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5 things lactation consultants want new moms to know about breastfeeding

Breastfeeding is an ever-evolving relationship with your body, your baby and your daily routine.

5 things lactation consultants want new moms to know about breastfeeding

As a lactation counselor I get all kinds of unusual and intimate questions throughout the day, in and out of the office. It's an interesting and fulfilling job, and I absolutely love supporting moms in this precious and intimate time in their lives.


Here are 5 things that I, as a lactation counselor, want new breastfeeding mothers to know:

1. Breastfeed early + often.

This helps establish your supply. Moms like schedules—really, we do —but babies don't (at least not in the beginning). Their job is to eat, sleep, poop and cuddle with their parents. Your job is to take care of your newborn, and recover/relax as much as possible. So spend time on the couch, enjoy the snuggles and binge-watch as that little one cluster feeds all night long. It's normal, and I promise it won't always be like this. (In fact, you might soon miss this stage!)

2. Find support.

Breastfeeding is an ever-evolving relationship with your body, your baby and your daily routine. Surround yourself with cheerleaders, professionals and people who are going to encourage you during your hardest nights. Get your partner and your family on board, and give them specific ways to help you (watch the toddler, bring the nursing pillow, get me some water—please!). You can do this, but it helps to connect to a community made up of millions of mothers and the experts who support them. You are not alone in your joy or your struggles.

3. Know that there are no silly questions when it comes to breastfeeding.

It's truly one of the most unnatural, natural things you will do. Mama needs to learn and baby needs to learn. We all have some innate abilities when it comes to breastfeeding, but there is also a HUGE learning curve. Before your first baby was born you'd never had a small human hanging on your nipple for half an hour... right?

Find a Certified Lactation Counselor or International Board Certified Lactation Consultant in your area. Set up an appointment or attend a breastfeeding support group. Your questions are valid and have most likely been asked before.

4. Realize that pumping is a learned art + you might need help.

If you're going back to work, or need to spend time away from baby, find a friend or a professional who is really proficient in pumping and ask for their guidance. There are many tricks that can make pumping an easier experience. Here are some of my top tips:

  • Make sure you have the correct flange size, which will help the milk to flow without irritating your breasts. Keep in mind that your nipples change size over time. You might start out with a 24 mm flange and need to go up to a 27 mm after you are pumping a while. You might use a 27 mm on your right and a 24 mm on your left. Figure out what works for you, because it really affects output.
  • Refrigerate your pump parts after your pumping session and wash everything once a day. This saves you from washing after every session: life-changing!
  • Get a hands-free bra. I love the Simple Wishes bra, but there are a ton on the market.
  • Buy a second set of all your parts so you aren't running around like crazy if your dog eats a flange—hey, it happens!
  • Get some fun accessories. Pumping is not glamorous, but you can feel more fashionable is you have a nice bag! I love SarahWells bags. She was an exclusively pumping, full-time working mama. This lady gets it.

5. Trust the process. Trust your baby. Trust your body.

Your body was made to make milk. But we live in a society that wants hard and fast evidence for everything. Moms want to see *exactly* how much their baby is eating, but that's not how breastfeeding works. It's also not how parenting works. As a mom, breastfeeding taught me to relax, how to read my baby and how to make decisions that were right for MY family.

Is your baby pooping and peeing on a regular schedule? Do your breasts feel drained after a feeding? Is baby gaining weight and meeting developmental milestones? If so, then your baby is getting enough! A baby might nurse every hour one day and every three hours the next. It ebbs and flows. Follow baby's cues and you will make milk for as long as you wish to nurse.

Everyone will have an opinion. Take the good ones, toss the bad ones and believe that you know your baby and your body better than anyone else.

And remember, the most important thing is to feed your baby, not necessarily what you fed your baby.

You were born to do this. And so was your baby.

As much as I love fall, it always feels like the season when my family's routine gets kicked into overdrive. With our oldest in (homeschool) kindergarten, my youngest on the brink of entering her twos, work, housework and *all the things* filling my day, it's hard not to feel a little overwhelmed sometimes. Did I mention we're still in a pandemic? (Yeah, it's a lot.) And while I try to take a positive view as much as I can, now more than ever I definitely jump at the chance to take anything off my busy plate.

