I vow to embrace every beautiful, milk-stained, messy moment with my baby

I’m blessed to be right here, right now.

I vow to embrace every beautiful, milk-stained, messy moment with my baby

It was my third outfit change before 10 a.m. This time I opted to throw on black athletic shorts and a faded pink t-shirt from a beach trip a few years back—before my husband and I had kids. Fighting back tears I decided I wasn't going to put on anything else nice today; I was utterly frustrated by the sour smell of spit-up on my clothes.

Now it was time to change my darling two month old's outfit. This was his fifth ensemble of the morning (the spit-up terrorized him more than me that day). I rummaged through his drawers, full of onesies and pants. I chose a dinosaur printed top and pants with a triceratops on his bum.


I loosened the opening on the top of the onesie to fit over his head. As I tugged his little arms into the sleeves and hoisted down the front and back to snap it, I noticed it was tight. His rolls were protruding from the sleeves.

I was dumbstruck and looked at his beautiful face—smiling and cooing at me—and decided this outfit must have been in the dryer too long or washed on the hot cycle one too many times. So I grabbed another outfit and ran through the process again. The same outcome. I decided to try a third shirt—little man outgrew that one, too.

I came to the realization that it wasn't my washer or dryer's fault at all.

Rather, amidst the day in and day out routine—nursing, diaper changing, reading, bathing, swaddling—my little boy was growing at lightning fast speed.

He's flourishing—his body and skills are increasing in leaps and bounds. I realized that morning, though, that lately I was too consumed with and frustrated by a little sour milk that I was becoming sour, too. I was wasting too much time wishing away these days that I didn't see how quickly they truly were passing.

I was thinking ahead to the day when I could get up, shower and wear the same outfit for (pause) the. whole. day. That seemed like a magical thought to me.

I was drifting to the day when I wouldn't be forced to do loads upon loads of unending laundry trying to eliminate that smell of spoiled milk from the air.

To when I wouldn't be dragging a bag the size of a small country everywhere I go with multiple outfit changes for both of us.

To a time when my schedule would not revolve around nursing, pumping and night feedings.

And amidst all of that hoping and longing, I realized something else: time was cruelly ticking on whether or not I chose to notice.

It took some snug, spit-up free (for now) outfits to open my eyes.

This stage is tough, but I vow to stop wasting my time wallowing in the negative aspects of it. I’m choosing to embrace these beautiful, milk-stained, messy moments in all their glory.

Because, before long, I’ll be showered and perfectly coiffed, but that milk he’s drinking will be from a cup. And those smiles and coos will have turned into eye rolls and words. So, for now, I’m going to drink up this mess, spit-up and all.

Instead of getting myself dolled up for the days we spend inside together, I’m going to temporarily ditch the designer duds and be content in oversized t-shirts; they’re much more comfortable for relaxing, cuddling and drinking up my baby’s sweetness anyway.

Rather than fretting about the mountains of laundry piling ceiling high, I’m going to learn to conquer it as I can, when I can. I don’t want to miss out on those snuggles and smiles—they are all too precious and fleeting.

I’ll continue to lug my carpet bag wherever baby and I go. After all, wardrobe changes can be fun—celebrities seem to enjoy them.

And I promise to you, baby, to savor these delicious, unpredictable days together.

You are changing, growing and learning as each minute passes. Your wiggling will soon turn into a roll, which will change into a crawl and then a walk. I’m blessed to be right here, right now, laying still and looking at you as your smile and laugh fill the room and my heart.

I won’t let anything—least of all some sour milk—spoil that anymore.

Every week, we stock the Motherly Shop with innovative and fresh products from brands we feel good about. We want to be certain you don't miss anything, so to keep you in the loop, we're providing a cheat sheet.

So, what's new this week?

Tenth & Pine: Gender-neutral and butter-soft basics for littles + bigs

In 2016, after a stage four endometriosis diagnosis and a 10 year battle with infertility, Tenth & Pine founder Kerynn got her miracle baby, Ezra Jade. As a SAHM with a Masters in Business, she wanted to create a brand that focused on premium quality, function, comfort, and simplicity.

She sought out premium, all natural fabrics and factories that shared her core values, practicing environmentally friendly manufacturing methods with fair and safe working conditions for employees. As a result, her made in the USA, gender-neutral designs check all the boxes. The sustainable, organic basics are perfect for everyday wear, family photos and any adventure in between.

Lucy Lue Organics: Sustainably and ethically-produced modern baby clothes

This family-owned and operated business was started by a mama who wanted out of corporate America after the birth of her son. Thoughtfully designed to mix-and-match, Lucy Lue's sustainably and ethically produced collection of modern organic baby clothes only uses fabrics that are "environmentally friendly from seed to seam." Their gorgeous, earthy tones and comfy, minimalist styles make the perfect addition to first wardrobes from birth through the first years.

Sontakey: Simple bracelets that speak your mind

Sontakey has been such a hit in the Motherly Shop that we knew it was time to expand the line. And since these beautiful mantra bands look so stunning stacked, more options = more fun.

Not sure where to start? Here's what we're adding to our cart:

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14 Toys that will keep your kids entertained inside *and* outside

They transition seamlessly for indoor play.

