I am hotter now, as a mom, than ever before in my life

On days you find it hard to see past self-perceived flaws in the mirror, let me be your mirror and remind you of this

I am hotter now, as a mom, than ever before in my life

The story of how my husband and I met is a cute one, so I’ll give you the gist. When I was younger, my mom and I used to have regular mother-daughter mall trips. During each shopping excursion, we would grab a bite to eat at the same restaurant where the food was delicious and we were served by a very handsome guy.

Our server, who would later become my husband, would always have our drinks ready for us at our table before we sat down. He served with a smile, cracked jokes, and yes—flirted with me as much as my mom would let him get away with.


Eventually, I returned to that restaurant over Christmas break from college and got a hostess job there for a few months. My husband tells me that the day he saw me on my first day of work there, he told the restaurant manager, “I am going to marry her.” And he did. (Swoon)

If you ask my husband what he first noticed about me back in 2006, I’m going to assume he’d say something superficial. My hair or my eyes or my legs—something he was attracted to right away, before getting to know me. And now—2018 me—well, sometimes I wonder what he notices now.

I don’t typically hang out in short skirts anymore (more like yoga pants pants), And, to be honest, sometimes I just feel like my post-three-baby body isn’t all that attractive anymore. My hair isn’t as long or as blonde or as playful as it was. My boobs aren’t the same, my skin isn’t the same—not much is ‘the same.’

But, guess what? All of a sudden, today, I had an epiphany.

I am hotter right now, at this point in my life, than any time before.

When I was young I could be selfish, self-involved and immature. Now I have grown into a more selfless, compassionate and mature adult, woman, and mother. I believe I am a great wife, a loving mom, a caring daughter and sister-in-law, a supportive sibling and a fun friend. There is so much more about the me now, that I think makes me more beautiful, attractive and intriguing than my younger outer beauty ever did.

Sometimes I give myself such a hard time for not looking the same as I did in my twenties, I think, because if I’m honest with myself, it was nice to feel ‘hot’. But I have to remind myself—my hotness today means more than hair ‘do’s and manicures. It’s more like thoughtfulness and compassion. Hard work and deep love.

Did you realize, mama—that you are still super hot? Because you are. You’re the hottest you’ve ever been.

Recognize that, believe it and remind yourself of it often.

And, on days that you find it hard to see past your self-perceived flaws in the mirror, let me be your mirror and remind you of this.

Your perpetual kindness towards your children and family makes you hot.

Your raw genuineness towards all people that you encounter makes you hot.

Your constant generosity, with your money and/or your time, makes you hot.

Your unwavering drive to succeed in business and/or in parenthood makes you hot.

Your deep passion for raising confident yet humble, amazing humans makes you hot.

Your intelligence and curiosity and passion for learning makes you hot.

Your positive attitude and optimism regarding the world around you makes you hot.

Your endearing forgetfulness based on pure exhaustion from you giving your all, day in and day out, well, that makes you hot, too.

And that’s not all.

Your uncanny ability to find the silver lining hidden beneath everything, including tired eyes and sometimes greasy hair.

You look hot with your messy bun, your spilled-on shirt and your half-painted toe nails.

You look hot carrying your newborn around the house, multitasking like a pro.

You’re amazing because you pour your heart and soul into motherhood, you’re beautiful because you are strong and sensitive, powerful and brave.

You are hot because you know who you are and you own that. There’s really nothing hotter than that, mama. ?

By its very nature, motherhood requires some lifestyle adjustments: Instead of staying up late with friends, you get up early for snuggles with your baby. Instead of spontaneous date nights with your honey, you take afternoon family strolls with your little love. Instead of running out of the house with just your keys and phone, you only leave with a fully loaded diaper bag.

For breastfeeding or pumping mamas, there is an additional layer of consideration around when, how and how much your baby will eat. Thankfully, when it comes to effective solutions for nursing or bottle-feeding your baby, Dr. Brown's puts the considerations of mamas and their babies first with products that help with every step of the process—from comfortably adjusting to nursing your newborn to introducing a bottle to efficiently pumping.

With countless hours spent breastfeeding, pumping and bottle-feeding, the editors at Motherly know the secret to success is having dependable supplies that can help you feed your baby in a way that matches lifestyle.

Here are 9 breastfeeding and pumping products to help you no matter what the day holds.

Customflow™ Double Electric Breast Pump

Dr. Brown's electric pump

For efficient, productive pumping sessions, a double electric breast pump will help you get the job done as quickly as possible. Quiet for nighttime pumping sessions and compact for bringing along to work, this double pump puts you in control with fully adjustable settings.


Hands-Free Pumping Bra

Dr. Brown''s hands free pumping bra

Especially in the early days, feeding your baby can feel like a pretty consuming task. A hands-free pumping bra will help you reclaim some of your precious time while pumping—and all mamas will know just how valuable more time can be!


Manual Breast Pump with SoftShape™ Silicone Shield

Dr. Brown's manual breast pump

If you live a life that sometimes takes you away from electrical outlets (that's most of us!), then you'll absolutely want a manual breast pump in your arsenal. With two pumping modes to promote efficient milk expression and a comfort-fitted shield, a manual pump is simply the most convenient pump to take along and use. Although it may not get as much glory as an electric pump, we really appreciate how quick and easy this manual pump is to use—and how liberating it is not to stress about finding a power supply.


Nipple Shields and Sterilization Case

Dr. Brown's nipple shields

There is a bit of a learning curve to breastfeeding—for both mamas and babies. Thankfully, even if there are some physical challenges (like inverted nipples or a baby's tongue tie) or nursing doesn't click right away, silicone nipple shields can be a huge help. With a convenient carry case that can be sterilized in the microwave, you don't have to worry about germs or bacteria either. 🙌


Silicone One-Piece Breast Pump

Dr. Brown's silicone pump

When you are feeding your baby on one breast, the other can still experience milk letdown—which means it's a golden opportunity to save some additional milk. With a silent, hands-free silicone pump, you can easily collect milk while nursing.


Breast to Bottle Pump & Store Feeding Set

After a lifetime of nursing from the breast, introducing a bottle can be a bit of a strange experience for babies. Dr. Brown's Options+™ and slow flow bottle nipples were designed with this in mind to make the introduction to bottles smooth and pleasant for parents and babies. As a set that seamlessly works together from pumping to storing milk to bottle feeding, you don't have to stress about having everything you need to keep your baby fed and happy either.


Washable Breast Pads

washable breast pads

Mamas' bodies are amazingly made to help breast milk flow when it's in demand—but occasionally also at other times. Especially as your supply is establishing or your breasts are fuller as the length between feeding sessions increase, it's helpful to use washable nursing pads to prevent breast milk from leaking through your bra.


Breast Milk Storage Bags

Dr. Brown's milk storage bags

The essential for mamas who do any pumping, breast milk storage bags allow you to easily and safely seal expressed milk in the refrigerator or freezer. Dr. Brown's™ Breast Milk Storage Bags take it even further with extra thick walls that block out scents from other food items and feature an ultra secure lock to prevent leaking.


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