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Father's Day is approaching, which has me feeling all the feels for the dads in my life right about now. While everyone's relationship with their father is different, the men who are always, always there for you are something special.

My dad spent our childhood chasing us around a backyard, trying to teach us all of the sports he played with his five brothers (he had three sisters, too… yes, really!). And watching my husband recreate a similar childhood for our four kids—running basketball drills in our driveway, playing catch in the front yard, helping my daughter practice for her dance recital, reading books to everyone at night—is one of my favorite parts of parenting. Which is exactly why we need to celebrate these dudes this Father's Day!

Whether the dad your shopping for is a master griller, a sports fanatic or just someone sorely in need of a new pair of flip flops for summertime, we've got him (and you) covered in the below list of gifts.

1.  The cooler

YETI Tundra Haul

Before becoming dads, did dads like coolers? We'll never really know. But this we do know: Dads don't just like coolers, they love them. And the Tundra Haul is the best you can buy him (and yes, it's worth the steep price tag!). Yeti is the granddaddy of luxe coolers and this newest version has two ultra-tough, puncture-proof wheels that can take on sand, rocky terrains, rugged trails and more—all while keeping up to 45 cans of beer or 55 pounds of ice at freezer-esque temps.

Yeti Tundra Haul, $399.99

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2. The shades

This just in: We don't need to spend a fortune on sunglasses anymore! Especially when brands like American Eagle are churning out super-cool styles like these Knockaround bad boys. We love that the FDA-approved lenses are impact-resistant because, let's face it, at any moment a toy could come hurtling at dad's face, and it's good to know that his sunglasses will protect him.

American Eagle Knockaround Fast Lanes Sunglasses, $25

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3. The can-go-anywhere wagon

Veer Wagon

There's nowhere dad won't be able to go with this stroller wagon hybrid that combines the ease and maneuverability of a stroller with the classic fun of a wagon. We tested this one on myriad surfaces and especially love the smooth ride (thanks to those big ol' wheels) and the cup holders.

Veer All Terrain Cruiser Wagon, $599.00

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4. The custom story book

Hooray Heroes

The Daddy Edition of the best-selling "When Emma Grows Up" personalized children's book is perfect for celebrating the everlasting bonds that dads have with their little ones… and we're betting it will have your husband tearing up before the waffles are even ready. Personalize the name and appearance of both Dad and child and choose 10 professions your little one might grow up to be. All inspired by Dad himself, of course.

Hooray Heroes' When Emma Grows Up personalized book, $39.00+

[In partnership with Hooray Heroes]

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5. The Knives

steak knives

Not all dads like meat… but a lot of them do. And if they're anything like my husband, they're very finicky about their steak knives. We love this 10-piece stainless steel set from Wüsthoffor multiples reasons. One: The price. Considering that it includes eight serrated steak knives, a carving knife, a carving fork and a flashy wooden holding box for under 80 bucks, well fam, that's a smokin' deal. Two: Founded in Germany more than 200 years ago, the Wüsthof brand is legit. Three: They're pretty! Which isn't the case for all steak knives!

Wüsthof Stainless-Steel 10-Piece Steak & Carving Knife Set, Sale $79.95 (Regularly $180.00)

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6. The gussied-up flip flops

Outfit him with "fancy" flip flops this summer that are slick enough to wear to date night but so comfortable he might actually feel a little guilty about his footwear. Made by hand in Hawaii, OluKai sandals have superior arch support, contoured footbeds and lots of toe room—all of which is too say your man is about to declare that these are the only flip flops he's wearing from now to eternity.

OluKai Mea Ola Sandal, $119.99

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7. The t-shirt

Papa Bird Amazon T-Shirt

Have you ever met an adult male who doesn't love a good t-shirt? Nope. This one is soft and cozy and comes in sizes small to 3XL. We're betting this is going to be his new favorite.

