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Having another baby? 8 things to think about

We’ve put together some ideas to help everyone in the family, including you, adjust to this next exciting adventure.

Having another baby? 8 things to think about

Having your second (or third or fourth) baby is a pretty different experience than having your 1st. In addition to thinking about your new baby, you may be worried about how your older child will adjust (and of course, how life will be for YOU with a bigger family)!


We’ve put together some ideas to help everyone in the family, including you, adjust to this next exciting adventure.

1. No need for guilt

A lot of moms start to feel guilty about the arrival of a new baby—“I feel bad that my toddler will no longer be the center of attention.” But research shows that having a sibling can be a really awesome experience for a child. A built-in playmate and confidant for life!

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2. It actually may make your life easier

We’re not going to sugar coat it—having a newborn and an older child is tough. The sleeplessness, noise level and overall demands may increase. But remember that pretty quickly, your newborn is going to become an infant, and then a toddler, and then a big kid! Many moms of 2+ kids say that as their kids grow and are able to play with each other more and more, things actually get a lot easier (back to the built-in playmate concept).

3. Prepare your tot

There are lots of things you can do now to help your older kid get ready for a baby. Look in your area of a sibling prep class. Give him a baby doll to hold and and take care of. Read books about big brothers and sisters. Let your toddler kiss and talk to your belly. You can even buy them a toy “from the baby.” You may be surprised at how well they adapt to their new, real doll ;)

4. Time big changes well

If your older kid is on the verge of a big change—like a new big kid bed or potty training—plan the moment strategically. It’s best to avoid a big change too close to the time of the baby’s arrival, because that is a lot for a little one to handle. So consider making the big transition now, or holding off until the baby is a few months old and everyone is settled down a bit.

5. All the snuggles

Your big kid will always be your baby, and it’s important for you both to remember that. Spend lots of time cuddling, playing and telling them how important they are to you. It will be soul-lifting for you both.

6. Plan ahead

Make a list of your big kids’ needs, and think about ways to make day-to-day activities easier. This may mean hiring a babysitter to play with him so you can take a nap in the afternoon. Or maybe you want to arrange a carpool so you don’t always have to be the one to get him from daycare. Do what you can now, to make those first few months easier for you.

7. You have enough room in your heart

A lot of women will say, “how can I possibly love another child as much as I love this one?” It can be hard to wrap your mind around until you are in it, but all we can say is, we promise that you will love your next baby just as much as you other children, and your family will feel that much more complete. And speaking of love...

8. Prepare your heart for the moment they first meet

Watching the 2 things you love most in this world see each other for the first time is just... there simply are no words. Have the camera ready and prepare to be breathtaken.

14 outdoor toys your kids will want to play with beyond summer

They transition seamlessly for indoor play.

With Labor day weekend in the rearview and back-to-school in full swing, most parents are fresh out of boxes to check on their "Fun Concierge" hit list. It's also the point of diminishing returns on investing in summer-only toys. So with that in mind, we've rounded up some of our favorite toys that are not only built to last but will easily make the transition from outdoor to indoor play. Even better, they're Montessori-friendly and largely open-ended so your kids can get a ton of use out of them.

From sunny backyard afternoons to rainy mornings stuck inside, these toys are sure to keep little ones engaged and entertained.

Meadow ring toss game

Plan Toys meadow ring toss game

Besides offering a fantastic opportunity to hone focus, coordination, determination and taking turns, lawn games are just plain fun. Set them up close together for the littles and spread them out when Mom and Dad get in on the action. With their low profile and rope rings, they're great for indoors as well.

$30

Balance board

Plan Toys balance board

Balance boards are a fabulous way to get the wiggles out. This one comes with a rope attachment, making it suitable for even the youngest wigglers. From practicing their balance and building core strength to working on skills that translate to skateboarding and snowboarding, it's a year-round physical activity that's easy to bring inside and use between Zoom classes, too!

$75

Detective set

Plan Toys detective setDetective Set

This set has everything your little detective needs to solve whatever mystery they might encounter: an eye glasses, walkie-talkie, camera, a red lens, a periscope and a bag. Neighborhood watch? Watch out.

$40

Wooden doll stroller

Janod wooden doll strollerWooden Doll Stroller

Take their charges on a stroll around the block with this classic doll stroller. With the same versatility they're used to in their own ride, this heirloom quality carriage allows their doll or stuffy to face them or face the world.

$120

Sand play set

Plan Toys sand set

Whether you're hitting the beach or the backyard sandbox, this adorable wooden sand set is ready for action. Each scoop has an embossed pattern that's perfect for sand stamping. They're also totally suitable for water play in the wild or the bathtub.

$30

Water play set

Plan Toys water play set

Filled with sand or water, this tabletop sized activity set keeps little ones busy, quiet and happy. (A mama's ideal trifecta 😉). It's big enough to satisfy their play needs but not so big it's going to flood your floors if you bring the fun inside on a rainy day.

$100

Mini golf set

Plan Toys mini golf set

Fore! This mini golf set is lawn and living room ready. Set up a backyard competition or incorporate into homeschooling brain breaks that shift focus and build concentration.

$40

Vintage scooter balance bike

Janod retro scooter balance bike

Pedals are so 2010. Balance bikes are the way to go for learning to ride a bike while skipping the training wheels stage altogether. This impossibly cool retro scooter-style is built to cruise the neighborhood or open indoor space as they're learning.

$121

Wooden rocking pegasus

plan toys wooden rocking pegasus

Your little will be ready to take flight on this fun pegasus. It gently rocks back and forth, but doesn't skimp on safety—its winged saddle, footrests and backrest ensure kids won't fall off whether they're rocking inside or outside.

$100

Croquet set

Plan Toys croquet set

The cutest croquet set we've ever seen! With adorable animal face wooden balls and a canvas bag for easy clean up, it's also crafted to stick around awhile. Round after round, it's great for teaching kiddos math and problem-solving skills as well.

$45

Wooden digital camera

fathers factory wooden digital camera

Kids get the chance to assemble the camera on their own then can adventure anywhere to capture the best moments. With two detachable magnetic lenses, four built-in filters and video recorder, your little photographer can tap into their creativity from summertime to the holidays.

$179

Wooden bulldozer toy

plan toys wooden bulldozer toy

Whether they're digging up sand in the backyad or picking up toys inside, kids can get as creative as they want picking up and moving things around. Even better? Its wooden structure means it's not an eye sore to look at wherever your digger drops it.

$100

Pull-along hippo

janod toys pull along hippo toy

There's just something so fun about a classic pull-along toy and we love that they seamlessly transition between indoor and outdoor play. Crafted from solid cherry and beechwood, it's tough enough to endure outdoor spaces your toddler takes it on.

$33

Baby forest fox ride-on

janod toys baby fox ride on

Toddlers will love zooming around on this fox ride-on, and it's a great transition toy into traditional balance bikes. If you take it for a driveway adventure, simply use a damp cloth to wipe down the wheels before bringing back inside.

$88

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