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5 Unsafe Baby Sleep Products That Parents Still Use

As a certified sleep consultant, I’m asked all the time about the various sleep products that are on the market. It turns out, many of the items that are cleverly marketed as cure-alls for tired parents’ sleep deprivation aren’t actually safe for sleep. Swings, co-sleepers, sidecar-style bassinets, bouncers, anything with the word “sleeper” in its name… None of these “sleep spaces” are approved for safe sleep. Never fear, though! We’ve sorted through the most asked-about products to give you a quick tip sheet for the safe sleep products we love and those we don’t.

But before we jump in, let’s review the safe sleep recommendations from the American Association of Pediatrics (AAP). Baby should always be alone in their sleep space: no sleep positioners (like a Dock-a-Tot), cocoons, stuffed animals, blankets, or stuffed animals should be in their sleep space. Baby should always be placed to sleep on their back and should only sleep in a crib or bassinet that is approved by the Consumer Product Safety Commission
With that in mind, here are five product categories that are used for sleep, but shouldn’t.

1. Crib bumpers: We continue to see these used even though the AAP has warned against using them. Many parents continue to use them because they’re worried that baby will bump their heads on the crib slats, that their limbs will get stuck in between them, or that the crib just doesn’t feel cozy. Bumpers aren’t the solution to those understandable concerns. They pose a risk of suffocation and entrapment--even the “breathable” mesh variety.

Pro tip: If your baby is looking for extra coziness, put them in the corner of the crib/bassinet, with their head touching the corner, or all the way at the bottom so that their feet touch the bottom.

2. Car seats: We all breathe a sigh of relief when our babies (finally) fall asleep in the car or on the airplane. Car seats were designed to be used as safety restraint while driving or flying -- not for sleep. Dr. Alisa Baer aka The Car Seat Lady, a nationally-recognized car seat expert, says that the most common mistake well-intentioned parents make is unbuckling the chest clip or crotch buckle (or both) when they arrive somewhere. When the straps are loose or undone, she says that babies can easily end up in a chin-to-chest position, and even older children can slip down and get strangled on the chest clip. So what to do when baby falls asleep in the car on your way home from your toddler's drop-off?

First, make sure that both the chest and crotch buckles are fully buckled, that the straps are snug and that the car seat is properly placed on a stroller base or in a car, or on the floor. Upon arriving at your destination, use your best ninja skills to transfer baby to their safe sleep space. If this isn't possible, make sure that your kiddo is still completely buckled and snugly strapped in and the seat is in one of those safe places. (For more information, see her Always Buckle Baby resource page.)

Pro tip: If your little one is still asleep when you arrive at daycare or the nanny share, you should take him out of the carseat YOURSELF and transfer him to a safe sleep space or hand him to the caretaker. Don't assume the caretaker will do it.

3. Loveys or stuffed animals: I know, you got a million of these as baby gifts! As adorable as they are, they pose a whole host of risks to infants, including suffocation and strangulation. Err on the side of safety and wait until your babe is 12 months or older to put one in the crib.

Pro tip: Try the Bitta Kidda sleep sack, which has a small pieces of fabric attached to the sleep sack that baby can use to self-soothe safely. Genius!

4. Wedges: These are especially popular for babies who are suffering from reflux. The latest AAP guidelines state that the risk of death or injury from sleeping on an incline is higher than the risks that GER or GERD pose to your baby. Sleep on an incline is not considered safe, regardless of how you do it. (e.g. a wedge, placing something under the legs of the bassinet, putting blankets under the mattress or fitted sheet). It’s not worth the risk.

Pro tip: Hold baby upright for 15 minutes after feeding to help digestion instead.

5. Weighted sleep sacks: These have become super popular in the past few years. There are no safety standards for these products and the fact that they put extra weight on the baby’s chest raises concerns about breathing interference. A standard sleep sack or swaddle is all you need.

Pro tip: For babies who are 3 months or older and who still have some of their Moro reflex, the Love to Dream Swaddle UP 50/50 sleep sack is a great way to start transitioning out of the swaddle.

Parents need to double down on all of these no-nos in any collective care environment, whether it’s daycare, a nanny share, etc. Many sleep-related deaths happen while the child is being cared for by someone other than the parent. Don’t be afraid to ask tough questions when you’re interviewing potential caregivers. Never be afraid to ask about their safe sleep know-how and to see where your baby will be sleeping while in their care.

Do a safe sleep audit of your little one’s sleep environment and make any changes necessary. You’ll sleep better knowing baby is in the safest place they can be. Still unsure whether a certain product is safe for sleep? Check out the Safe Infant Sleep Support Group on Facebook, where they provide answers and supporting research about the product in question.