One thing first in line at the chopping block? Cooking. To be fair, I like cooking. I cooked most of our meals long before I had ever even heard of social distancing. But there's something about the pandemic that suddenly made cooking every single meal feel exponentially more draining.

Enter Daily Harvest. They deliver nourishing, delicious food right to your door. Daily Harvest's mix of smoothies, bowls, flatbreads, snacks and more provide a balanced, whole food options that are as satisfying as they are nutritious. But my favorite part? When we're ready to eat, I simply pull the food from the freezer and it's ready in minutes—without any chopping, measuring or searching for a recipe. Even better, they're incredibly tasty, meaning I'm not struggling to get my girls to dig in. Not cooking has never felt so good.

Here are my 8 favorite products that are helping to lighten my load right now:

Mulberry + Dragonfruit Oat Bowl

Mulberry + Dragonfruit Oat Bowl

One thing that actually helps break up the monotony of quarantine? Trying and introducing new ingredients to my family. I love this overnight oat bowl (add milk the night before and let it set in your fridge overnight—easy-peasy!) because not only does it not compromise on nutrition, but it also helps me bring new whole fruits, vegetables and superfoods to the table with ease.

Mint + Cacao Smoothie

Mint + Cacao Smoothie

I kid you not, these taste exactly like a mint chocolate chip milkshake. (Just ask my 4-year-old, who is constantly stealing sips from my glass.) What she doesn't know? She's actually getting organic banana, spinach and chlorella with every sip. #momwin

Kabocha + Sage Flatbread

Kabocha + Sage Flatbread

Our family's eating habits have been leaning more plant-forward this year, which often means a lot of veggie washing, peeling and chopping every time I cook. That's why these flatbreads are my new best friend come lunchtime. This Kabocha + Sage Flatbread is made with a gluten-free cauliflower crust topped with kabocha squash, fennel and sage for a taste of fall in every bite. (Missing the cheese? You can add it before baking for more of a pizza feel.)

Kale + Sweet Potato Flatbread

Kale + Sweet Potato Flatbread

There's something about the combination of sweet potato crust topped with red cabbage, organic greens and an herby-cilantro sauce that is so delicious… like surprisingly delicious. I polished off this bad boy in seconds! And unlike other "veggie" crusts I've tried, these are actually clean (AKA no fillers, preservations, partially-hydrogenated oil or artificial anything). Plus, it couldn't be easier to throw in the oven between conference calls and homeschool lessons.

Cacao + Avocado Smoothie

Cacao + Avocado Smoothie

Any time I get to serve a breakfast that tastes like chocolate, it's a good day. (That goes double when it's *my* breakfast.) This rich, chocolatey smoothie is packed with organic zucchini, avocado, pumpkin seeds and pea protein for a nourishing mix of healthy fats and muscle-building protein so I can carry that baby all day long. And did I mention the chocolate?

Vanilla Bean + Apple Chia Bowl

Vanilla Bean + Apple Chia Bowl

Maybe it's just me, but after a long week of cooking, the last thing I want to do on Saturday morning is...wake up and cook. That's why these one-step breakfasts are saving my weekend. I simply add our favorite milk the night before and store the bowl in the fridge overnight. Come morning, I have a nutritious chia bowl that powers me through even the busiest day of errands. It's also Instagram-ready, which makes me feel like I'm out brunching (even if I can't remember the last time I was in a restaurant).

Cacao Nib + Vanilla Bites

Cacao Nib + Vanilla Bites

My kids have turned into snack monsters during quarantine, and I'm often struggling to find a wholesome option (that doesn't require a lot of extra cooking or else I resort to something ultra-refined and shelf-stable). These bites are the hero I never knew I needed. For one, they taste like cookie dough, but they're actually packed with chickpeas, pumpkin, dates and flax seed (among other whole ingredients). But unlike actual cookie dough, I don't have to go anywhere near my mixer to whip them up—all I have to do is pull the container out of the freezer, let them defrost a bit and we can all enjoy a treat.

