My firstborn suddenly looked SO BIG when my second baby was born

It happened so slowly, through countless sessions of breastfeeding, battles over keeping food on the table and nights of sleep—713 nights of sleep, to be exact.

I recognized my firstborn's growth each time I packed away an outgrown size of clothes or looked back on his baby pictures in awe. But ounce by ounce and inch by inch, I didn't really comprehend how much it was all adding up. There was never a day where he simply seemed taller than the one before; never a night when it felt harder to lift his sleepy body into his crib.

Then it seemed to happen all at once: My first baby was no longer a baby and there was no denying it. That title now belonged to my newborn, who was positively tiny next to my walking, talking, gigantic toddler.


When I said good-bye just the day before leaving for the hospital, his untamed blond locks still felt like baby hair. I believed his full cheeks and doe eyes made him look like a baby. I thought nothing of the way I could pick him up and fold him into a hug just like a baby.

Then he came striding into the hospital room with his big boy cowboy boots and cautiously climbed onto the bed to meet his newborn sister—and I almost couldn't believe the transformation.

Call it hormones or whatever else, but it seemed to me that two births had occurred: That of my new baby and that of my new child.

This became abundantly clear just minutes later when "he feels hot" turned into a kind nurse taking my toddler's temperature and revealing he had a 103-degree fever. As my husband rushed my toddler home, I just sat there with my newborn in my arms and sobbed.

I cried with fear my new baby was infected. I cried with exhaustion over how much had happened in the last day. And, honestly most of all, I cried with overwhelming sadness that I couldn't be there for my toddler.

He was now, officially the "big boy." It wasn't just the stark contrast in their sizes—her, my 7 lb., 4 oz. newborn, and him, my toddler—but also the contrast in who they were expected to be. Whether he was prepared for it or not, he was no longer the baby of the house.

And yet, he was. At not-yet 2 years old, there were hourly reminders of his ongoing transition from a baby to a child. One moment, he could be asserting his independence and the next he would need a kiss for his boo-boo. Asking him for much more growth than he was already undergoing felt unfair.

What I didn't account for was how much growth he was eager to offer. From the moment he met his sister (even in his feverish state, which thankfully passed quickly), he was so kind, so gentle and so earnest in his responsibilities as big brother. He may not have asked to grow up as quickly as he seemed to, but he sure embraced the task.

In the time since his sister's arrival, he's become a fierce policeman of anytime I use the word "baby" in reference to him. "I'm not a baby, I'm a big boy," he sternly reminds me.

Although I laugh and agree with him, these past few months have shown me this isn't true: Yes, he is a big boy. But he will also forever be my baby, too.

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By its very nature, motherhood requires some lifestyle adjustments: Instead of staying up late with friends, you get up early for snuggles with your baby. Instead of spontaneous date nights with your honey, you take afternoon family strolls with your little love. Instead of running out of the house with just your keys and phone, you only leave with a fully loaded diaper bag.

For breastfeeding or pumping mamas, there is an additional layer of consideration around when, how and how much your baby will eat. Thankfully, when it comes to effective solutions for nursing or bottle-feeding your baby, Dr. Brown's puts the considerations of mamas and their babies first with products that help with every step of the process—from comfortably adjusting to nursing your newborn to introducing a bottle to efficiently pumping.

With countless hours spent breastfeeding, pumping and bottle-feeding, the editors at Motherly know the secret to success is having dependable supplies that can help you feed your baby in a way that matches lifestyle.

Here are 9 breastfeeding and pumping products to help you no matter what the day holds.

Customflow™ Double Electric Breast Pump

Dr. Brown's electric pump

For efficient, productive pumping sessions, a double electric breast pump will help you get the job done as quickly as possible. Quiet for nighttime pumping sessions and compact for bringing along to work, this double pump puts you in control with fully adjustable settings.


