People tend to say a lot of unhelpful things when you tell them you're pregnant.

"Say goodbye to your life!"

"You'll never get your body back."

"Things will never be the same again."

In some ways, it's true. Things will never be the SAME. But, honestly, things are never really the SAME. So why call it out?

The first few weeks (okay, okay, months...years?) of your baby's life, it's easy to get caught up in the changes. Nothing, from your free time to your bed to your boobs, is your own anymore.

But, mama? This too will pass.

The day will come when you don't have to plan your life around naptime.


When you don't have to plan your outfit around nursing.

When you don't have to plan your night out around your sitter' schedule.

Right now, you're still learning how to be a mom. You're slowly carving out a new path, and you can probably only see a few feet ahead of you at a time.

But the day is coming when you will get your groove back, mama—sooner than you think.

One day very soon…you will be able to wake up, put on a cute outfit, and do your hair and makeup with minimal stress. Seriously, spit-up on your shirt is only going to be a regular accessory for a few months. And soon, your child really will play nicely with her toys for long enough for you to get ready like a real adult.

One day very soon…you will both operate in a (mostly) consistent schedule that leaves you both feeling confident and refreshed.

The secret? You’ll carve out that path together—you’ll know when he needs to nap, how long you need to leave the house, and just how much you can add to your to-do list without driving yourself bonkers. Before you know it, things will be running—dare I say it?—smoothly.

One day very soon…you will realize you’ve become one of those moms who just magically seems to know what everyone needs. You’ll catch the sippy cup before it hits the ground, almost always remember the spare outfit, and develop that super mom power of having eyes in the back of your head.

I can’t promise you you’ll never make a mistake, but by then, you’ll have realized that everyone does, and it won’t throw you off your game the way it does in the beginning.

One day very soon…you’ll be able to take a few hours (or even days!) to yourself. You’ll feel comfortable hiring a sitter for date night. You’ll schedule a girls’ weekend and leave your husband in charge for a few days. Heck, you’ll post something on Instagram besides your baby. (It won’t get as many likes as the baby posts, but, hey, that’s your own fault for making such a cute baby.) Your world will always revolve around your family, but your time will sometimes, on a regular basis, be your own.

One day very soon…you will feel sexy again. I mean, hopefully you never lost that feeling, but in my experience, it’s hard to feel very attractive when your boobs are leaking, your stomach still feels wobbly, and you can’t honestly remember the last time you shaved your legs.

Slowly, though, I started to let myself appreciate the work my amazing body had done—with or without those perfect abs of my dreams. I realized that my husband looked at me like I was a super model, not just when I found a few seconds to throw on some makeup, but when he caught me in super mom mode, caring for our family and keeping us all together.

Truth is, you never lost your sexy, mama. And soon you will see that too.

You’ll get it all, mama. Because you’ve got this.

This is cause for celebration, mama! You are one month into this exciting new adventure, and those precious cuddles certainly help compensate for the lack of shut-eye. (Mostly, at least.)

Although it's only been a few weeks since you officially met your latest love, you're probably already amazed by how quickly your teeny snuggle bunny is growing and changing. Unlike those first few days when your sleepy newborn's eyes were rarely open, your baby is likely now eagerly studying objects within a few inches of their site and reacting to sounds. Their favorite sights and sounds of all? The people in their family.

After months of pregnancy, the extreme physical accomplishment of delivery and possibly the initiation of breastfeeding, your body needs time to recover. As you go, remember that while your baby may always be on your mind, it's healthy for you to make space for self-care, too.

While you continue to adjust, here are our favorite items to keep in your tool kit (for you and baby) at the 1-month mark:

To get sweet dreams while room sharing: Ingenuity bassinet


Experts recommend sharing your bedroom—but not your bed—with your baby for the better part of the first year. If space was already at a premium, a compact bassinet is the perfect solution.


To free up your hands: 4moms mamaroo swing

mamaroo swing

You may not want to take your eyes off your adorable baby, but life does actually require you use your hands every now and then to take care of things around the house. If your checklist includes tasks in the same room, a soothing swing can help keep baby content for a few precious minutes.


To get through marathon nursing sessions: Boppy nursing pillow

nursing pillow

Whether from the breast or bottle, it can feel like feeding baby is your full-time job right now. Make it less of a workout with backup from a nursing pillow, which can take on a second-life as a support for your sitting baby in just a few short months.


To start your bath-time routine: The First Years newborn-to-toddler tub

infant tub

Bath time is an important element in most nighttime routines—starting from the very first days! Focus more on the hands-on bonding without worrying your baby will slip and slide around a great big tub with a bath that is just their size.


To celebrate baby’s first milestone: Cloud Island muslin blanket and frame set

milestone blanket

One month of life is a big milestone, both for your baby and you! Documenting how quickly your baby is growing each of these early months is a gift you will love looking back on for the rest of your life.


To help with postpartum recovery: Frida Mom recovery kit

frida mom postpartum

Labor and delivery is a major event, mama—and our bodies are firmly still in recovery mode at the 1-month mark. If anything, life is probably only speeding up right now, so be sure to take care of yourself.


To conquer early morning wake-up calls: Stars Above robe

stars above robe

Chances are that your baby has taken the place of an alarm clock. When the wake-up call comes too early, it helps brighten the morning a bit by having a comfy and cute robe to slip on.


To get some letdown backup: Up&Up nursing pads

nursing pads

As you may have learned by now, breastmilk doesn't only flow on demand. Should you decide breastfeeding is your path, nursing pads will give you the protection you probably didn't anticipate you needed so you don't leak through a shirt. (Don't worry: This will ease as your supply is established!)


To hydrate: Simple Modern pink water bottle

water bottle

It is always a good idea to drink more water—but especially now! Make it easier on yourself with a water bottle you actually like carrying around. Bonus points for being able to open it up for a drink with just one hand.


To snack one-handed: Good & Gather snack bars

Good and Gather

You know when the baby last ate. But, what about you, mama? Keep some tasty nutrition bars on hand to simplify snacking when time and free hands are limited commodities.


This article was sponsored by Target. Thank you for supporting the brands that support Motherly and mamas.

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