Cauliflower Rice + Pesto Harvest Bowl

Cauliflower Rice + Pesto Harvest Bowl

Sometimes I have a little more time to cook, but I still want a quick, stress-free solution. (Especially because it always feels like I just cleaned up from the last meal.) I love these Harvest Bowls because they warm up in under five minutes on the stove top (or microwave!) but pack tons of flavor. The Cauliflower Rice + Pesto bowl is one of my favorites, with basil, olive oil and nutritional yeast for a hearty dish reminiscent of a mouth-watering Italian meal. When I'm feeling extra fancy, I add leftover grilled chicken or a fried egg.

Strawberry + Rich, Rippled Berry Compote Scoops

Strawberry + Rich, Rippled Berry Compote Scoops

Who doesn't want to end the day with a little something sweet? This creamy and decadent frozen treat from Daily Harvest is swirled with sweet berries and tropical dragonfruit for an antioxidant burst you'll feel good about—but that your kiddos will just think is ice cream. Go ahead, take credit for being the best mom ever.

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I never wanted to be a mom. It wasn't something I ever thought would happen until I fell madly in love with my husband—who knew very well he wanted children. While he was a natural at entertaining our nephews or our friends' kids, I would awkwardly try to interact with them, not really knowing what to say or do.

Our first pregnancy was a surprise, a much-wanted one but also a unicorn, "first try" kind of pregnancy. As my belly grew bigger, so did my insecurities. How do you even mom when you never saw motherhood in your future? I focused all my uncertainties on coming up with a plan for the delivery of my baby—which proved to be a terrible idea when my dreamed-of unmedicated vaginal birth turned into an emergency C-section. I couldn't even start motherhood the way I wanted, I thought. And that feeling happened again when I couldn't breastfeed and instead had to pump and bottle-feed. And once more, when all the stress from things not going my way turned into debilitating postpartum anxiety that left me not really enjoying my brand new baby.

As my baby grew, slowly so did my confidence that I could do this. When he would tumble to the ground while learning how to walk and only my hugs could calm him, I felt invincible. But on the nights he wouldn't sleep—whether because he was going through a regression, a leap, a teeth eruption or just a full moon—I would break down in tears to my husband telling him that he was a better parent than me.

Then I found out I was pregnant again, and that this time it was twins. I panicked. I really cannot do two babies at the same time. I kept repeating that to myself (and to my poor husband) at every single appointment we had because I was just terrified. He, of course, thought I could absolutely do it, and he got me through a very hard pregnancy.

When the twins were born at full term and just as big as singleton babies, I still felt inadequate, despite the monumental effort I had made to grow these healthy babies and go through a repeat C-section to make sure they were both okay. I still felt my skin crawl when they cried and thought, What if I can't calm them down? I still turned to my husband for diaper changes because I wasn't a good enough mom for twins.

My husband reminded me (and still does) that I am exactly what my babies need. That I am enough. A phrase that has now become my mantra, both in motherhood and beyond, because as my husband likes to say, I'm the queen of selling myself short on everything.

So when my babies start crying, I tell myself that I am enough to calm them down.

When my toddler has a tantrum, I remind myself that I am enough to get through to him.

When I go out with the three kids by myself and start sweating about everything that could go wrong (poop explosions times three), I remind myself that I am enough to handle it all, even with a little humor.


And then one day I found this bracelet. Initially, I thought how cheesy it'd be to wear a reminder like this on my wrist, but I bought it anyway because something about it was calling my name. I'm so glad I did because since day one I haven't stopped wearing it.

Every time I look down, there it is, shining back at me. I am enough.

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It's science: Why your baby stops crying when you stand up

A fascinating study explains why.

When your baby is crying, it feels nearly instinctual to stand up to rock, sway and soothe them. That's because standing up to calm babies is instinctual—driven by centuries of positive feedback from calmed babies, researchers have found.

"Infants under 6 months of age carried by a walking mother immediately stopped voluntary movement and crying and exhibited a rapid heart rate decrease, compared with holding by a sitting mother," say authors of a 2013 study published in Current Biology.

Even more striking: This coordinated set of actions—the mother standing and the baby calming—is observed in other mammal species, too. Using pharmacologic and genetic interventions with mice, the authors say, "We identified strikingly similar responses in mouse pups as defined by immobility and diminished ultrasonic vocalizations and heart rate."

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