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To the new mama facing another exhausting night—this, too, shall pass

You start to wonder whether you will ever have any time to yourself. Then, one day, you do.

To the new mama facing another exhausting night—this, too, shall pass

Last night, as I lay in bed eating gummy bears while watching Ramsay’s Kitchen Nightmares, exhausted beyond belief and wondering when Tiny Boss No. 2 would wake up next for a feed, I had to remind myself: This too shall pass.


There are a lot of things I forgot about having a newborn.

Those first few weeks can truly be the most exhausting, the most challenging, the most painful and the most terrifying—as you think to yourself how your world has been turned on its head and will never be the same again.

Repeat after me, mama: This, too, shall pass.

Last night, I spent two hours solely dedicated to trying to settle my fussy 20-day-old, while her father got her almost 2-year-old sister ready for bed. I envied his task a little; its predictability, its dependable routine, its lack of screams and cries, and lack of moments of self-doubt and desperation. Those moments of “what do you want me to do?!” as you try and figure out what this little person needs from you.

I had to put my newborn down in her Moses basket and take a quick shower (also known between my mama friends and I as “Mommy Time-Out”) because I started to feel a little too overwhelmed. Her father swooped in while I was in the shower, picked her up and patted her for two minutes and she was fast asleep.

I had to take a deep breath and remind myself: This, too, shall pass.

Those endless nights of wake-ups, marathon nursing sessions, endless diaper changes and outfit changes, spit-up, bedsheet overhauls, patting, shushing, settling: They will pass.

That tiny baby that only wants to be held, bounced or rocked in order to fall asleep; that searing pain between your shoulder blades from bouncing on the Swiss ball in the hope that those alert little eyes will start to close drowsily... It will pass.

That excruciating pain you felt shortly after delivery, just when you thought your recovery was going swimmingly, that debilitating pain that made you think that something was seriously wrong, made you question whether you were ever going to feel like yourself again: It, too, shall pass.

I’ve forgotten how you really do have to drop everything sometimes when you have a newborn.

Like dishes, mid-rinse.

Laundry, mid-sort.

Your shower, mid-shampoo.

Getting dressed, eating a meal, writing a blog post (haha)... You name it.

You start to wonder whether you will ever have any time to yourself, or whether you’ll ever be able to complete a task from start to finish.

This, too, shall pass.

And then there is that 5:30 a.m. nursing session. Everyone is still asleep except you and your new baby. There’s a small crack in the curtains and the faintest of dawn lights filters through. It dances across those soft, perfect cheeks. It flickers across those open, eager eyes. In that moment, the world stops and it’s just you and your baby. You somehow fall in love with each other even more. You stare at her and wonder whether this is going to be the moment she’ll give you her first real smile.

These moments, too, shall pass.

There’s that nursing session which you genuinely think will never end. You finally put your baby up on your shoulder to burp her and feel her tiny body melt into your arms. You feel every part of that delicate little body collapse peacefully onto yours, and you feel her short, quick, warm breaths on your neck. She’s asleep. She’s content. All she wants is to lay on your chest, and be close to the heartbeat that guided her through those nine months.

This, too, shall pass.

Your ability to be the person that can provide that baby with everything they need – whether they’re hungry, tired, scared, lonely; it will pass. There will come a point where you won’t be their everything, the centre of their universe.

It will pass.

I can smugly say this because I’ve done it once before, mama. The difficult parts of new motherhood, the incomprehensible emotions, the sleep deprivation, the physical pain, the lack of freedom and independence: I promise you, they will pass.

But I also know that those fleeting moments–those irreplaceable, perfect moments when you truly feel like this baby has made you a mother, to the point that you feel like your souls are perfectly in sync, and you are everything your baby needs–they will also pass. They don’t disappear, but they will change.

There is something special in the way a mother and her baby fall in love with each other, whether it’s from that first moment you meet or later down the track.

Just a few weeks ago, my toddler fell asleep as she lay her head on my chest while we were sitting in the living room. I realized in that moment that she hadn’t done that in so long, and that I missed it. There was a time when I desperately wished she would stop needing to fall asleep on me, and you know what? It happened.

It passes. It changes. And you will miss it.

So I’m telling myself to bask in these moments with a little more patience, a little more appreciation, because history has shown me how something you once think is the impossible, becomes something you wish never went away.

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14 outdoor toys your kids will want to play with beyond summer

They transition seamlessly for indoor play.

