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12 SAHMs share what their days *really* look like

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We recently asked working moms to share how they juggle the office, childcare and everything that comes along, and now it's time to hear from stay-at-home-moms. When there's no "clocking in" or designated times to step away for the day, how does that juggle look like?

We asked #TeamMotherly to share what their schedules look like, from waking up to squeezing in me-time. Here's what they had to say.

1. The day starts at 4:30am

"Well, let's see. Wake up anywhere between 4:30 A.M. and noon. Change diaper. Breastfeed baby back to sleep. Drink a cup of coffee, try to microwave a bowl of oatmeal and scarf it down. Baby's crying. Go back upstairs. Breastfeed baby again. Change diaper again. Change baby's clothes. Put baby in chair. Finish eating now cold oatmeal and drinking freezing cup of coffee. Baby's crying. Breastfeed again. Play time. Set baby down to pee. Alone. Ha. Baby's crying. Get off the toilet and go get baby. Go pee. Play time. Nap time. Just kidding, baby's crying. Rock baby to sleep. Baby's crying. Rock baby to asleep again. Breastfeed again. Fall asleep with baby. This is all before 3 P.M. Shall I continue? Can't. Baby's crying."—Keilyn L.

2. It's very simple

"Routine? Hahaha Wake up, keep kids alive, sleep, repeat."—Brook M.

3. We get in lots of play time

"There's no routine. We wake up around 9 A.M., the kids eat, they play, their dad is up for an hour or two before work, more eating, more playing, try to get dinner done by 7 P.M., eat, get ready for bed, kids both asleep by 10 P.M. (on a good day). My 1-year-old has a nap in there someplace. Then I'm awake, alone, usually till 2 A.M. The 1-year-old still wakes up a couple times at night."—Nicole C.

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4. We have a strong routine

"Routine is key in our house for everyone's happiness!

7 A.M.: Wake up, nurse baby and get toddler out of bed.

7:30-7:45 A.M.: Breakfast for everyone!

8:15-9 A.M.: Playtime for baby and toddler. I try and get myself ready during this time.

9:30-11 A.M.: Nap time for baby and one on one time with toddler. We usually do something that baby can't do. Play barbies, do a puzzle or craft involving small things!

11 A.M.-noon: We run any errands we need or go to park and get out!

Noon: Lunch time!

1:00-3/4 P.M.: Nap time for everyone! I pick up the house and prep dinner and the kick my feet up.

3:30-4/5 P.M.: Play time again! Hooray!

5:30-6 P.M.: Dinner time!

6:30 P.M.: Bath time and bedtime routine.

7 P.M.: Bed for baby and toddler watches a show to unwind while I nurse and get baby to bed.

7:30 P.M.: Bed for toddler.

Then my husband and I get our time! ❤️😂

We often go to play groups in the morning (at least twice a week), so babe naps in stroller and it's less 'structured' but he still naps exactly the same time!"—Kelsey S.

5. We do what we can to survive

"It's not a routine... it's called survival 😂"—Jennifer C.

6. It goes by in a blur

"Our only routine is nap time at 11:30 A.M.-1:30 P.M., and bath/books/snuggles before bed at 6:45 P.M. Everything else is a blur. 😂"—Kara M.

7. Each day is different

"6 A.M.: Get ready and pack kids bags (breastfeed)

6.30 A.M.: Drop baby and toddler to day care

7 A.M.-3.30 P.M.: Work

4 P.M.: Get dinner

5 P.M.-6 P.M.: Pick up hubby from work and kids from day care (breastfeed)

7 P.M.-8 P.M.: Cook and serve dinner

8.30 P.M.: Quick clean

9 P.M.: Bath, shower kids (breastfeed cause it's a chore on its own 😂)

10-11 P.M.: Gym

12 P.M.: Husband time 🤣 if he's lucky

2 A.M.: Breastfeed

4-5 A.M.: Breastfeed

6 A.M.: Wake up and repeat 💖😊💪🏽

Wed: Work out, house work spring clean
Thurs: Nails at 7 P.M.
Sat-Sun: Band practice for church stuff

I hope to keep this routine. 😂" —Daniella S.

7. My 3-month-old hates naps

"Well we had a routine sort of started, until my 3-month-old decided he didn't want to take any naps or go to bed at night either 😂Now it's survival mode between crying fits, snuggles, feeding, diaper changes and attempted nap times."—Lisa M.

8. It's a juggle between the big kids and the baby

"Wake up with baby, breakfast, drop 4th grader off to school, drop husband off to work, survive until kindergartener goes to school, feed baby, play with baby, pick up older kids from school, survive until it's time to pick husband up from work, dinner, pray for bedtime to come quick, put older kids to bed, put baby to bed, spend time with husband, and sleep."—Tami H.