Hands-Free Pumping Bra

Dr. Brown''s hands free pumping bra

Especially in the early days, feeding your baby can feel like a pretty consuming task. A hands-free pumping bra will help you reclaim some of your precious time while pumping—and all mamas will know just how valuable more time can be!


Manual Breast Pump with SoftShape™ Silicone Shield

Dr. Brown's manual breast pump

If you live a life that sometimes takes you away from electrical outlets (that's most of us!), then you'll absolutely want a manual breast pump in your arsenal. With two pumping modes to promote efficient milk expression and a comfort-fitted shield, a manual pump is simply the most convenient pump to take along and use. Although it may not get as much glory as an electric pump, we really appreciate how quick and easy this manual pump is to use—and how liberating it is not to stress about finding a power supply.


Nipple Shields and Sterilization Case

Dr. Brown's nipple shields

There is a bit of a learning curve to breastfeeding—for both mamas and babies. Thankfully, even if there are some physical challenges (like inverted nipples or a baby's tongue tie) or nursing doesn't click right away, silicone nipple shields can be a huge help. With a convenient carry case that can be sterilized in the microwave, you don't have to worry about germs or bacteria either. 🙌


Silicone One-Piece Breast Pump

Dr. Brown's silicone pump

When you are feeding your baby on one breast, the other can still experience milk letdown—which means it's a golden opportunity to save some additional milk. With a silent, hands-free silicone pump, you can easily collect milk while nursing.


Breast to Bottle Pump & Store Feeding Set

After a lifetime of nursing from the breast, introducing a bottle can be a bit of a strange experience for babies. Dr. Brown's Options+™ and slow flow bottle nipples were designed with this in mind to make the introduction to bottles smooth and pleasant for parents and babies. As a set that seamlessly works together from pumping to storing milk to bottle feeding, you don't have to stress about having everything you need to keep your baby fed and happy either.


Washable Breast Pads

washable breast pads

Mamas' bodies are amazingly made to help breast milk flow when it's in demand—but occasionally also at other times. Especially as your supply is establishing or your breasts are fuller as the length between feeding sessions increase, it's helpful to use washable nursing pads to prevent breast milk from leaking through your bra.


Breast Milk Storage Bags

Dr. Brown's milk storage bags

The essential for mamas who do any pumping, breast milk storage bags allow you to easily and safely seal expressed milk in the refrigerator or freezer. Dr. Brown's™ Breast Milk Storage Bags take it even further with extra thick walls that block out scents from other food items and feature an ultra secure lock to prevent leaking.


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Thankfully, you don't have to break the bank when shopping for toddler products. Here are our favorite high-quality, budget-friendly finds to help with everything from meal time to bath time for the toddler set.

Comforts Fruit Crisps Variety Pack

Comforts fruit snacks

If there is one thing to know about toddlers, it is this: They love snacks. Keeping a variety on hand is easy when the pack already comes that way! Plus, we sure do appreciate that freeze-dried fruit is a healthier alternative to fruit snacks.

Comforts Electrolyte Drink

Comforts electrolyte drink

Between running (or toddling!) around all day and potentially developing a pickier palate, many toddlers can use a bit of extra help with replenishing their electrolytes—especially after they've experienced a tummy bug. We suggest keeping an electrolyte drink on hand.

Comforts Training Pants

Comforts training pants

When the time comes to start potty training, it sure helps to have some training pants on hand. If they didn't make it to the potty in time, these can help them learn their body's cues.

Comforts Nite Pants

comforts nite pants

Even when your toddler gets the hang of using the toilet during the day, nighttime training typically takes several months longer than day-time training. In the meantime, nite pants will still help them feel like the growing, big kid they are.

Comforts Baby Lotion

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Running, jumping, playing in sand, splashing in water—the daily life of a toddler can definitely irritate their skin! Help put a protective barrier between their delicate skin and the things they come into contact with every day with nourishing lotion.

Another great tip? Shopping the Comforts line on to find premium baby products for a fraction of competitors' prices—and follow along on social media to see product releases and news at @comfortsforbaby.

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