guilt and inadequacy, it would no doubt do us some good to see more and more of these conversations, both in Hollywood and in our own lives.

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As any parent knows, the term "diaper bag" only scratches the surface. In reality, this catchall holds so much more: a change of clothes, bottles, snacks, wipes and probably about a dozen more essential items.

Which makes finding the exact item you need, when you need it (read: A diaper when you're in public with a blowout on your hands) kind of tricky.

That's why organization is the name of the game when it comes to outings with your littles. We pooled the Motherly team of editors to learn some favorite hacks for organizing diaper bags. Here are our top tips.

1. Divide and conquer with small bags

Here's a tip we heard more than a few times: Use smaller storage bags to organize your stuff. Not only is this helpful for keeping related items together, but it can also help keep things from floating around in the expanse of the larger diaper bag. These bags don't have to be anything particularly fancy: an unused toiletry bag, pencil case or even plastic baggies will work.

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When you're dealing with a diaper blowout situation, it's not the time to go searching for a pack of wipes. Instead, assemble an emergency changing kit ahead of time by bundling a change of baby clothes, a fresh diaper, plenty of wipes and hand sanitizer in a bag you can quickly grab. We're partial to pop-top wipes that don't dry out or get dirty inside the diaper bag.

3. Simplify bottle prep

Organization isn't just being able to find what you need, but also having what you need. For formula-feeding on the go, keep an extra bottle with the formula you need measured out along with water to mix it up. You never know when your outing will take longer than expected—especially with a baby in the mix!

4. Get resealable snacks

When getting out with toddlers and older kids, snacks are the key to success. Still, it isn't fun to constantly dig crumbs out of the bottom of your diaper bag. Our editors love pouches with resealable caps and snacks that come in their own sealable containers. Travel-sized snacks like freeze-dried fruit crisps or meal-ready pouches can get an unfair reputation for being more expensive, but that isn't the case with the budget-friendly Comforts line.

5. Keep a carabiner on your keychain

You'll think a lot about what your child needs for an outing, but you can't forget this must-have: your keys. Add a carabiner to your keychain so you can hook them onto a loop inside your diaper bag. Trust us when we say it's a much better option than dumping out the bag's contents on your front step to find your house key!

6. Bundle your essentials

If your diaper bag doubles as your purse (and we bet it does) you're going to want easy access to your essentials, too. Dedicate a smaller storage bag of your diaper bag to items like your phone, wallet and lip balm. Then, when you're ready to transfer your items to a real purse, you don't have to look for them individually.

7. Keep wipes in an outer compartment

Baby wipes aren't just for diaper changes: They're also great for cleaning up messy faces, wiping off smudges, touching up your makeup and more. Since you'll be reaching for them time and time again, keep a container of sensitive baby wipes in an easily accessible outer compartment of your bag.

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