9. Trying to remember if I ate

"Up at 8:30 A.M.

If I didn't pump at 530 then try and pump before husband leaves

Look frantically for coffee

Kiss and play with baby

Wash bottles and pumping supplies

Put baby to sleep after a bottle and change

Clean house and do laundry take out trash

Did I eat ? 🤷🏽♀️

I haven't even had time to pee yet so try and make time for that

Babies up so time for a walk then story time

Bottle time

Nap

Pump and wash

Make dinner

Finish laundry

Bathe kiddos

Put kiddos to bed after playing with them and trying to enjoy evening with them

Time for my shower

I get to eat my usually cold dinner

Pump and wash

Sleep at around 1130 pm on to wake up and feed at 1 tops

Pump some more

Maybe wash stuff I used to pump

Go into older sons room to sleep from around 3-5:30 P.M. pump again the sleep till hopefully 8:30 A.M and then it starts all over again 🤭😴😭😍😳🤪"—Hanadi L.

10. I've got two under 2

"I can't seem to get a routine 🤣 my babies don't really follow. But in general: We wake up, I change two diapers and make two bottles, breakfast for myself and my 16-month-old and sit on the couch while feeding my 10-week-old on one arm and using my other arm to feed the oldest and myself, while TV is on. Oldest eats, plays, runs around climbing dancing and singing, then we eat some fruit and sandwich and oldest off to bed for a nap. I give youngest a bottle while having lunch myself. Hopefully youngest sleeps a bit after her bottle so I can run to the barn to do laundry, clean the kitchen, or something like that. Oldest wakes up, I make her something to eat and drink, and she plays around while I try to maybe do something like ironing or cleaning or I'm busy with the baby. And figuring out dinner. Around 5 P.M. daddy comes home, and I can start cooking. Dinner, bath time and when oldest sleeps and youngest had her bottle and sleeps also I can finally do stuff. Like right now.. on FB while youngest is just asleep on my chest after her bottle.. it's almost 10 P.M. in the evening 🙈😴 now hope they both sleep well till tomorrow morning."—Annabell B.

11. There are good days and bad days

"There are good days and bad days. Today has been an uphill battle for sure! Started out with an extremely restless night due to two little restless, scared boys that just had to come in our bed. My sleep-deprived self peels out of bed to get my child ready for school and then I rush driving her to school so she's there on time! Spilled my liquid gold coffee all on the floor of the van! Then come home to the bathroom tub, toilet and sink covered in my son's poop (gotta love potty training and daddy's who don't do poop well). Thinking that after bleach cleaning I might be able to get a work out in since my stomach was growling. So I start the work out but the boys start to fight and drop one of my weights which shakes a picture off the wall and shatters glass everywhere! So my 30-minute work out turned into an hour. All happened before 11 A.M.! I can only hope that the second part of the day has a brighter side."—Miranda S.

12. What we do with twins

"I have twins so a schedule/routine was key from day one. They're 13 months now so it's a little less rigid than it used to be but we wake up around 7 A.M., breakfast, play, snack, play, lunch, nap, snack, play, dinner, play, bath, bed."—Bethany J.

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If there's one thing you learn as a new mama, it's that routine is your friend. Routine keeps your world spinning, even when you're trucking along on less than four hours of sleep. Routine fends off tantrums by making sure bellies are always full and errands aren't run when everyone's patience is wearing thin. And routine means naps are taken when they're supposed to, helping everyone get through the day with needed breaks.

The only problem? Life doesn't always go perfectly with the routine. When my daughter was born, I realized quickly that, while her naps were the key to a successful (and nearly tear-free!) day, living my life according to her nap schedule wasn't always possible. There were groceries to fetch, dry cleaning to pick up, and―if I wanted to maintain any kind of social life―lunch dates with friends to enjoy.

Which is why the Ergobaby Metro Compact City Stroller was such a life-saver. While I loved that it was just 14 pounds (perfect for hoisting up the stairs to the subway or in the park) and folds down small enough to fit in an airplane overhead compartment (you know, when I'm brave enough to travel again!), the real genius of this pint-sized powerhouse is that it doesn't skimp on comfort.

Nearly every surface your baby touches is padded with plush cushions to provide side and lumbar support to everything from their sweet head to their tiny tush―it has 40% more padding than other compact strollers. When nap time rolls around, I could simply switch the seat to its reclined position with an adjustable leg rest to create an instant cozy nest for my little one.

There's even a large UV 50 sun canopy to throw a little shade on those sleepy eyes. And my baby wasn't the only one benefiting from the comfortable design― the Metro is the only stroller certified "back healthy" by the AGR of Germany, meaning mamas get a much-needed break too.