With Labor day weekend in the rearview and back-to-school in full swing, most parents are fresh out of boxes to check on their "Fun Concierge" hit list. It's also the point of diminishing returns on investing in summer-only toys. So with that in mind, we've rounded up some of our favorite toys that are not only built to last but will easily make the transition from outdoor to indoor play. Even better, they're Montessori-friendly and largely open-ended so your kids can get a ton of use out of them.

From sunny backyard afternoons to rainy mornings stuck inside, these toys are sure to keep little ones engaged and entertained.

Meadow ring toss game

Plan Toys meadow ring toss game

Besides offering a fantastic opportunity to hone focus, coordination, determination and taking turns, lawn games are just plain fun. Set them up close together for the littles and spread them out when Mom and Dad get in on the action. With their low profile and rope rings, they're great for indoors as well.


Balance board

Plan Toys balance board

Balance boards are a fabulous way to get the wiggles out. This one comes with a rope attachment, making it suitable for even the youngest wigglers. From practicing their balance and building core strength to working on skills that translate to skateboarding and snowboarding, it's a year-round physical activity that's easy to bring inside and use between Zoom classes, too!


Detective set

Plan Toys detective setDetective Set

This set has everything your little detective needs to solve whatever mystery they might encounter: an eye glasses, walkie-talkie, camera, a red lens, a periscope and a bag. Neighborhood watch? Watch out.


Wooden doll stroller

Janod wooden doll strollerWooden Doll Stroller

Take their charges on a stroll around the block with this classic doll stroller. With the same versatility they're used to in their own ride, this heirloom quality carriage allows their doll or stuffy to face them or face the world.


Sand play set

Plan Toys sand set

Whether you're hitting the beach or the backyard sandbox, this adorable wooden sand set is ready for action. Each scoop has an embossed pattern that's perfect for sand stamping. They're also totally suitable for water play in the wild or the bathtub.


Water play set

Plan Toys water play set

Filled with sand or water, this tabletop sized activity set keeps little ones busy, quiet and happy. (A mama's ideal trifecta 😉). It's big enough to satisfy their play needs but not so big it's going to flood your floors if you bring the fun inside on a rainy day.


Mini golf set

Plan Toys mini golf set

Fore! This mini golf set is lawn and living room ready. Set up a backyard competition or incorporate into homeschooling brain breaks that shift focus and build concentration.


Vintage scooter balance bike

Janod retro scooter balance bike

Pedals are so 2010. Balance bikes are the way to go for learning to ride a bike while skipping the training wheels stage altogether. This impossibly cool retro scooter-style is built to cruise the neighborhood or open indoor space as they're learning.


Wooden rocking pegasus

plan toys wooden rocking pegasus

Your little will be ready to take flight on this fun pegasus. It gently rocks back and forth, but doesn't skimp on safety—its winged saddle, footrests and backrest ensure kids won't fall off whether they're rocking inside or outside.


Croquet set

Plan Toys croquet set

The cutest croquet set we've ever seen! With adorable animal face wooden balls and a canvas bag for easy clean up, it's also crafted to stick around awhile. Round after round, it's great for teaching kiddos math and problem-solving skills as well.


Wooden digital camera

fathers factory wooden digital camera

Kids get the chance to assemble the camera on their own then can adventure anywhere to capture the best moments. With two detachable magnetic lenses, four built-in filters and video recorder, your little photographer can tap into their creativity from summertime to the holidays.


Wooden bulldozer toy

plan toys wooden bulldozer toy

Whether they're digging up sand in the backyad or picking up toys inside, kids can get as creative as they want picking up and moving things around. Even better? Its wooden structure means it's not an eye sore to look at wherever your digger drops it.


Pull-along hippo

janod toys pull along hippo toy

There's just something so fun about a classic pull-along toy and we love that they seamlessly transition between indoor and outdoor play. Crafted from solid cherry and beechwood, it's tough enough to endure outdoor spaces your toddler takes it on.


Baby forest fox ride-on

janod toys baby fox ride on

Toddlers will love zooming around on this fox ride-on, and it's a great transition toy into traditional balance bikes. If you take it for a driveway adventure, simply use a damp cloth to wipe down the wheels before bringing back inside.


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When Chrissy Teigen announced her third pregnancy earlier this year we were so happy for her and now our hearts are with her as she is going through a pain that is unimaginable for many, but one that so many other mothers know.

Halfway through a high-risk pregnancy complicated by placenta issues, Teigen announced late Wednesday that she has suffered a pregnancy loss.

Our deepest condolences go out to Chrissy and her husband, John Legend (who has been by her side in the hospital for several days now).

In a social media post, Teigen explained she named this baby Jack.


"We are shocked and in the kind of deep pain you only hear about, the kind of pain we've never felt before. We were never able to stop the bleeding and give our baby the fluids he needed, despite bags and bags of blood transfusions. It just wasn't enough," she wrote.

She continued: "We never decide on our babies' names until the last possible moment after they're born, just before we leave the hospital. But we, for some reason, had started to call this little guy in my belly Jack. So he will always be Jack to us. Jack worked so hard to be a part of our little family, and he will be, forever."

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