You are their haven. Their harbor. Their sanctuary, their peace. You are comfort. Deep breaths. Hugs and back rubs. You're a resting place, a nightmare chaser, a healer. You are the calm within their storm. You are their mother.
"Life is hard right now."
I will not teach my daughter that she needs to morph into a watered-down version of herself to make other people more comfortable.
"I again had to go to this appointment alone, which didn't seem like a big deal because baby was healthy, right?"
"I desperately needed that break, but I couldn't call anyone. My husband and I had to tough it out alone."
I celebrate despite "it all." I celebrate myself. That I am managing. I am managing. These feel like heartbreaks. These feel like miracles.
Dr. Alang spoke to Motherly about why inclusive language matters so much.
"Working from home, homeschooling a five-year old who didn’t understand the idea of not leaving the house or seeing other siblings, and coping with the daily changes of pregnancy was beginning to make me feel anxious."
"Every night when the baby would wake up and cry, I would cry too—and every time I felt like I was losing control."
"My baby should be in a park under the sun, on the swings, walking on grass, befriending other kids, but instead, he is at home all day every day, pacing from one room to the other, playing with the same toys each day, seeing no new faces apart from his parents."
"No one told me I could change my clothes. No one told me I could bathe. I needed a caregiver. I needed an advocate. I needed someone to take care of me."
No one told me I would give birth to an entirely new version of myself the day I gave birth to my son.
For every stage of motherhood that ends, a new one begins, bringing different but no less abundant joys.
“PTSD?” I asked. “Yes, from childhood trauma. You may think you’ve only been dealing with PPD but this is just a little tip of the iceberg. I’m glad you came in today.”
I just didn't know.
"Mama bears, I know some of you have walked a similar road or are walking it now. I send you love and give you permission to turn that radio up a little louder."