I also appreciate how the Metro fits comfortably into my life. The sleek profile fits through narrow store aisles as easily as it slides up to a table when I'm able to meet a pal for brunch. Plus, the spring suspension means the tires absorb any bumps along our way―helping baby stay asleep no matter where life takes us. When it's time to take my daughter out, it folds easily with one hand and has an ergonomic carry handle to travel anywhere we want to go.

Life will probably never be as predictable as I'd like, but at least with our Metro stroller, I know my child will be cradled with care no matter what crosses our path.

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It's been more than a year since Khloé Kardashian welcomed her daughter True Thompson into the world, and like a lot of new moms, Khloé didn't just learn how to to be a mom this year, she also learned how to co-parent with someone who is no longer her partner. According to the Pew Research Center, co-parenting and the likelihood that a child will spend part of their childhood living with just one parent is on the rise.

There was a ton of media attention on Khloé's relationship with True's father Tristan Thompson in her early days of motherhood, and in a new interview on the podcast "Divorce Sucks!," Khloé explained that co-parenting with someone you have a complicated relationship with isn't always easy, but when she looks at True she knows it's worth it.

"For me, Tristan and I broke up not too long ago so it's really raw," Khloé tells divorce attorney Laura Wasser on the podcast. She explains that even though it does "suck" at times, she's committed to having a good relationship with her ex because she doesn't want True to pick up on any negative energy, even at her young age.

That's why she invited Tristan to True's recent first birthday bash, even though she knew True wouldn't remember that party. "I know she's going to want to look back at all of her childhood memories like we all do," Khloé explained. "I know her dad is a great person, and I know how much he loves her and cares about her, so I want him to be there."

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We totally get why being around Tristan is hard for Khloé, but it sounds like she's approaching co-parenting with a positive attitude that will benefit True in the long run. Studies have found that shared parenting is good for kids and that former couples who have "ongoing personal and emotional involvement with their former spouse" are more likely to rate their co-parenting relationship positively.

Khloé says her relationship with Tristan right now is "civilized," and hopefully it can get even better with time. As Suzanne Hayes noted in her six guiding principles for a co-parenting relationship, there's no magic bullet for moving past the painful feelings that come when a relationship ends and into a healthy co-parenting relationship, but treating your ex with respect and (non-romantic) love is a good place to start. Hayes describes it as "human-to-human, parent-to-parent, we-share-amazing-children-and-always-will love."

It's a great place to start, and it sounds like Khloé has already figured that out.

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Kim Kardashian West welcomed her fourth child into the world. The expectancy and arrival of this boy (her second child from surrogacy) has garnered much attention.

In a surrogacy pregnancy, a woman carries a pregnancy for another family and then after giving birth she relinquishes her rights of the child.

On her website, Kim wrote that she had medical complications with her previous pregnancy leading her to this decision. “I have always been really honest about my struggles with pregnancy. Preeclampsia and placenta accreta are high-risk conditions, so when I wanted to have a third baby, doctors said that it wasn't safe for my—or the baby's—health to carry on my own."

While the experience was challenging for her, “The connection with our baby came instantly and it's as if she was with us the whole time. Having a gestational carrier was so special for us and she made our dreams of expanding our family come true. We are so excited to finally welcome home our baby girl."

A Snapchat video hinted that Kim may have planned to breastfeed her third child. What she chooses to do is of course none of our business. But is has raised the very interesting question, “Wait, can you breastfeed when you use a surrogate?"

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The answer is yes, you sure can! (And you can when you adopt a baby, too!)

When a women is pregnant, she begins a process called lactogenesis in which her body prepares itself to start making milk. This usually starts around the twenty week mark of pregnancy (half way through). Then, when the baby is born, the second phase of lactogenesis occurs, and milk actually starts to fill the breasts.

All of this occurs in response to hormones. When women do not carry a pregnancy, but wish to breastfeed, they can induce lactation, where they replicate the same hormonal process that happens during pregnancy.

A woman who wants to induce lactation can work with a doctor or midwife, and start taking the hormones estrogen and progesterone (which grow breast tissue)—often in the form of birth control pills—along with a medication called domperidone (which increases milk production).

Several weeks before the baby will be born, the woman stops taking the birth control pill but continues to take the domperidone to simulate the hormonal changes that would happen in a pregnancy. She'll also start pumping multiple times per day, and will likely add herbal supplements, like fenugreek and blessed thistle.

Women can also try to induce lactation without the hormones, by using pumping and herbs, it may be harder but some women feel more comfortable with that route.

Inducing lactation takes a lot of dedication—but then again, so does everything related to be a mama. It's a super personal decision, and not right for everyone.

The important thing to remember is that we need to support women and mothers through their entire journey, no matter what decisions they make about themselves and their families—whether Kardashian or the rest of us.

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