An ode to the not-so-new newborn

They are like newborns, but with *deluxe features.* 

An ode to the not-so-new newborn

Nothing compares to the magic of a newborn.

After months of anticipation, you finally get to meet your little one. You gush over their every move and adore all of their perfect little features.

You get to feel your heart flutter as they stretch and yawn—absolutely sure it's the cutest thing that has ever happened.

They burrow on your chest, needing little more than snuggles and food. (And lots of diaper changes.)

You dress them in the sweetest, tiniest outfits imaginable—even if you don't plan to leave the house all day. Even if it's just for a beautiful Instagram photo.


Then, all too quickly, they outgrow those little onesies. As you swap out the newborn sizes for 0-3 months, it may bring a tear to your eye. Because you're wondering where the time went, and how your heart can handle these continuous milestones of infancy and childhood.

I want to let you in on a secret: The not-so-new newborn has a very special kind of magic, too.

The not-so-new newborn looks and acts a lot like the new newborn. She still thrives on snuggles, wears clothes you could swear are meant for dolls and she can crack you up by flailing her arms with the startle reflex.

But now you'll get a glimpse of those *deluxe features.*

The early smiles that will cause you to max out storage space on your phone thanks to a million pictures.

Those sweet coos and giggles that are music to your ears.

They now have longer stretches of awake time to chat, read books and get to know each other.

Their bellies get bigger and they can go a bit longer between feedings. (Meaning more sleep for you. )

Their perfectly kissable legs and arms start to chunk up thanks to all that food. (Those baby rolls are incredible!)

They aren't as fragile feeling anymore—their necks are stronger, their bodies are sturdier.

And you aren't as fragile, either mama. You're stronger, too. And your confidence is growing by the second.

Their eyesight improves, which makes for some adorable staring contests. They love watching you and everything you do.

It's not just your newborn who has been growing and learning.

As a not-so-new new mama, your changes may not be as visible as baby's. Though they are just as profound.

You haven't just been getting to know this new little person, you've also been getting to know this new version of yourself.

You've realized how powerful and capable this mama is, right? (You are!)

On top of that, you're getting to know your baby and all her unique quirks. You know many of her rhythms. You can semi-predict her needs. You can begin to get out and experience the world—or, at least, the neighborhood—together.

You have had a few months together to study each other—you are becoming a professional at being your baby's mother every single day.

That's not to mention how you became a total pro at diaper changes somewhere between the first and thousandth.

There's something about this first transition from newborn to not-so-newborn that's magical, too.

It's the first time you'll step back and realize they're right about how fast time goes.

It's also the first time you'll see that while things keep changing, amazing new benefits unfold around each corner.

It's quite possibly the first time you realize how heartbreaking motherhood can be—with how fast everything changes—while at the same time recognizing how much these little moments fill up your heart so completely.

Before you know it, you'll swap out these teeny clothes for a slightly less teeny size. And I won't lie: This packing away process is always bittersweet.

But now with what you've seen so far, you know the secret. There are so many sweet moments to come. And there is magic in every single milestone and moment ahead, mama.

So buckle up—the fun has just begun.

Every week, we stock the Motherly Shop with innovative and fresh products from brands we feel good about. We want to be certain you don't miss anything, so to keep you in the loop, we're providing a cheat sheet.

So, what's new this week?

Tenth & Pine: Gender-neutral and butter-soft basics for littles + bigs

In 2016, after a stage four endometriosis diagnosis and a 10 year battle with infertility, Tenth & Pine founder Kerynn got her miracle baby, Ezra Jade. As a SAHM with a Masters in Business, she wanted to create a brand that focused on premium quality, function, comfort, and simplicity.

She sought out premium, all natural fabrics and factories that shared her core values, practicing environmentally friendly manufacturing methods with fair and safe working conditions for employees. As a result, her made in the USA, gender-neutral designs check all the boxes. The sustainable, organic basics are perfect for everyday wear, family photos and any adventure in between.

Lucy Lue Organics: Sustainably and ethically-produced modern baby clothes

This family-owned and operated business was started by a mama who wanted out of corporate America after the birth of her son. Thoughtfully designed to mix-and-match, Lucy Lue's sustainably and ethically produced collection of modern organic baby clothes only uses fabrics that are "environmentally friendly from seed to seam." Their gorgeous, earthy tones and comfy, minimalist styles make the perfect addition to first wardrobes from birth through the first years.

Sontakey: Simple bracelets that speak your mind

Sontakey has been such a hit in the Motherly Shop that we knew it was time to expand the line. And since these beautiful mantra bands look so stunning stacked, more options = more fun.

Not sure where to start? Here's what we're adding to our cart:

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It’s science: Vacations make your kids happy long after they’re over

Whether you're planning a quick trip to the lake or flying the fam to a resort, the results are the same: A happier, more connected family.

Whether you're looking for hotels or a rental home for a safe family getaway, or just punching in your credit card number to reserve a spot in a campground a couple of states over, the cost of vacation plans can make a mom wince. And while price is definitely something to consider when planning a family vacation, science suggests we should consider these trips—and their benefits—priceless.

Research indicates that family vacations are essential. They make our, kids (and us) happier and build bonds and memories.

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When Chrissy Teigen announced her third pregnancy earlier this year we were so happy for her and now our hearts are with her as she is going through a pain that is unimaginable for many, but one that so many other mothers know.

Halfway through a high-risk pregnancy complicated by placenta issues, Teigen announced late Wednesday that she has suffered a pregnancy loss.

Our deepest condolences go out to Chrissy and her husband, John Legend (who has been by her side in the hospital for several days now).

In a social media post, Teigen explained she named this baby Jack.


"We are shocked and in the kind of deep pain you only hear about, the kind of pain we've never felt before. We were never able to stop the bleeding and give our baby the fluids he needed, despite bags and bags of blood transfusions. It just wasn't enough," she wrote.

She continued: "We never decide on our babies' names until the last possible moment after they're born, just before we leave the hospital. But we, for some reason, had started to call this little guy in my belly Jack. So he will always be Jack to us. Jack worked so hard to be a part of our little family, and he will be, forever."

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