Why parents are calling out this ‘boy mom’ post about her son’s future girlfriend

I’m a boy mom, and even though my son is not quite a year and a half, I’d be lying if I haven’t already had thoughts about what it means to raise a boy, or honestly any child, in this world. I get lost in thoughts about the messages he’ll absorb — from me, from his dad, from friends, from media — about love, respect, and how we treat other people.

Which is why a viral post on Threads last week stopped me in my scroll.

A self-described “boy mom” wrote:

“I’m a boy mom and one day, some teenage girl is gonna break his heart… and I’m gonna have to square up with a 16-year-old.”

The post has over 1,700 comments (and a mere 500 some likes) which is never a good sign when it comes to internet ratios. And the replies were…heated.

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The double standard at the heart of “boy mom” culture

Many parents called out the comment for perpetuating a double standard: moms fiercely protecting their sons while positioning girls (or any future partner) as villains.

“You must have missed the memo. It’s 2025 and we’re raising our sons to be good men, and if they get their hearts broken, we teach them how to process their emotions,” one Threads user wrote.

Another mom added: “If that girl happens to be my 16-year-old daughter, you’ll be squaring off with me pretty bloody quickly. Teach your son to take no for an answer instead.”

Others were blunter: “Reaaaallly manifesting for my girls to never date anyone who has a ‘boy mom’ parent 🥴”

And some were just puzzled: “Why are you already beefing with an imaginary teenage girl? Lol”

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Not everyone thought it was that deep

To be fair, a few people defended the original post, arguing it was clearly meant as a joke.

“I feel like y’all in the comments took this to the head,” one user wrote. “Obviously she’s not really gonna square up with a 16-year-old… At the end of the day, relationships are a two-way street.”

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Why this conversation matters for parents raising boys

Sure, it might have been a joke. But jokes reveal what’s underneath. And underneath “I’ll fight your future girlfriend” is a vision of our sons as fragile, emotionally dependent on mom, and entitled to someone else’s feelings.

That’s not the world I want my son growing up in.

Because the truth is, heartbreak is part of life. It’s not something I can, or should, shield him from. My job is to help him process it: to know that rejection doesn’t make him less worthy, to respect someone else’s boundaries, and to see breakups not as battles to win, but as moments to grow.

And in a time when online spaces are full of misogyny, red-pill rhetoric, and distorted ideas about masculinity, how we raise our boys matters more than ever.

If you ask me, the only thing I want to “square up” against is a culture that tells boys they can’t handle emotional pain without blaming someone else.