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After I got married, I always pictured being a mom of two boys. I can't say why that is, but that's always the way I saw my family shaping up for some reason. Fast forward five years later and here I am—the mother of two beautiful boys.


I joke that my husband xeroxed himself, because they both look exactly like him. And I mean exactly. I did the heavy lifting, and he got beautiful little mini-me's. I guess it's okay because he's handsome and quite the catch, if I'm being honest, so I hope my boys can be like him someday.

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When we found out my first baby was a boy, people would say things like, "That's good, at least it takes the pressure off of giving your husband a son." Those same people must not have been paying attention in school because it's the man who determines the sex of the baby. (But that is a lesson for another day).

When we found out our second child was a boy, I can't even tell you how many people said to me, "That's great! Are you going to try for a girl?" I don't know how you even "try" for a girl. I think if someone cracked the code on how to determine your baby's sex naturally, they'd probably be a billionaire.

But from the beginning, we always knew we wanted two children. We felt like that was a complete family for us—boys, or girls, or one of each, it didn't matter. Healthy was all that mattered.

We feel comfortable with playing man-on-man vs. zone defense. A family of four has always felt right to us. We don't need a girl to complete our family. I don't need bows and ballet lessons. I don't need pigtails and pink rooms. I'm happy being the proud mom of two healthy little men.

I love my boys. I wear the #boymom badge of honor with pride.

My boys love their mama. 💙

My boys inspire my inner child. 👶

My boys expect me to reach to the deepest part of my imagination to tell them a story. 🌈

My boys make me love activities I didn't necessarily love growing up—like playing ghostbusters and catching worms. 🤢

Boys clothes are SO cute. I mean a bowtie and suspenders on a toddler, or a track suit on an infant. I meannnnnnnn! ⧓

My boys are big time snugglers. 😍

My son potty trained pretty easily (and using public restrooms are a breeze with boys!) 🚽

My boys ask me to marry them. 👫

My boys tell me that I look beautiful when I need to hear it most.

And maybe most importantly, boys will eventually become men. So, we need to raise them right. We need to show them how to be men—gentlemen.

Educate them, so they are smart, good people. Lead by example, so they are respectful to their friends, teachers and eventually partners and bosses.

It's a big responsibility—especially in today's climate. So here I am, a proud boy mom, teaching love and compassion to her sons. And I wouldn't have it any other way.

Motherhood is a practice in learning, growing and loving more than you ever thought possible. Even as a "veteran" mama of four young sons and one newly adopted teenager, Jalyssa Richardson enthusiastically adapts to whatever any given day has in store—a skill she says she's refined through the years.

Here's what just one day in her life looks like:


Jalyssa says she learned to embrace agility throughout her motherhood journey. Here's more from this incredible mama of five boys.

What is the most challenging part of your day as a mom of five?

Time management! I want to meet each of the boys' individual needs—plus show up for myself—but I often feel like someone gets overlooked.

What's the best part of being a mom of five?

The little moments of love. The hugs, the kisses, the cuddles, the smiles... they all serve as little reminders that I am blessed and I'm doing okay.

Are there misconceptions about raising boys?

There are so many misconceptions about raising boys. I think the biggest one is that boys don't have many emotions and they're just so active all the time. My boys display many emotions and they also love to be sweet and cuddly a lot of the time.

What do you think would surprise people the most about being a mom of five?

How much I enjoy it. I never knew I wanted to be a mom until I was pregnant with my first. My desire only grew and the numbers did! I am surprised with every single baby as my capacity to love and nurture grows. It's incredible.

How do you create balance and make time for yourself?

Balance for me looks like intentional planning and scheduling because I never want my boys to feel like they aren't my first priority, but it is extremely difficult. What I try to do is not fit it all into one day. I have work days because motherhood is my first priority. I fit in segments of self-care after the kids' bedtime so I don't grow weary.

What's the biggest lesson you have learned from motherhood?

I have learned that sacrifice is actually beautiful. I was terrified of the selflessness motherhood would require, but I've grown so much through the sacrifice. There is nothing better than living for something bigger than myself.

When did you first feel like a mom? How has your motherhood evolved?

I first felt like a mom when I was pregnant with my first son and I intentionally chose to change my eating habits so my body could be strong and healthy for him. I didn't have to think twice—I just did what I thought would be best for him. That decision being so effortless made me realize I was made for motherhood.

My perspective has changed with each baby as I've realized motherhood doesn't have to be one-size-fits-all. With my first son, I was a by-the-book mama and it was so stressful. With each baby, I have felt more freedom and it has made motherhood so much more beautiful. I have evolved into the mother that they need, I am perfect for these boys.

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