Mommy yelled today—I’m sorry baby, let me explain

I made a mistake today. Thank you for helping me learn and grow from it.

Mommy yelled today—I’m sorry baby, let me explain

Hey baby,

Today was rough. You had some hard moments, and I had a hard time dealing with them. I watched the clock for hours willing it to move faster, and when it was finally bedtime and you were all tucked in, I was immediately flooded with guilt and sadness.

I yelled at you today.

I regained my composure quickly, but I still yelled, and for that, I am sorry. You were just being a kid. I am the grown-up and I should have handled it with more patience and grace.

I am still learning how to be a mommy. I never want to make excuses for myself—every day I need to try as hard as I can and learn from my mistakes. But I did want to take a moment and explain to you why I yelled.

When I lose my patience, when I am less than graceful, it almost always goes deeper than the thing I am upset about. And I want you to know.

I yelled because I was worried.

Before I became your mommy, I had no idea how profoundly I could love someone. You are my whole world. You are my first thought in the morning and my last thought at night. You are a piece of my heart that goes walking around outside of my body. And it’s my job to keep you safe.

Sometimes your actions stir up fears in me—this part is hard to explain. I think that maybe sometimes when you don’t listen to me, it makes me scared that you won’t heed my advice when you’re older, and that you’ll make bad choices. I know that today’s incident was over a Lego, and that a worry this intense doesn’t sound rational. But a mother’s love is everything but rational. And sometimes, that is why I yell.

I yelled because I am tired.

Taking care of you is my greatest honor. I want you to know that everyday. But it’s also very hard work—you are a very little human who has a lot of needs (as you should), and I am responsible for all of them. I haven’t had a proper sleep in years and despite my efforts for self-care, I haven’t really mastered it yet.

So there are days when I am just tired to my core. This is not your fault at all. And to be honest, I wouldn’t actually change a thing. I love being your person. But when I am this tired, my brain doesn’t work the way it should. I lose my patience faster, have a harder time finding the humor in things, and I react... sometimes loudly like I did today.

I yelled because I am stressed.

Being a parent is my most important job, but that doesn’t mean that everything else stops. In fact, sometimes it seems like life is swirling around me faster than I can manage. There are awful stories on the news, bills to pay, deadlines at work, other family members to tend to, a house to keep clean...

I try really hard to be present in the moment with you—those are my happiest moments of all time. But sometimes the business of life simply prevents me from really being here. And when I feel stressed like that, the little things you do trigger me in ways they wouldn’t normally.

I don’t want you to feel that stress though. It is my job to protect you from that, for now anyway. Please know that when the world is making me anxious, you are my calm. I will try to take more deep breaths, like we practice, and we can learn how to get centered together.

I yelled because I am a human.

Right now, I know you think I am a super hero. And while I certainly try, the truth is that I am just a regular person with emotions and flaws. I try hard every day, but I make mistakes every day. We all do. And you will too, for the rest of your life.

So while I am sorry I yelled, I am not sorry that you saw my less-than-perfect side. I want you to learn that mistakes are normal and even good. Mistakes help us learn about ourselves, and help us to grow. And sometimes mistakes are funny! Remember when I spent a whole afternoon trying to make that fancy dinner that I totally ruined, and we had to have Cheerios for dinner? And how hard we ended up laughing over it? That is one of my favorite memories.

I made a mistake today. Thank you for helping me learn and grow from it.

I yelled because you made me feel angry.

I love you with all my heart, but in that moment today, I felt angry with you. But here’s the thing—feeling angry with people you love is completely okay. We spend a lot of time together, it would be impossible not to get mad at each other once in a while! Daddy and I get upset with each other, but we still always love each other. It’s the same with you.

Sometimes we are going to make each other feel angry. Sometimes it’s the people we love most that make us feel the most angry. You are safe to feel all of your emotions with me, and I want you to see me feel all of mine. It’s my job to help you process those emotions, especially when they’re big and don’t feel good.

People can feel angry and love at the same time. In our family, the love part stays the same, no matter what other emotions are going on. I will love you forever and ever, more every single day. There is nothing you could do that would ever make me stop loving you. Part of love is loving the whole person, just as they are, in all of their moments. And that’s how I love you. Even when I yell.

Love, Mommy

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The sleep support

Belly Bandit SOS pillow

Finding the right position for sleep can feel like an Olympic sport when you've got a baby belly to accommodate. Belly Bandit, masters of creating wearables that support pregnant bodies, also managed to create the ideal tool for side sleeping.


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Stowaway Collection Maternity Becca dress

Finding clothes that still make you feel like yourself isn't always easy. With their premium fabrics and universally flattering cuts, we can't get enough of the maternity wardrobe essentials from Stowaway Collection maternity. Even better? They sew everything in Long Island City, NY and source USA-made fabric whenever possible.


The chic but practical shoe 

OSAY the label slip on

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The delicate reminder

Whether it's whispered sweetly, shrieked from the top of the big slide, or echoed through the phone from thousands of miles away, 'mama' is the name you'll respond to for the rest of your life. Like all the Tiny Tags necklaces, this sweet reminder is laser engraved by highly skilled artisans in the USA.


The stylish diaper bag that doesn't look like a diaper bag

Mina baie vegan stevie

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The elegant baby book

Echo Art Bindery Baby Memory Book

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Sontakey 'I was made for this' bracelet

Words are powerful. Reminding yourself that you can do hard things can go a long way in giving you the energy and confidence to do so. The beautiful mantra bands from Sontakey were created by two mamas who have made it their mission to empower others with these words of encouragement.


