Marry the man who will be the best father to your children

Marry the man whose Amazon history includes belly butter, granny panties, and pumping bras. 

I saw him across a crowded room. And all I could think was that is a one tall, dark, handsome and nerdy-looking guy. (Totally my type.) I MUST MEET HIM.

We hit it off immediately—and that enchanted evening has turned into 14 years together, eight house moves, three babies and one wonderful life.

Let me be clear: I first locked eyes and zeroed in on my the-man-who-became-my-husband because he was HOT.

As we inched towards marriage, I thought about how funny he was. How much he encouraged me in my professional dreams. How adventurous our life together would be. Those are important things, sure. But in the years since, I've discovered a whole host of reasons to marry that man.

What I should have said to my falling-in-love- and-I-hope-he-proposes self was this.

Marry THIS person—

Marry the person who will eat breakfast outside in December when your morning sickness is so bad that even the sight of food makes you vomit.

Marry the person who won't make your turn off that ridiculous TV show because they know how much you love it.

Marry the person who will drop everything to bring MegaStuff Oreos home to his 8-months-pregnant wife when she texts him: “THIS IS URGENT."

Marry the person who will be mistaken for a doctor when he recites your “station," dilation and blood pressure back to the resident OBGYN when you're about to give birth.

Marry the person who will know exactly how to comfort you during the darkest of times without even saying a word.

Marry the person who will cradle your newborn baby in his arms and make your child looks so tiny, and feel so loved.

Marry the person who will shave your legs when you can't after a C-section.

Marry the person who will tell you that you are a superhero when you need to hear it most.

Marry the person whose Amazon history will include belly butter, granny panties and pumping bras.

Marry the person who will bring coffee—that precious nectar from the gods—to your bedside without being asked after a particularly sleepless night with a newborn.

Marry the person who will endure an incredibly difficult job in order to provide for their family.

Marry the person who will find the sight of you in day-old sweatpants incredibly sexy.

Marry the person who will turn even the most mundane tasks like grocery shopping or decluttering into a fun "date" together.

Marry the person who will know the *exact* subtext when you text, “SOOO when are you getting home?"

Marry the person who will get enraged when they read about sexism—against boys or girls—and vows to transform the world alongside you.

Marry the person who will understands that matching family Christmas pajamas are a NEED, not a want.

Marry the person who will analyze your child's poop patterns, sleep schedule and speech issues with as much intensity as you.

Marry the person who will just KNOW when you need a break and will give you an hour, day or week off, entirely guilt-free.

Marry the person who will tell you, no you're not acting crazy (when, let's be're acting a little crazy.)

Marry the person who will see the adorable, hilarious, incredibly-demanding little person you created together and say: Let's do it again.

Marry the person who will put you and your little family first, above all else.

Marry the person who will not judge the Etsy packages, the Amazon Prime boxes occasional wine delivery that mysteriously shows up on your doorstep.

Marry the person who will beams as big you as do as your kid "dances" across the stage for the first time.

Marry the person who will spend their hard-won Christmas bonus buying a minivan because the swagger wagon is just necessary at this stage of life.

Marry the person who will cheer you on in your career and act as your proudest fan.

Marry the person you know will set the standard in a spouse for your children.

Marry the person who will make the best T-Rex noises playing “DINOSAURS ATTACK" with your three kids downstairs.

Marry the person whose idea of the best life is the exact one you'll be living as parents. MARRY THAT PERSON.

10 must-have registry items that will change your life, mama

The baby gear heavy hitters that should be top of your list

Calling all mamas-to-be! It's a fundamental truth of (impending) motherhood that your prepping-for-baby To Do list can feel a mile long, but really the best way to feel organized is to sort out the most important item at the top of your list: your registry. Sure the items you choose to include will end up running the gamut from nice-to-haves to absolutely essential game-changers, but mamas in the know quickly learn one thing: Not all baby gear is created equal.

So while you can and should pepper your registry with adorable inclusions that aren't necessarily can't-live-withouts (go ahead, add 'em!), you should make sure you're ticking the boxes on those pieces of baby gear that can be absolute life savers once you're in full-blown mama mode. From car seats to bouncers and playmats, your play and travel gear will be some of the most obvious important items on your list, but so can unexpected things, like a super comfy baby carrier and a snooze-inducing white noise machine. So to help you sort through the must-have options, we turned to the holy grail of motherhood that is buybuy BABY and handpicked 10 of the very best essential pieces that will change your life, we promise.

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We've long admired this female-founded brand and the brilliant mind behind it, Eliza Blank. (She even joined Motherly co-founder Liz Tenety on and episode of The Motherly Podcast!) The mission behind the business was simple: To make the process of bringing plants into your home as easy as possible, and as wonderful as the plant themselves. With their in-house, exclusively designed minimalist planters, the end result makes plant parenthood just a few clicks away.

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The 6 biggest lies I believed before having kids

Just about all of us had set assumptions about raising kids before we became parents ourselves.

Just about all of us had set assumptions about raising kids before we became parents ourselves. Some of these ideas might have been based on our own ideas of how we would absolutely do things differently than everyone else. Others, we believed what everyone else told us would happen would apply to our littles, too. But, that's not always the case, mama.

Below are six of the biggest lies I believed before having kids—and the reality of what actually happened for me.

1. Put your baby down drowsy, but awake

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