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Boys can cry, too

I don't think I will ever understand the notion that crying is something only women do.

Boys can cry, too

While running errands the other day, I witnessed a boy, maybe seven or eight years old, absolutely bawling his eyes out. I had no idea why, but there he stood, in the middle of the aisle, hands covering his face.

After about a minute, a man, whom I suspect was the boy's father, crouched in front of the crying child. I was waiting for consoling of some sort, but instead, what I heard, was a little shocking.

"No more crying. Boys don't cry. Man up."

The little boy wiped his nose with his sleeve and attempted to muffle his sniffles. The father put his hand on the boy's back as if to usher him out of the aisle, and they were gone.

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I stood there for a few seconds a little taken aback.

Since when do boys not cry? I must have missed that memo.

Truthfully, I am always moved when I see a man showing his emotions. It is one of the many things I love about my husband. On our wedding day we did a first look where we see each other before the ceremony; me, all dressed in my beautiful, white dress and him in his tuxedo. He had his back to me and from the moment he turned around and took one look at me, he started bawling his eyes out. When our wedding ceremony started, and I started my walk down the aisle, I made eye contact with my husband and he was tearing up, again.

Those were both absolutely beautiful moments, for both of us, and I loved that he not only felt comfortable showing his emotions in front of me, but that he felt comfortable showing them in general.

I don't think I will ever understand the notion that crying is something only women do. I won't even get into how women are perceived when they do show emotions, particularly in the workplace. Women are very rarely put into positions of power, simply because they are seen as too emotional. Whenever a decision is made, it is questioned whether or not there's too much emotion in it.

As a parent, however, I want to encourage my children to express any and all of their emotions. No child should ever feel restricted from showing us exactly how they feel. Crying does not, and will not, ever make a man less of a man.

Having a son myself, I will do everything in my power to teach him that there is absolutely nothing wrong with showing your emotions.

If you want to cry, cry.

If you need to vent, vent.

If something makes you so angry, you're in tears, then so be it.

Sometimes, we just need a good cry. Boys, girls, women, men, it doesn't matter. It is such a strong and powerful emotion.

I never want my son to ever feel like he can't express himself in front of me or in front of others.

I never want my son to feel like any less of a person if he does cry.

I never want my son to think there is a negative connotation that comes with crying.

I never want my son to think it's "girly" to cry.

I never want my son to keep his feelings or emotions bottled up.

I want my son to be comfortable expressing his emotions, even if that includes crying.

Crying is not feminine; crying is not weak; crying is human.

No one, either child or adult, should ever be made to feel anything less. And I will make sure I pass this on to my son and eventually his children.

By its very nature, motherhood requires some lifestyle adjustments: Instead of staying up late with friends, you get up early for snuggles with your baby. Instead of spontaneous date nights with your honey, you take afternoon family strolls with your little love. Instead of running out of the house with just your keys and phone, you only leave with a fully loaded diaper bag.

For breastfeeding or pumping mamas, there is an additional layer of consideration around when, how and how much your baby will eat. Thankfully, when it comes to effective solutions for nursing or bottle-feeding your baby, Dr. Brown's puts the considerations of mamas and their babies first with products that help with every step of the process—from comfortably adjusting to nursing your newborn to introducing a bottle to efficiently pumping.

With countless hours spent breastfeeding, pumping and bottle-feeding, the editors at Motherly know the secret to success is having dependable supplies that can help you feed your baby in a way that matches lifestyle.

Here are 9 breastfeeding and pumping products to help you no matter what the day holds.

Customflow™ Double Electric Breast Pump

Dr. Brown's electric pump

For efficient, productive pumping sessions, a double electric breast pump will help you get the job done as quickly as possible. Quiet for nighttime pumping sessions and compact for bringing along to work, this double pump puts you in control with fully adjustable settings.

$159.99

Hands-Free Pumping Bra

Dr. Brown''s hands free pumping bra

Especially in the early days, feeding your baby can feel like a pretty consuming task. A hands-free pumping bra will help you reclaim some of your precious time while pumping—and all mamas will know just how valuable more time can be!

$29.99

Manual Breast Pump with SoftShape™ Silicone Shield

Dr. Brown's manual breast pump

If you live a life that sometimes takes you away from electrical outlets (that's most of us!), then you'll absolutely want a manual breast pump in your arsenal. With two pumping modes to promote efficient milk expression and a comfort-fitted shield, a manual pump is simply the most convenient pump to take along and use. Although it may not get as much glory as an electric pump, we really appreciate how quick and easy this manual pump is to use—and how liberating it is not to stress about finding a power supply.

$29.99

Nipple Shields and Sterilization Case

Dr. Brown's nipple shields

There is a bit of a learning curve to breastfeeding—for both mamas and babies. Thankfully, even if there are some physical challenges (like inverted nipples or a baby's tongue tie) or nursing doesn't click right away, silicone nipple shields can be a huge help. With a convenient carry case that can be sterilized in the microwave, you don't have to worry about germs or bacteria either. 🙌

$9.99

Silicone One-Piece Breast Pump

Dr. Brown's silicone pump

When you are feeding your baby on one breast, the other can still experience milk letdown—which means it's a golden opportunity to save some additional milk. With a silent, hands-free silicone pump, you can easily collect milk while nursing.

$14.99

Breast to Bottle Pump & Store Feeding Set

After a lifetime of nursing from the breast, introducing a bottle can be a bit of a strange experience for babies. Dr. Brown's Options+™ and slow flow bottle nipples were designed with this in mind to make the introduction to bottles smooth and pleasant for parents and babies. As a set that seamlessly works together from pumping to storing milk to bottle feeding, you don't have to stress about having everything you need to keep your baby fed and happy either.

$24.99

Washable Breast Pads

washable breast pads

Mamas' bodies are amazingly made to help breast milk flow when it's in demand—but occasionally also at other times. Especially as your supply is establishing or your breasts are fuller as the length between feeding sessions increase, it's helpful to use washable nursing pads to prevent breast milk from leaking through your bra.

$8.99

Breast Milk Storage Bags

Dr. Brown's milk storage bags

The essential for mamas who do any pumping, breast milk storage bags allow you to easily and safely seal expressed milk in the refrigerator or freezer. Dr. Brown's™ Breast Milk Storage Bags take it even further with extra thick walls that block out scents from other food items and feature an ultra secure lock to prevent leaking.

$7.99


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