The birth of a baby doesn’t always coincide with the birth of the perfect name—and sometimes parents come out of the delivery room without having reached a decision. In fact, for many families, getting to know the baby is essential before bestowing a permanent moniker.
“For some parents, getting to see and know their child is essential for deciding on a name,” said Sherri Suzanne, founder of My Name for Life.
Such is the case for Kail Lowry, star of MTV’s Teen Mom 2. The 25-year-old mother of three brought her newest son home earlier this month. But picking the right name for him hasn’t been as easy as it was when 7-year-old Isaac and 3-year-old Lincoln came along. In a recent interview with Radar Online, Lowry said there is a simple reason she and boyfriend Chris Lopez are still referring to their newborn by a nickname: “Everything we thought we liked doesn’t fit him.”
Big brothers Isaac and Lincoln have been trying to help name their new sibling, but as Lowry’s Twitter followers know, their picks haven’t been immediate winners.
“Isaac said the name Murphy was ‘eh, ok… for a dog’, and also suggested Francis,” Lowry recently tweeted, adding that Lincoln was adamant about naming the baby “Climber.”
For other families struggling to decide on a baby name, Kara Cavazos of The Art of Naming suggests soliciting unbiased opinions from someone not related to the child.
“Having an outside perspective from someone who is knowledgeable about names and unbiased to their particular circumstances make the world of a difference,” Cavazos told Motherly. “Pressure from family sometimes makes the situation more difficult since the parents may feel obligated to go with the name their family wants instead of something they actually love.”
According to Suzanne, parents who name late fall into two camps: Either they have many potential names, just not one they love. Or they have a name they love, but there is something standing in the way of making it permanent.
“In the former case, I recommend parents consider the top candidates and try them out in the remaining time. See if one starts to feel like the child’s name,” she explained, adding that when parents love a name but are reluctant to finalize, they should to identify the reason why. “Assuming the name will serve the child well, then popularity and the opinions of others may have to take a back seat.”
As for a formal baby name deadline, Lowry said she has 30 days to decide—although there is actually no code or regulation with that limit in Lowry’s home state of Delaware. Parents do have to file a birth certificate within 10 days of a birth, but according to the Delaware Department of Human and Social Services, hospitals will sometimes file as file “Baby Boy” or “Baby Girl.” Then the birth certificate can be amended with a “statement of correction” until the baby’s first birthday. hen the name is chosen.
Other states, including Ohio and California, have similar systems where parents can register kiddos without a given name as long as they file a “supplemental name report” before baby’s first birthday.
We’re sure Lowry and Lopez will have a name long before Baby Lo turns one—and if Isaac and Lincoln’s names are any indication, it will be adorable.