Men's Papa Bird T-shirt, $19.99

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8. The razor re-supply

Dollar Shave Club

If buying razors is something that always ends up on your to-do list, this subscription service is going to be music to your ears. The Dollar Shave Club delivers razors (and other shaving/bathroom products) to his doorstep as often as he needs. Test it out with the travel-size Starter Set, which includes shave butter, four razor cartridges and a

The Dollar Shave Club Starter Shave Set, $5.00

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9. The framed photo

Framebridge Father's Day Duo

Have a favorite family photo that's been sitting on your phone (or your Instagram) for months? Bring it into the real world and onto walls! Framebridge makes the process of custom framing incredibly easy—simply choose your frame, upload or mail in your imagery, pick your size and voila, you've got your gift! You can even do the entire process from your phone… in under 5 minutes. And for Father's Day, Framebridge is offering a duo of 5 x 7 frames with mattes for $100.

Framebridge Framing, $39.00+

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10. The bottle opener

bottle cap catcher

Whether you hang in it your garage, on your deck railing or near his grill, this wall-mounted, personalized bottle opener is the perfect customized gift for dad. We love that it catches caps... and that it has more than 18,000 reviews on Etsy!

Etsy MyPersonalMemories Bottle Opener, $24.99

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11. The life insurance

Ladder smart life insurance

We know, we know, presenting him with a life insurance on Father's Day isn't the most sentimental gift, but if you and your man don't have it, we're guessing that it's a point of stress for you both. No, we're not suggesting you go to an old-timey broker's office. Instead, we're sending you to Ladder. Why? Because this site makes the process of obtaining a policy incredibly easy and fast for new subscribers—seriously, the total time it takes from clicking onto the site, selecting your coverage amount and applying for instant coverage is as little as five minutes.

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12. The blazer

mens blazer

The blazer is the ultimate dad jacket. He can wear it to your son's hockey awards banquet, a client meeting or his cousin's wedding, all while looking crisp, cool and ever on-trend. After all, he's a hip dad! Get him there with Bonobos' Jetsetter options, which combine old-school Italian wool with a slight stretch. The best part? He can pair the jacket with anything from jeans to slacks—far more practical that a suit coat!

Bonobos Jetsetter Stretch Italian Wool Blazer, $450.00

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13. The cool coffee gadget

pour over bottle brew

Whether dad likes his coffee hot or cold, this reusable, double-walled glass bottles makes the perfect pour-over or cold brew—ready in minutes and easy to take on the go.

Full Circle Home Brumi Pour Over & Cold Brew To-Go Bottle, $39.00

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14. The phone

Google Pixel

For the tech lover, the Google Pixel 3a is a dream. With an amazing camera (including Night Sight) dad will have no excuse to not take *all* of the photos. Plus, the battery lasts up to 30 hours in case he forgets to charge it. We love the Google Lens that allows you to point the camera at an object or visual and get answers—the kids will love playing with it!

Google Pixel 3a, $299.00+

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15. The manly oven mitt

Dad won't be able to keep his mitts off of these! (It's Father's Day, so we're allowed to make bad jokes.) Made from 100% leather, these heat-resistant oven mitts can withstand temperatures as high as 460°F 🔥.

Dutch Deluxes Dutch Leather Oven Mitts, $89.00+

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16. The perfect button-down

UNTUCKIT

Am I the only wife who's lived this scenario: Husband puts on button-down and laments its too long. Then he tucks in and adds a belt and laments that he looks like his dad. Untuckit to the rescue! Created by a regular dude who was also totally dissatisfied with the odd length of men's button-down shirts, the brand has somehow created the perfect shirt for dads—in dozens of patterns and materials (we really love the wrinkle-free, sweat-wicking performance material!), the shirts aren't too short, aren't too long, nope, they're just right in length. Read: They don't need to be tucked in but they're also long enough that they're not showing off dad's ripped abs (!) every time he raises his arms.

Untuckit St. Romain Performance Shirt, $98.00

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17. The jeans

Paige Federal Men's Jeans

Finding the ideal dad jean is no easy feat. If they're too wide, dads look like they're headed to a rave in 1999. Too skinny and they'll barely be able to bend over to pick up baby off the floor. Luckily, we discovered Paige's Federal jeans in the Blakely wash and let's just say that the fit and color is just right for all dads out there—they can be worn from daycare drop-off to work to date night and everywhere in between. With the perfect amount of tapering, these are about his new 24/7 jeans.