With Labor day weekend in the rearview and back-to-school in full swing, most parents are fresh out of boxes to check on their "Fun Concierge" hit list. It's also the point of diminishing returns on investing in summer-only toys. So with that in mind, we've rounded up some of our favorite toys that are not only built to last but will easily make the transition from outdoor to indoor play. Even better, they're Montessori-friendly and largely open-ended so your kids can get a ton of use out of them.

From sunny backyard afternoons to rainy mornings stuck inside, these toys are sure to keep little ones engaged and entertained.

Meadow ring toss game

Plan Toys meadow ring toss game

Besides offering a fantastic opportunity to hone focus, coordination, determination and taking turns, lawn games are just plain fun. Set them up close together for the littles and spread them out when Mom and Dad get in on the action. With their low profile and rope rings, they're great for indoors as well.

$30

Balance board

Plan Toys balance board

Balance boards are a fabulous way to get the wiggles out. This one comes with a rope attachment, making it suitable for even the youngest wigglers. From practicing their balance and building core strength to working on skills that translate to skateboarding and snowboarding, it's a year-round physical activity that's easy to bring inside and use between Zoom classes, too!

$75

Detective set

Plan Toys detective setDetective Set

This set has everything your little detective needs to solve whatever mystery they might encounter: an eye glasses, walkie-talkie, camera, a red lens, a periscope and a bag. Neighborhood watch? Watch out.

$40

Wooden doll stroller

Janod wooden doll strollerWooden Doll Stroller

Take their charges on a stroll around the block with this classic doll stroller. With the same versatility they're used to in their own ride, this heirloom quality carriage allows their doll or stuffy to face them or face the world.

$120

Sand play set

Plan Toys sand set

Whether you're hitting the beach or the backyard sandbox, this adorable wooden sand set is ready for action. Each scoop has an embossed pattern that's perfect for sand stamping. They're also totally suitable for water play in the wild or the bathtub.

$30

Water play set

Plan Toys water play set

Filled with sand or water, this tabletop sized activity set keeps little ones busy, quiet and happy. (A mama's ideal trifecta 😉). It's big enough to satisfy their play needs but not so big it's going to flood your floors if you bring the fun inside on a rainy day.

$100

Mini golf set

Plan Toys mini golf set

Fore! This mini golf set is lawn and living room ready. Set up a backyard competition or incorporate into homeschooling brain breaks that shift focus and build concentration.

$40

Vintage scooter balance bike

Janod retro scooter balance bike

Pedals are so 2010. Balance bikes are the way to go for learning to ride a bike while skipping the training wheels stage altogether. This impossibly cool retro scooter-style is built to cruise the neighborhood or open indoor space as they're learning.

$121

Wooden rocking pegasus

plan toys wooden rocking pegasus

Your little will be ready to take flight on this fun pegasus. It gently rocks back and forth, but doesn't skimp on safety—its winged saddle, footrests and backrest ensure kids won't fall off whether they're rocking inside or outside.

$100

Croquet set

Plan Toys croquet set

The cutest croquet set we've ever seen! With adorable animal face wooden balls and a canvas bag for easy clean up, it's also crafted to stick around awhile. Round after round, it's great for teaching kiddos math and problem-solving skills as well.

$45

Wooden digital camera

fathers factory wooden digital camera

Kids get the chance to assemble the camera on their own then can adventure anywhere to capture the best moments. With two detachable magnetic lenses, four built-in filters and video recorder, your little photographer can tap into their creativity from summertime to the holidays.

$179

Wooden bulldozer toy

plan toys wooden bulldozer toy

Whether they're digging up sand in the backyad or picking up toys inside, kids can get as creative as they want picking up and moving things around. Even better? Its wooden structure means it's not an eye sore to look at wherever your digger drops it.

$100

Pull-along hippo

janod toys pull along hippo toy

There's just something so fun about a classic pull-along toy and we love that they seamlessly transition between indoor and outdoor play. Crafted from solid cherry and beechwood, it's tough enough to endure outdoor spaces your toddler takes it on.

$33

Baby forest fox ride-on

janod toys baby fox ride on

Toddlers will love zooming around on this fox ride-on, and it's a great transition toy into traditional balance bikes. If you take it for a driveway adventure, simply use a damp cloth to wipe down the wheels before bringing back inside.

$88

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A few years ago, while my wife's baby bump got bigger and my daddy reading list grew longer, I felt cautiously optimistic that this parenthood thing would, somehow, suddenly click one day. The baby would come, instincts would kick in, and the transition from established couple to a new family would be tiring but not baffling.

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