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No one told me how special it would be to watch my dad turn into a Grandpa

Seeing him interact with my son is pure magic. ✨

No one told me how special it would be to watch my dad turn into a Grandpa

Becoming a mom was life-changing—that's nothing new. What I didn't expect was for my son to change my father's life so drastically from the second he was born. It's been life-changing for all of us.

My dad has always been a character. I remember when I was little that he was the life of the party. He would drag me to the dance floor to show off our perfectly coordinated father-daughter moves and he would stay up late listening to music or watching movies.

My parents had tons of friends who were constantly parading our place keeping it loud and alive. And we traveled— we traveled so much as a family that I think I've seen most of the world before my adult years even started.

Then he grew older, and so did I. I moved far away, started a new life, got a job that kept me busy, made new friends and fell in love. And so the adventures with my parents became fewer and more spread out. My dad became slower and he rarely stays up late now. Living in New York made me grow colder and age did the same for him.

My parents struggled with infertility for more than a decade until my mom was finally pregnant with me. She was unable to get pregnant again so I was an only child. They always wanted a big family with children running around the house, but life had a different plan for them.

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I spent most of my adult years telling my parents to not hold their breath for grandchildren because my career was more important.

But then I got pregnant.

The day I told my parents I was expecting a boy I could already feel how this baby was going to change my father's life. After all these years, he was finally going to be able to spoil someone even more than he spoiled me. But it was even better, because—in the very old school way of thinking he has—my father was going to be able to teach his grandson all the "boy stuff" he was not able to teach me.

He immediately bought his unborn grandson a soccer shirt that will probably fit him when he turns 14 years old. That's how excited my dad was about the future.

Seeing him interact with my son is pure magic.

At first, it was rocky—he had forgotten how to hold babies and was worried he would hurt him. He would ask how long a newborn would sleep during the day because all he wanted to do was make funny faces and stare at this tiny human. But with every day that went by, my dad's love for my son grew more and more. When my son became mobile, my dad would follow him with a close eye making sure that he wouldn't get into any trouble, shooing away our family cats and dogs that wanted to come to sniff and lick their new play buddy.

Now that he's a full-on toddler, they have so much fun together. I see my dad do the same things I remember him doing with me as a kid, like pretend horse riding on his knees or hiding behind a door for me to come find him.

Whenever we go somewhere all together as a big family, my dad makes sure that everyone knows he is his favorite grandson (yes, he is the only grandson, but still the favorite!). He also asks people if my son looks like him because he is convinced they are identical twins separated by many many years (to his defense, my son looks a lot like me and I look a lot like my dad so he might be onto something).

Recently, we were having dinner and I was trying to have a conversation with my dad, but he was not listening because my son was playing peek-a-boo behind a napkin.

"Hello? Can someone pay attention to me and not my son?" I asked, frustrated.

My dad laughed out loud. "Life is not about you anymore, it's all about him for me."

And that's when it hit me. The cool dad he used to be with me, the funny, playing, chasing dad I remembered is not gone, he was just replaced by a funnier, more loving grandfather. And I couldn't ask for anything better for my son to experience.

I hope my dad gets many years to chase after his grandson because, selfishly, I get to see him in his best role yet—as Grandpa.


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I never wanted to be a mom. It wasn't something I ever thought would happen until I fell madly in love with my husband—who knew very well he wanted children. While he was a natural at entertaining our nephews or our friends' kids, I would awkwardly try to interact with them, not really knowing what to say or do.

Our first pregnancy was a surprise, a much-wanted one but also a unicorn, "first try" kind of pregnancy. As my belly grew bigger, so did my insecurities. How do you even mom when you never saw motherhood in your future? I focused all my uncertainties on coming up with a plan for the delivery of my baby—which proved to be a terrible idea when my dreamed-of unmedicated vaginal birth turned into an emergency C-section. I couldn't even start motherhood the way I wanted, I thought. And that feeling happened again when I couldn't breastfeed and instead had to pump and bottle-feed. And once more, when all the stress from things not going my way turned into debilitating postpartum anxiety that left me not really enjoying my brand new baby.

As my baby grew, slowly so did my confidence that I could do this. When he would tumble to the ground while learning how to walk and only my hugs could calm him, I felt invincible. But on the nights he wouldn't sleep—whether because he was going through a regression, a leap, a teeth eruption or just a full moon—I would break down in tears to my husband telling him that he was a better parent than me.

Then I found out I was pregnant again, and that this time it was twins. I panicked. I really cannot do two babies at the same time. I kept repeating that to myself (and to my poor husband) at every single appointment we had because I was just terrified. He, of course, thought I could absolutely do it, and he got me through a very hard pregnancy.

When the twins were born at full term and just as big as singleton babies, I still felt inadequate, despite the monumental effort I had made to grow these healthy babies and go through a repeat C-section to make sure they were both okay. I still felt my skin crawl when they cried and thought, What if I can't calm them down? I still turned to my husband for diaper changes because I wasn't a good enough mom for twins.

My husband reminded me (and still does) that I am exactly what my babies need. That I am enough. A phrase that has now become my mantra, both in motherhood and beyond, because as my husband likes to say, I'm the queen of selling myself short on everything.

So when my babies start crying, I tell myself that I am enough to calm them down.

When my toddler has a tantrum, I remind myself that I am enough to get through to him.

When I go out with the three kids by myself and start sweating about everything that could go wrong (poop explosions times three), I remind myself that I am enough to handle it all, even with a little humor.


And then one day I found this bracelet. Initially, I thought how cheesy it'd be to wear a reminder like this on my wrist, but I bought it anyway because something about it was calling my name. I'm so glad I did because since day one I haven't stopped wearing it.

Every time I look down, there it is, shining back at me. I am enough.

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