Paige Federal Slim Fit Jeans in Blakely, $189.00

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18. The diaper backpack

Elkin Diaper Backpack

Um, moms? We need a diaper backpack! Dads will be psyched to strap this one on, whether they're headed to the play space with the baby, to a ball game with the big kids or to meet clients for coffee. Why? It's streamlined aesthetic doesn't scream, "diaper bag!" But luckily it does function like one, with pockets galore, a removable changing pad and room for a laptop.

Elkin Backpack, $84.99

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19. The grooming essentials

Murdock London

Does his skincare routine involve water and a bar of soap? Or maybe the face wash his mom introduced him to when he was 13? Let's upgrade dad's rotation with British grooming brand Murdock London's assortment of goodies—from the skin-calming Post Shave Balm or the deliciously-smelling Black Tea Body Wash to the perfect-level-of-hold Texture Paste for his hair. Does he struggle with a too-course beard? Then the Beard Conditioner will fix all that. More to love: The sleek navy-blue packaging.

Murdock London grooming products, $8.00+

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20. The Sneaker

mens everlane sneaker

Not all gym shoes need a marquis logo on them—and while this might be a hard concept for dad to swallow, Everlane's new Trainer sneaker will change his mind pretty quickly. Available in seven leather-and-suede combo colorways, these sneakers are comfortable right out of the box and since they come from the eco-concious brand, they're also feel-good for your soul. The sole is a blend of natural and recycled rubber (94% virgin-plastic-free!) and the brand is on determined path to be completely carbon neutral.

Everlane The Trainer, $98.00

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21. The elevated water experience

A must-have for anyone who loves them some fizzy water, the SodaStream turns plain water into seltzer in seconds. The best part? It's cord-free and has a small enough footprint that you won't even mind giving it some real estate on your countertops. Oh, and it's saving the planet from a whole lot of plastic bottles, too.

SodaStream Fizzi Sparkling Water Maker, $89.99

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22. The mug

dad mug

This vintage-inspired personalized mug will make dad totally nostalgic (and proud!) during his daily coffee fix.

The Beez Kneez Designs Vintage Mug via Etsy, $13.75

23. The tech watch

Apple Watch Series 4

Is your man a tech-loving dad who wants to stay connected but needs his hands free to deal with the kiddos? Then look no further than the Apple Watch. Dad will be able to do everything from tracking his daily activities to checking his emails right from his wrist. Forewarning: You're going to want a matching one.

Apple Watch Series 4, $429.00

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24. The family photo book

family photo book

Surprise him with a compilation of your family's best photos—or maybe it's the silliest ones. Or the pics where no one is looking, or the ones where only 75 percent of you are smiling. Regardless, putting photo to paper is the thoughtful gift that will score you a touchdown on Father's Day morning, and Mixbook's options are super easy to create.

Mixbook Family Photo Books, $15.99+

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25. The water bottle

yeti water bottle

Facts: It's impossible to "dad" without being hydrated, and a rugged water bottle will be a welcomed gift by all. We recommend the 100% leak-proof, stainless steel Yeti Rambler 18-ounce bottle, which has an extra-wide opening for sipping and loading (dads loooove big ice cubes!) and double-wall vacuum walls for keeping drinks super cold and super hot. Oh, and it's dishwasher safe, too.

Yeti Rambler 26-Ounce Bottle, $29.99

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26. The grilling tools

Wusthof Grilling Tools

Grilling and dads go hand-in-hand, so getting him a fancy set of tools for his favorite outdoor appliance for Father's Day will likely be well-received. We love this heat-resistant Wusthof set from Williams-Sonoma because it's solid without being heavy, and each of the four pieces have rings to hang on your grill hooks. Did we mention it's 50% off right now? Done and done!

