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9 ways to stay super-bonded with baby as a working mother

3. Leave at least 2 hours between your return home and your baby’s bedtime, if possible.

9 ways to stay super-bonded with baby as a working mother

All mothers are working mothers; to say otherwise is to devalue what mothers do. If a mother needs or wants to return to work outside the home, she can still make her child her priority and be as present as possible.


The key to being a present working mom is to embrace compromise not as an obligation, but as freedom. Be realistic about what you can and cannot do. It is also important to be honest with your employer and your colleagues with your limitations and priorities.

Here are some tips to help mothers who try to balance working with raising a young child—

1. Remove distractions from the time you return home until the time your baby goes to sleep.

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This includes all phones and technology.

2. Being there for as many transitions—waking, sleeping, leaving the home and returning—as you can is key.

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3. Leave at least 2 hours between your return home and your baby’s bedtime, if possible.

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If your baby has not seen you all day and you try to put her to bed as soon as you return, she will fight sleep.


4. Be flexible about schedules, particularly around bedtime.

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It’s OK to sit in your child’s room with him until he falls asleep. You can calm and relax your child with soothing repetition, “It’s sleepy time and mommy is here.” This can be your time to relax and even meditate.

5. If you have been gone all day, expect your child to need you more at night and to wake more often.


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6. Keep your work life separate from your home life.

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Be clear with your work when you will respond to after-hours emails or calls. If you have to work at home at night or on a weekend, wait until your child is asleep or napping.


7. Do your best to keep regular hours.

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Even a very young baby will develop a sense of when their mother will be home, and get upset when she doesn’t arrive.


8. If your budget allows, outsource as much housework and food preparation as possible, or try to clean and prepare meals when the baby is asleep.


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9. Ask for help whenever you need it!


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Whether you stay home with your child or work outside the home, small changes in the way you manage your time, remove distractions, and handle transitions can make all the difference to the relationship with your child.


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Without camps and back-to-school plans still TBD, the cries of "I'm bored!" seem to be ringing louder than ever this summer. And if you're anything like me, by August, I'm fresh out of boxes to check on my "Fun Concierge" hit list. It's also the point of diminishing returns on investing in summer-only toys.

With that in mind, we've rounded up some of our favorite wooden toys that are not only built to last but will easily make the transition from outdoor to indoor play.

From sunny backyard afternoons to rainy mornings stuck inside, these toys are sure to keep little ones engaged and entertained.

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Plan Toys meadow ring toss game

Besides offering a fantastic opportunity to hone focus, coordination, determination and taking turns, lawn games are just plain fun. Set them up close together for the littles and spread them out when Mom and Dad get in on the action. With their low profile and rope rings, they're great for indoors as well.

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Balance board

Plan Toys balance board

Balance boards are a fabulous way to get the wiggles out. This one comes with a rope attachment, making it suitable for even the youngest wigglers. From practicing their balance and building core strength to working on skills that translate to skateboarding and snowboarding, it's a year-round physical activity that's easy to bring inside and use between Zoom classes, too!

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Whether you're hitting the beach or the backyard sandbox, this adorable wooden sand set is ready for action. Each scoop has an embossed pattern that's perfect for sand stamping. They're also totally suitable for water play in the wild or the bathtub.

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Plan Toys water play set

Filled with sand or water, this tabletop sized activity set keeps little ones busy, quiet and happy. (A mama's ideal trifecta 😉). It's big enough to satisfy their play needs but not so big it's going to flood your floors if you bring the fun inside on a rainy day.

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Croquet set

Plan Toys croquet set

The cutest croquet set we've ever seen! With adorable animal face wooden balls and a canvas bag for easy clean up, it's also crafted to stick around awhile. Round after round, it's great for teaching kiddos math and problem-solving skills as well.

$45

Mini golf set

Plan Toys mini golf set

Fore! This mini golf set is lawn and living room ready. Set up a backyard competition or incorporate into homeschooling brain breaks that shift focus and build concentration.

$40

Vintage scooter balance bike

Janod retro scooter balance bike

Pedals are so 2010. Balance bikes are the way to go for learning to ride a bike while skipping the training wheels stage altogether. This impossibly cool retro scooter-style is built to cruise the neighborhood or open indoor space as they're learning.

$121

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