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It's not news that sex after kids can reduce foreplay to a nod that says, "We've got five minutes, meet you in the bathroom." (And I'm talking the kind with rubber ducks in the tub. Not some "up in the club" kind of business.) Between small people that need you and fighting to stay awake past 8:30, it can be hard to find the time for those meandering, deeply connected sessions that fueled your pre-kid days.
But let's be real. Foreplay is awesome. One could even argue it's better than the main course. First of all, it's always on the menu, no real prep required. It's a fun way to keep things interesting if you're trying to get pregnant, and sometimes more enjoyable when you already are. There's also a never ending selection of toys to make it more fun. As with anything though, the same old recipe can get a bit boring after awhile. One of my new favorite ways to spice things up? Massage candles.
What is a massage candle?
Generally made with a blend of wax and nourishing oils, massage candles offer all the ambiance and sexy vibes of regular candles but transform into a sultry massage oil as they melt. If you've ever had the pleasure of a hot oil massage you know there are few things more relaxing than warm oil poured over your skin. It arouses all of the senses and instantly ups the hotness factor to 11.
To get the most out of your massage candle experience, go ahead and give it a light about 15-20 minutes before you want to use it. (The smaller the candle, the less time it needs!) Once enough has melted, extinguish the flame and wait a minute or two for it to cool a bit. You can then pour directly onto the skin, or into your hand before massaging it anywhere your body needs a little extra attention. The best part is you don't even have to be good at giving massages for it to feel absolutely incredible. (One word to the wise, however: Do NOT use it as lube or on the genital area.)
And because pouring hot melted oil all over is as potentially messy as it sounds, I highly recommend either throwing down a towel or at the very least, swapping out your good sheets for the night. Is it worth the extra trouble? Unequivocally yes.
No time for these shenanigans? Don't count yourself out. Massage oil candles are an awesome way to indulge in some self care. Instead of slathering on some lotion after your shower, take a few minutes to dim the lights, light your candle and oil yourself up instead. (You'll barely hear the banging on the door, I promise.)
Massage candles are a growing market (not a surprise given the fact we're all kind of candle obsessed these days) with a variety of blends, scents and textures available. From the fanciest French-crafted luxuries to travel-friendly beauties from our favorite sexual wellness brands, here are some of the best massage candles to explore with a partner or even solo.