WSGC, Sale $79.95 (Regularly $160.00)

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27. The fast cooker

Instant pot

If your husbands anything like mine, he's not the handiest in the kitchen. Set him up for success on solo nights with an Instant Pot, which in addition to being able to make hard boiled eggs in minutes, can also prepare soups and stews, steam and sauté vegetables and much more in under 20 minutes. We like the Lux Mini because of its compact size and it's palatable price.

Instant Pot Lux Mini, $52.99

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28. The pants

workday pants

If they're not jeans or sweatpants, my husband completely struggles with pants. The word "chinos" makes him cringe. But pants are a vital wardrobe component for adult males. Enter: Public Rec's new Workday Pants. Styled in the vein of jeans, the five-pocket pants have a tapered ankle and are made from a stretchy blend of polyester and spandex that is quick-drying and super lightweight. Pants that are modern but professional and breathable? We found 'em! An they come in four colors, too.

Public Rec, $108.00

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29. The coasters

Anatomy of Sports Coasters

Dads like sports... but what they really, really love are coasters. Seriously. My husband will dive across a room to prevent a cold glass of ice water from sweating onto our coffee table and leaving a dreaded-ring. So get him what he really wants this year and combine his two favorite things! These sandstone coasters have cork bottoms and come in nine categories (skiing, baseball, golf and more!), covering interesting factoids that the whole fam will enjoy discussing.

Uncommon Goods Anatomy of Sports Coasters, $45.00

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While breastfeeding might seem like a simple task, there are so many pieces to the puzzle aside from your breasts and baby. From securing a good latch, boosting your milk supply and navigating pumping at work or feeding throughout the night, there's a lot that mama has to go through—and a number of products she needs.

No matter how long your nursing journey may be, it can be hard to figure out what items you really need to add to your cart. So we asked our team at Motherly to share items they simply couldn't live without while breastfeeding. You know, those ones that are a total game-changer.

Here are the best 13 products that they recommend—and you can get them all from Walmart.com:

1. Medela Nursing Sleep Bra

"This fuss-free nursing bra was perfect for all the times that I was too tired to fumble with a clasp. It's also so comfy that, I have to admit, I still keep it in rotation despite the fact that my nursing days are behind me (shh!)." —Mary S.

Price: $15.99

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2. Dr. Brown's Baby First Year Transition Bottles

"My daughter easily transitioned back and forth between breastfeeding and these bottles." —Elizabeth

Price: $24.98

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3. Multi-Use Nursing Cover

"When I was breastfeeding, it was important to me to feel like a part of things, to be around people, entertain guests, etc. Especially since so much of being a new mom can feel isolating. So having the ability to cover up but still breastfeed out in the open, instead of disappearing into a room somewhere for long stretches alone to feed, made me feel better."—Renata

Price: $11.99

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4. Lansinoh TheraPearl Breast Therapy Pack

"I suffered from extreme engorgement during the first weeks after delivery with both of my children. I wouldn't have survived had it not been for these packs that provided cold therapy for engorgement and hot therapy for clogged milk ducts." —Deena

Price: $10.25

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5. Medela Quick Clean Breast Pump Wipes

"Being a working and pumping mama, these quick clean wipes made pumping at the office so much easier, and quicker. I could give everything a quick wipe down between pumping sessions. And did not need a set of spare parts for the office." —Ashley

Price: $19.99

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6. Earth Mama Organic Nipple Butter

"This nipple butter is everything, you don't need to wash it off before baby feeds/you pump. I even put some on my lips at the hospital and it saved me from chapped lips and nips." —Conz

Price: $12.95

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7. Medela Double Electric Pump

"I had latch issues and terrible postpartum anxiety, and was always worried my son wasn't getting enough milk. So I relied heavily on my breast pump so that I could feed him bottles and know exactly how much he was drinking. This Medela pump and I were best friends for almost an entire year" —Karell

Price: $199.99 Receive a $50 gift card with purchase at walmart.com

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8. Lansinoh Disposable Stay Dry Nursing Pads

