You’re not alone: 1/3 of moms experience mental health issues

According to a new survey by the BBC.

You’re not alone: 1/3 of moms experience mental health issues

Everybody talks about the joys of motherhood, but for a long time, nobody talked about the tears, the sadness, stress and anxiety. Luckily, that’s changing because new numbers reveal mental health issues are a very common part of parenthood.

According to a new survey by the BBC, more than a third of mothers experience mental health issues. The results come from an online survey of British parents, but the topic is something that definitely impacts moms all over the world.

A 2014 survey of Australian moms came up with the same figure, noting that one in three first time mothers is in poor mental health, and a survey done stateside in 2013 found about 22% of new moms were depressed.

The BBC survey may show higher numbers because it looked at mental health issues in general, not specifically postpartum depression (which is just one way a mom’s mental health can be impacted), or it could signal that mothers have become more willing to discuss all kinds of mental health issues in recent years. Thanks to public health campaigns and celebrities like Hayden Panettiere and Alanis Morrisette sharing their stories publicly, the stigma is being removed.

There is still some work to do, though.

The BBC survey found that a lot of parenting stress stems from the fact that moms are being criticized by a lot of people. That can hurt, especially when you’re still getting the hang of parenting and not feeling super secure to begin with.

The BBC reports 26% of mother say their own parents are the most critical of their parenting, and 24% feel their partner is.

When it comes to public parenting shaming, moms get it worse than fathers. While just 5% of dads reported being criticized by strangers in public, 14% of mothers have been mom shamed by random people (raises hand, shout out to the cashier who refused to check my grocery order because my crying baby was “too distracting”).

Work issues are also a factor when it comes to stress and anxiety linked to parenthood. Thirty percent of moms surveyed by the BBC felt they’d been discriminated against at work since becoming a mom, and less than half as many fathers said the same.

While dads do have it easier at work (and when out in public), they’re certainly not immune to mental health issues associated with parenthood. Seventeen percent of dads surveyed reported experiencing mental health problems, and we certainly know that new fathers can experience parental depression, too.

The conversation around parental mental health issues is an important one because, according to the BBC, about two-thirds of the moms suffering aren’t asking for help, and the numbers for dads are even lower.

A recent study of depressed fathers found that about 83% of those who would be classified as moderately to severely depressed hadn’t actually told anyone, and researchers estimated the corresponding figure for new moms is anywhere between 20 and 50%.

According to the BBC, 60% of moms report turning to their friends for support, 56% turn to their partner and 18% say they go online.

If you’re feeling down, speak up.

The bottom line is that parenthood—while wonderful and full of cuddles—can also be a strain to our mental health. These stats show mental health issues among moms and dads are super common, so don’t feel alone.

There’s no shame in asking for help, but it is a shame when moms suffer in silence.

14 outdoor toys your kids will want to play with beyond summer

They transition seamlessly for indoor play.

With Labor day weekend in the rearview and back-to-school in full swing, most parents are fresh out of boxes to check on their "Fun Concierge" hit list. It's also the point of diminishing returns on investing in summer-only toys. So with that in mind, we've rounded up some of our favorite toys that are not only built to last but will easily make the transition from outdoor to indoor play. Even better, they're Montessori-friendly and largely open-ended so your kids can get a ton of use out of them.

From sunny backyard afternoons to rainy mornings stuck inside, these toys are sure to keep little ones engaged and entertained.

Meadow ring toss game

Plan Toys meadow ring toss game

Besides offering a fantastic opportunity to hone focus, coordination, determination and taking turns, lawn games are just plain fun. Set them up close together for the littles and spread them out when Mom and Dad get in on the action. With their low profile and rope rings, they're great for indoors as well.


Balance board

Plan Toys balance board

Balance boards are a fabulous way to get the wiggles out. This one comes with a rope attachment, making it suitable for even the youngest wigglers. From practicing their balance and building core strength to working on skills that translate to skateboarding and snowboarding, it's a year-round physical activity that's easy to bring inside and use between Zoom classes, too!


Detective set

Plan Toys detective setDetective Set

This set has everything your little detective needs to solve whatever mystery they might encounter: an eye glasses, walkie-talkie, camera, a red lens, a periscope and a bag. Neighborhood watch? Watch out.


Wooden doll stroller

Janod wooden doll strollerWooden Doll Stroller

Take their charges on a stroll around the block with this classic doll stroller. With the same versatility they're used to in their own ride, this heirloom quality carriage allows their doll or stuffy to face them or face the world.


Sand play set

Plan Toys sand set

Whether you're hitting the beach or the backyard sandbox, this adorable wooden sand set is ready for action. Each scoop has an embossed pattern that's perfect for sand stamping. They're also totally suitable for water play in the wild or the bathtub.


Water play set

Plan Toys water play set

Filled with sand or water, this tabletop sized activity set keeps little ones busy, quiet and happy. (A mama's ideal trifecta 😉). It's big enough to satisfy their play needs but not so big it's going to flood your floors if you bring the fun inside on a rainy day.


Mini golf set

Plan Toys mini golf set

Fore! This mini golf set is lawn and living room ready. Set up a backyard competition or incorporate into homeschooling brain breaks that shift focus and build concentration.


Vintage scooter balance bike

Janod retro scooter balance bike

Pedals are so 2010. Balance bikes are the way to go for learning to ride a bike while skipping the training wheels stage altogether. This impossibly cool retro scooter-style is built to cruise the neighborhood or open indoor space as they're learning.


Wooden rocking pegasus

plan toys wooden rocking pegasus

Your little will be ready to take flight on this fun pegasus. It gently rocks back and forth, but doesn't skimp on safety—its winged saddle, footrests and backrest ensure kids won't fall off whether they're rocking inside or outside.


Croquet set

Plan Toys croquet set

The cutest croquet set we've ever seen! With adorable animal face wooden balls and a canvas bag for easy clean up, it's also crafted to stick around awhile. Round after round, it's great for teaching kiddos math and problem-solving skills as well.


Wooden digital camera

fathers factory wooden digital camera

Kids get the chance to assemble the camera on their own then can adventure anywhere to capture the best moments. With two detachable magnetic lenses, four built-in filters and video recorder, your little photographer can tap into their creativity from summertime to the holidays.


Wooden bulldozer toy

plan toys wooden bulldozer toy

Whether they're digging up sand in the backyad or picking up toys inside, kids can get as creative as they want picking up and moving things around. Even better? Its wooden structure means it's not an eye sore to look at wherever your digger drops it.


Pull-along hippo

janod toys pull along hippo toy

There's just something so fun about a classic pull-along toy and we love that they seamlessly transition between indoor and outdoor play. Crafted from solid cherry and beechwood, it's tough enough to endure outdoor spaces your toddler takes it on.


Baby forest fox ride-on

janod toys baby fox ride on

Toddlers will love zooming around on this fox ride-on, and it's a great transition toy into traditional balance bikes. If you take it for a driveway adventure, simply use a damp cloth to wipe down the wheels before bringing back inside.


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