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Tost non-alcoholic refresher

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Esker belly oil duo

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The hydration-friendly water bottle

Welly traveler water bottle

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Belly and Bag fully prepared

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12 outdoor toys your kids will want to play with beyond summer

They transition seamlessly for indoor play.

Without camps and back-to-school plans still TBD, the cries of "I'm bored!" seem to be ringing louder than ever this summer. And if you're anything like me, by August, I'm fresh out of boxes to check on my "Fun Concierge" hit list. It's also the point of diminishing returns on investing in summer-only toys.

With that in mind, we've rounded up some of our favorite wooden toys that are not only built to last but will easily make the transition from outdoor to indoor play.

From sunny backyard afternoons to rainy mornings stuck inside, these toys are sure to keep little ones engaged and entertained.

Meadow ring toss game

Plan Toys meadow ring toss game

Besides offering a fantastic opportunity to hone focus, coordination, determination and taking turns, lawn games are just plain fun. Set them up close together for the littles and spread them out when Mom and Dad get in on the action. With their low profile and rope rings, they're great for indoors as well.


Balance board

Plan Toys balance board

Balance boards are a fabulous way to get the wiggles out. This one comes with a rope attachment, making it suitable for even the youngest wigglers. From practicing their balance and building core strength to working on skills that translate to skateboarding and snowboarding, it's a year-round physical activity that's easy to bring inside and use between Zoom classes, too!


Sand play set

Plan Toys sand set

Whether you're hitting the beach or the backyard sandbox, this adorable wooden sand set is ready for action. Each scoop has an embossed pattern that's perfect for sand stamping. They're also totally suitable for water play in the wild or the bathtub.


Water play set

Plan Toys water play set

Filled with sand or water, this tabletop sized activity set keeps little ones busy, quiet and happy. (A mama's ideal trifecta 😉). It's big enough to satisfy their play needs but not so big it's going to flood your floors if you bring the fun inside on a rainy day.


Mini golf set

Plan Toys mini golf set

Fore! This mini golf set is lawn and living room ready. Set up a backyard competition or incorporate into homeschooling brain breaks that shift focus and build concentration.


Vintage scooter balance bike

Janod retro scooter balance bike

Pedals are so 2010. Balance bikes are the way to go for learning to ride a bike while skipping the training wheels stage altogether. This impossibly cool retro scooter-style is built to cruise the neighborhood or open indoor space as they're learning.


Wooden rocking pegasus

plan toys wooden rocking pegasus

Your little will be ready to take flight on this fun pegasus. It gently rocks back and forth, but doesn't skimp on safety—its winged saddle, footrests and backrest ensure kids won't fall off whether they're rocking inside or outside.


Croquet set

Plan Toys croquet set

The cutest croquet set we've ever seen! With adorable animal face wooden balls and a canvas bag for easy clean up, it's also crafted to stick around awhile. Round after round, it's great for teaching kiddos math and problem-solving skills as well.


Wooden digital camera

fathers factory wooden digital camera

Kids get the chance to assemble the camera on their own then can adventure anywhere to capture the best moments. With two detachable magnetic lenses, four built-in filters and video recorder, your little photographer can tap into their creativity from summertime to the holidays.


Wooden bulldozer toy

plan toys wooden bulldozer toy

Whether they're digging up sand in the backyad or picking up toys inside, kids can get as creative as they want picking up and moving things around. Even better? Its wooden structure means it's not an eye sore to look at wherever your digger drops it.


Pull-along hippo

janod toys pull along hippo toy

There's just something so fun about a classic pull-along toy and we love that they seamlessly transition between indoor and outdoor play. Crafted from solid cherry and beechwood, it's tough enough to endure outdoor spaces your toddler takes it on.


Baby forest fox ride-on

janod toys baby fox ride on

Toddlers will love zooming around on this fox ride-on, and it's a great transition toy into traditional balance bikes. If you take it for a driveway adventure, simply use a damp cloth to wipe down the wheels before bringing back inside.


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The new top 100 American baby names, according to the Social Security office

Did you have a baby in 2018? Did your name make the top 10?

[Editor's note: We know that being pregnant can be, well, a lot. And understanding what you really need versus what's just a nice-to-have takes time . With your needs in mind, we've selected the best products for pregnancy in The Motherly Shop. We've got you, mama.]

No one can beat Emma when it comes to naming babies in America. This week the Social Security Administration announced its annual list of the most popular baby names in America and Emma has the top spot on the girls' side for the fifth year in a row. On the boys' side Liam took the top spot for a second consecutive year.

According to the Social Security Administration, these were the top 20 baby names in America in 2018:

Girls: Emma, Olivia, Ava, Isabella, Sophia, Charlotte, Mia, Amelia, Harper and Evelyn

Boys: Liam, Noah, William, James, Oliver, Benjamin, Elijah, Lucas, Mason and Owen

How do those top 10 lists compare to the top baby names of 2017? Well, the girls' list is nearly the same except that Mia and Charlotte switched spots, and Harper (a name that fell out of the top ten the previous year) is back and has ousted Abigail. On the boys' side, Lucas kicked Jacob out of the top 10.

The real changes happened lower down in the data. Let's take a look at the popular baby names that were trending hard in 2018:

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