"I overproduced in the first couple weeks (and my milk would come in pretty much every time my baby LOOKED at my boobs), so Lansinoh disposable nursing pads saved me from many awkward leak situations!" —Justine

Price: $9.79

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9. Haakaa Silicone Manual Breast Pump

"This has been a huge help in saving the extra milk from the letdown during breastfeeding and preventing leaks on my clothes!" —Rachel

Price: $12.99

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10. Medela Harmony Breast Pump

"Because I didn't plan to breastfeed I didn't buy a pump before birth. When I decided to try, I needed a pump so my husband ran out and bought this. It was easy to use, easy to wash and more convenient than our borrowed electric pump." —Heather

Price: $26.99

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11. Milkies Fenugreek

"I struggled with supply for my first and adding this to my regimen really helped with increasing milk." —Mary N.

Price: $14.95

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12. Lansinoh Breast Milk Storage Bags

"I exclusively pumped for a year with my first and these are hands down the best storage bags. All others always managed to crack eventually. These can hold a great amount and I haven't had a leak! And I have used over 300-400 of these!" —Carla

Price: $13.19

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13. Kiinde Twist Breastfeeding Starter Kit

"The Kiinde system made pumping and storing breastmilk so easy. It was awesome to be able pump directly into the storage bags, and then use the same bags in the bottle to feed my baby." —Diana

Price: $21.99

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Orange Is the New Black star Danielle Brooks is pregnant and frustrated. The actress took to Instagram this week to lament the lack of plus-sized options for pregnant people.

"It's so hard to find some clothes to wear today....Although I get to pregnant I still can't find no clothes. It's so hard to find some clothes when you're pregnant," she sings in a lighthearted yet serious video.

"It's so hard to find cute plus size maternity fashion while pregnant, but ima push through," she captioned the clip.

Brooks has been talking a lot this week about the issues people who wear plus size clothing face not just when trying to find clothes but in simply moving through a world that does not support them.

"I feel like the world has built these invisible bullets to bully us in telling us who we're supposed to be and what we're supposed to look like. And I've always had this desire to prove people wrong—to say that this body that I'm in is enough," she told SHAPE (she's on the new cover).

"Now that I'm about to be a mother, it means even more—to make sure that this human being I'm going to bring into the world knows that they are enough," she said.

Danielle Brooks is the body-positive hero we need right now. Now can someone make her some cute maternity clothes, please?

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News

In prior decades, body image issues usually didn't hit the scene until kids reached adolescence. But thanks to social media, and our culture's relentless pursuit of thinness, we now have to find creative ways to teach young children how to develop healthy body images.

Before I dive into some practical tips to help kids improve body image, I want to first diminish any shame that you might be feeling if you have body issues of your own. It's so important to remember that you downloaded every internal message from somewhere else. Of course, it's critical to work on your own issues, but it's also important to know it is not your fault that you developed them in the first place!

So, whether you are struggling with your own body image, or you love your body, here are some tools to help your child feel better about the precious body he or she lives in:

1. Break the spell

How do you know if your child has a bad body image? Perhaps they've begun making negative comments about their size or shape. Maybe they are comparing their body to others. Maybe they are avoiding foods or activities they once enjoyed because they feel uncomfortable about their body.

Often the most common response a parent has is to reassure their child that they are “fine," or “beautiful" or “perfect." And while there is certainly nothing wrong with some reassurance, it simply may not be enough to overpower the cultural messages kids are surrounded by. Reassure them that they are perfect just the way they are.

2. Unkind mind, kind mind and quiet mind

This little menu of options encourages kids to identify and differentiate between three different thinking states within themselves. I refer to them as “mind moods." Try teaching your child about these three states of mind and brainstorming examples of each. For example, unkind mind = “I hate my thighs." Kind mind = “I love singing." Quiet mind = Peacefully resting or playing.

This will raise their awareness of their thoughts and help them to choose their mind moods more consciously. As they learn to turn up the volume of their kind minds and spend more time in their quiet minds, they begin to feel more present and peaceful.

