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Affirmations for the ‘good enough’ mom

I choose to love and care for my children from a place of abundance, not of lack.

Affirmations for the ‘good enough’ mom

Hello, beautiful.

I see you today. Your feet hit the floor reluctantly, but you smile. Even though your eyes are heavy with sleep and your mind is foggy with “what day is it anyway?” you know you have so much to be thankful for. You kiss your babies, smell their sleepy heads. You jostle them out of jammies, carefully handle smelly diapers before your senses have even awakened, and negotiate clothing decisions. You put on the coffee or tea and inhale the aroma with greed, knowing this cup will give you what you need to at least get through the morning.

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And once you are awake, once your mind begins to churn, you hear:

“You woke up at a deficit. Just go back to bed and start over. Wait… you can’t.”

“There is so much to do today. You’ll never get it all done.”

“Today is going to be like every other day. Nothing ever changes.”

“That breakfast isn’t nutritious enough. Why don’t you care about your kids’ health?”

“Why were you so harsh with him just now? He can tell you are angry. You are hurting him. You are a bad mom.”

“Why don’t you get up earlier so you can have alone time before the kids wake up? Most moms do this, why can’t you?”

“Your house is always a wreck. Why do you even bother? The work never ends anyway.”

“You aren’t enough for these kids. They deserve better than you.”

“You’ll never have what _________ has.”

Do any of these sound familiar?

These words are not just half-truths that you could do well to heed. They are not “helpful reminders” of how you need to improve as a woman and mother.

They are one thing, and one thing only: lies.

The only way I know to combat lies is with truth. So here are some specific affirmations for you to repeat to yourself throughout the day to help squash the voice that is constantly nagging you, telling you that you aren’t enough.

Affirmations for you—exactly where you are today

I am exactly who my children need, right now in this moment. I acknowledge my faults and shortcomings and recognize that I am growing as my children grow. I choose to extend grace to myself today.

I am doing the very best that I can with the resources and knowledge that I have, and that is the most loving thing I can do for my children today.

I choose to ignore what other people are doing or buying, and focus on the beauty and gifts within my own life. I choose to cultivate gratitude for where I am, right now in this moment.

I choose to connect my head to my heart and pay attention to my emotions and my body. I will listen to myself and heed my body’s signals so that I can be healthy, whole, and give the best of myself to my family and my work.

I choose to love and care for my children from a place of abundance, not of lack.

I will do my very best to notice the singular magic that this day can hold, even if it’s in the smallest and most unexpected things.

I will strive to act in love, patience and kindness toward my children, and when I don’t I will ask for forgiveness. But most importantly, I will forgive myself.

I will stay true to my priorities in this season of my life, and say “yes” and “no” without guilt or regret.

I say no to perfectionism—in myself and in my children. I say no to striving. I say yes to being, listening, learning and discovering. ?

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    These challenges from Nike PLAYlist are exactly what my child needs to stay active

    Plus a fall family bucket list to keep everyone moving all season long.

    While it's hard to name anything that the pandemic hasn't affected, one thing that is constantly on my mind is how to keep my family active despite spending more time indoors. Normally, this time of year would be spent at dance and gymnastics lessons, meeting up with friends for games and field trips, and long afternoon playdates where we can all let off a little steam. Instead, we find ourselves inside more often than ever before—and facing down a long winter of a lot more of the same.

    I started to search for an outlet that would get my girls moving safely while we social distance, but at first I didn't find a lot of solutions. Online videos either weren't terribly engaging for my active kids, or the messaging wasn't as positive around the power of movement as I would like. Then I found the Nike PLAYlist.

    I always knew that Nike could get me moving, but I was so impressed to discover this simple resource for parents. PLAYlist is an episodic sports show on YouTube that's made for kids and designed to teach them the power of expressing themselves through movement. The enthusiastic kid hosts immediately captured my daughter's attention, and I love how the physical activity is organically incorporated in fun activities without ever being specifically called out as anything other than play. For example, this segment where the kids turn yoga into a game of Paper Scissors Rock? Totally genius. The challenges from #TheReplays even get my husband and me moving more when our daughter turns it into a friendly family competition. (Plus, I love the play-inspired sportswear made just for kids!)

    My daughter loves the simple Shake Ups at the beginning of the episode and is usually hopping off the couch to jump, dance and play within seconds. One of her favorites is this Sock Flinger Shake Up activity from the Nike PLAYlist that's easy for me to get in on too. Even after we've put away the tablet, the show inspires her to create her own challenges throughout the day.

    The best part? The episodes are all under 5 minutes, so they're easy to sprinkle throughout the day whenever we need to work out some wiggles (without adding a lot of screen time to our schedule).

    Whether you're looking for simple alternatives to P.E. and sports or simply need fun ways to help your child burn off energy after a day of socially distanced school, Nike's PLAYlist is a fun, kid-friendly way to get everyone moving.

    Need more movement inspiration for fall? Here are 5 ways my family is getting up and getting active this season:

    1. Go apple picking.

    Truly, it doesn't really feel like fall until we've picked our first apple. (Or had our first bite of apple cider donut!) Need to burn off that extra cinnamon-sugar energy? Declare a quick relay race up the orchard aisle—winner gets first to pick of apples at home.

    To wear: These Printed Training Tights are perfect for when even a casual walk turns into a race (and they help my daughter scurry up a branch for the big apples).

    2. Visit a pumpkin patch.

    We love to pick up a few locally grown pumpkins to decorate or cook with each year. Challenge your child to a "strongman" contest and see who can lift the heaviest pumpkin while you're there.

    To wear: Suit up your little one in comfort with this Baby Full Zip Coverall so you're ready for whatever adventures the day brings.

    3. Have a nature scavenger hunt.

    Scavenger hunts are one of my favorite ways to keep my daughter preoccupied all year long. We love to get outside and search for acorns, leaves and pinecones as part of our homeschool, but it's also just a great way to get her exercising those gross motor skills whenever the wiggles start to build up.

    To wear: It's not truly fall until you break out a hoodie. This cozy Therma Elite Kids Hoodie features a mesh overlay to release heat while your child plays.

    4. Have a touch-football game.

    Tip for parents with very little kids: It doesn't have to last as long as a real football game. 😂 In fact, staging our own mini-games is one of our favorite ways to get everyone up and moving in between quarters during Sunday football, and I promise we all sleep better that night.

    To wear: From impromptu games of tag to running through our favorite trails, these kids' Nike Air Zoom Speed running shoes are made to cover ground all season long.

    5. Create an indoor obstacle course.

    Pretending the floor is lava was just the beginning. See how elaborate your personal course can get, from jumping on the couch to rolling under the coffee table to hopping down the hallway on one foot.

    To wear: These ready-for-any-activity Dri-FIT Tempo Shorts are perfect for crawling, hopping and racing—and cuddling up when it's time to rest.

    This article was sponsored by Nike. Thank you for supporting the brands that supporting Motherly and mamas.

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