Once you have helped your child identify their unkind mind as a distinct voice, they can then try on some different responses and see which ones help bring them some relief. Try asking them to write or say all the messages their unkind mind is saying and practicing using strong, soft, silly or silent responses. Kids can learn that their unkind mind is not all of who they are, and that it doesn't have to run the show.

3. Get to the root

This concept helps kids discover what triggers their body dissatisfaction. You can help your child by asking questions or taking guesses about what might have started their bad body image. For example, I helped one 7-year old get to the root of her body obsession by noticing it started when there was a death in her family. Right around that time, her best friend started talking about dieting, so she latched onto food obsession as a distracting coping tool.

Once we uncovered this, she was able to learn about healthy grieving and truly healthy eating (as opposed to what the diet culture deems as healthy—which can actually be unhealthy).

4. Mind movies vs. really real

Try asking your child to show you some things around them that are real (i.e. things they can see, touch or hear). Then ask them if they can show you one single thought in their minds. You can playfully challenge them to take a thought out of their head and show it to you or fold it up and put it in their pocket. This tool teaches kids how to be more present.

Of course, they might use their imagination to do this, but with some finesse, you can teach your child to distinguish between the mind movies that cause them stress and the really real things around them. This is an immensely helpful tool that will not only help them with body image (since body image is one long mind movie) but will also improve the quality of their lives in general.

5. Dog talk and cat chat

Many kids cannot relate to the concept of being kind to themselves but ask a child how they feel about their favorite pet, and a doorway to their compassion, kindness and unconditional acceptance opens. For non-pet lovers, you can ask your child to imagine how they would speak to a baby or their best friend.

Dog talk and cat chat can help teach youngsters how to take the loving words and tones they use toward a beloved pet, and direct these sentiments toward themselves and their bodies.

6. Do an internal upgrade

In addition to helping your child combat the messages they receive out in the world, you can also work on the messages they get in your home. Again, if you struggle with body image, it is not your fault, but you can work on healing—and not only will you feel more peace, but your child will benefit as well.

To the best of your ability, refrain from talking about foods as “good" or “bad." Refrain from making negative comments about your (or anyone else's) weight or looks. Refrain from praising someone (or yourself) for weight loss.

Practice welcoming your child's tears and anger without trying to change their feelings before they are ready. Practice eating all food groups in moderation. Foster a positive, grateful attitude about your body.

May you and your child feel comfortable in your bodies, eat all foods in moderation, move and rest in ways that feel good, and find abundant sweetness and fulfillment in life.

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Learn + Play

After a long day of doing seemingly everything, when our partners get home it kind of becomes a habit to ask, "How was your day?" In between prepping dinner, handing off the kids, finishing your own work, we don't exactly get much value from this question. Sure, it may open up the opportunity to complain about that awful thing that happened or excitedly share that presentation you killed at work—but it usually stops there.

I could do a better job of really talking in my relationship. After 12 years and two kids, sometimes all we can come up with post bedtime routine is, "You good? I'm good. Fire up the Netflix."

Here are 21 questions to dig deeper into your marriage after a long day—see where they take you!

  1. Did you listen to anything interesting today?
  2. If you could do any part of today over again, what would it be?
  3. How much coffee did you drink today?
  4. Will you remember any specific part of today a year from now? Five years?
  5. Did you take any photos today? What did you photograph?
  6. What app did you open most today?
  7. How can I make your day easier in five minutes?
  8. If we were leaving for vacation tonight, where do you wish we would be heading?
  9. If you won $500 and had to spend it on yourself today, what would you buy?
  10. If your day was turned into a movie, who would you cast?
  11. What did you say today that you could have never expected to come out of your mouth?
  12. What did you do to take care of yourself today?
  13. When did you feel appreciated today?
  14. If you could guarantee one thing for tomorrow what would it be?
  15. If we traded places tomorrow what advice would you give me for the day?
  16. What made you laugh today?
  17. Imagine committing the next year to learning one thing in your spare time. What would it be?
  18. Did you give anyone side-eye today? Why?
  19. What do you wish you did more of today?
  20. What do you wish you did less of today?
  21. Are you even listening to me right now?

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Love + Village

Alexis Ohanian has made a lot of important decisions in his life. The decision to co-found Reddit is a pretty big one. So was marrying Serena Williams. But right up there with changing internet culture and making a commitment to his partner, the venture capitalist lists taking time off after his daughter's birth as a significant, life-changing choice.

"Before Olympia was born, I had never thought much about paternity leave and, to be honest, Reddit's company policy was not my idea. Our vice president of people and culture, Katelin Holloway, brought it up to me in a meeting and it sounded O.K., so why not?" Ohanian writes in an op-ed for New York Times Parenting.

He continues: "Then came Olympia, after near-fatal complications forced my wife, Serena, to undergo an emergency C-section. Serena spent days in recovery fighting for her life against pulmonary embolisms. When we came home with our baby girl, Serena had a hole in her abdomen that needed bandage changes daily. She was on medication. She couldn't walk."

The experience changed the way Ohanian viewed paternity leave. It was no longer something that just sounded like a good thing, it was a necessary thing for his family. It was crucial that he take it and now he is advocating for more fathers to be able to. In his piece for the NYT Ohanian points out something that Motherly has previously reported on: It is hard for fathers to take paternity leave even when their government or employer offers it.

A report from Dove Men+Care and Promundo (a global organization dedicated to gender equality) found 85% of dads surveyed in the United States, the UK, Argentina, Brazil, Canada, Japan and the Netherlands would do anything to be very involved in the early weeks and months after their child's birth or adoption, but less than 50% of fathers take as much time as they are entitled to.

Dads need paid leave, but even when they have it social pressures and unrealistic cultural expectations keep them from taking it and they choose not to take all the time they can. Ohanian wants lawmakers and business leaders to make sure that dads can take leave and he wants to help fathers choose to actually take it.

"I was able to take 16 weeks of paid leave from Reddit, and it was one of the most important decisions I've made," Ohanian previously wrote in an essay for Glamour.

Ohanian recognizes that he is privileged in a way most parents aren't.

"It helped that I was a founder and didn't have to worry about what people might say about my 'commitment' to the company, but it was incredible to be able to spend quality time with Olympia. And it was perhaps even more meaningful to be there for my wife and to adjust to this new life we created together—especially after all the complications she had during and after the birth," he wrote for Glamour.

In his NYT piece, Ohanian goes further: "I get that not every father has the flexibility to take leave without the fear that doing so could negatively impact his career. But my message to these guys is simple: Taking leave pays off, and it's continued to pay dividends for me two years later. It should be no surprise that I also encourage all of our employees to take their full leave at Initialized Capital, where I am managing partner; we recently had three dads on paid paternity leave at the same time."

The GOAT's husband is making the same points that we at Motherly make all the time. Research supports paid leave for all parents. It benefits the baby and the parents and that benefits society.

By first taking his leave and then speaking out about the ways in which it benefited his family, Ohanian is using his privileged position to de-stigmatize fathers taking leave, and advocate for more robust parental leave policies for all parents, and his influence doesn't end there. He's trying to show the world that parents shouldn't have to cut off the parent part of themselves in order to be successful in their careers.

He says that when his parental leave finished he transitioned from being a full-time dad to a "business dad."

"I'm fortunate to be my own boss, which comes with the freedoms of doing things like bringing my daughter into the office, or working remotely from virtually anywhere Serena competes. My partners at Initialized are used to seeing Olympia jump on camera—along with her doll Qai Qai—or hearing her babbling on a call. I tell them with pride, 'Olympia's at work today!' And I'll post some photos on Instagram or Twitter so my followers can see it too," Ohanian explains.

"The more we normalize this, on social media and in real life, the better, because I know this kind of dynamic makes a lot of men uncomfortable (and selfishly I want Olympia to hear me talking about start-ups!)," he says.

This is the future of family-friendly work culture. Take it from a guy who created an entire internet culture.

[A version of this post was originally published February 19, 2019. It has been updated.]

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