Leigh McMahon is a certified sleep consultant with Bonne Nuit Baby. Based in Denver, she helps babies and children across the U.S. and Europe learn how to be champion sleepers so their parents can function/stay sane/cut down on the double espressos. Follow her @bonnenuitdenver and get weekly sleep tips on @_bonnenuitbaby.

Photo by Ashley Schulze on Unsplash

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Baby stuff comes in such cute prints these days. Gone are the days when everything was pink and blue and covered in ducks or teddy bears. Today's baby gear features stylish prints that appeal to mom.

That's why it's totally understandable how a mama could mistake a car seat cover for a cute midi skirt. It happened to Lori Farrell, and when she shared her mishap on Facebook she went viral before she was even home from work. Fellow moms can totally see the humor in Farrell's mishap, and thankfully, so can she.

As for how a car seat cover could be mistaken for a skirt—it's pretty simple, Farrell tells Motherly.

"A friend of mine had given me a huge lot of baby stuff, from clothes to baby carriers to a rocker and blankets and when I pulled it out I was not sure what it was," she explains. "I debated it but washed it anyway then decided because of the way it pulled on the side it must be a maternity skirt."

Farrell still wasn't 100% sure if she was right by the time she headed out the door to work, but she rocked the ambiguous attire anyway.

"When I got to work I googled the brand and realized not only do they not sell clothing but it was a car seat cover."

The brand, Itzy Ritzy, finds the whole thing pretty funny too, sharing Farell's viral moment to its official Instagram.

It may be a car seat cover, but that print looks really good on this mama.

And if you want to copy Farell's style, the Itzy Ritzy 4-in-1 Nursing Cover, Car Seat Cover, Shopping Cart Cover and Infinity Scarf (and skirt!) is available on Amazon for $24.94.

Motherly is your daily #momlife manual; we are here to help you easily find the best, most beautiful products for your life that actually work. We share what we love—and we may receive a commission if you choose to buy.You've got this.

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Paying north of $1,000 for daycare each month is an incredible burden, especially on single-parent families. The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services defines affordable childcare as costing no more than 10% of a family's income—by that definition, less than 29% of families in California can afford infant care. Some single parents spend half their income on day care. It is an incredible burden on working parents.

But that burden may soon get lighter. CBS Sacramento reports California may put between $25 and $35 million into child care programs to make day care more affordable for parents with kids under 3 years old.

Assembly Bill 452, introduced this week, could see $10 million dollars funneled into Early Head Start (which currently gets no money from the state but does get federal funding) and tens of millions more would be spent on childcare for kids under three.

The bill seeks to rectify a broken childcare system. Right now, only about 14% of eligible infants and toddlers are enrolled in subsidized programs in California, and in 2017, only 7% of eligible children younger than three years of age accessed Early Head Start.

An influx of between $25 to $35 million dollars could see more spaces open up for kids under three, as Bill 452, if passed, would see the creation of "grants to develop childcare facilities that serve children from birth to three years of age."

This piece of proposed legislation comes weeks after California's governor announced an ambitious plan for paid parental leave, and as another bill, AB 123, seeks to strengthen the state's pre-kindergarten program.

Right now, it is difficult for some working parents to make a life in California, but by investing in families, the state's lawmakers could change that and change California's future for the better.

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A fellow mama who understands the benefits of baby-wearing, Schaefer was keen to capture the photos Mort requested. "When I asked Dalton about what some of her 'must get' shots would be for her wedding, she specifically asked for ones of her wearing Ellie, kneeling and praying in the church before the tabernacle," Schaefer tells Motherly.

She got those shots and so many more, and now Mort's toddler-wearing wedding day pics are going viral.

"Dalton wore Ellie down the aisle and nursed her to sleep during the readings," Schaefer wrote on her blog, explaining that Ellie then slept through the whole wedding mass.

"As a fellow mother of an active toddler, this is a HUGE win! Dalton told me after that she was SO grateful that Ellie slept the whole time because she was able to focus and really pray through the Mass," Schaefer explains.

Dalton was able to concentrate on her wedding day because she made her baby girl a part of it (and that obviously tired Ellie right out).

Ellie was part of the commitment and family Dalton if forging with her husband, Jimmy Joe. "There is no better behaved toddler than a sleeping toddler, and she was still involved, even though I ended up unwrapping her to nurse her. I held her in my arms while my husband and I said our vows. It was really special for us," Dalton told POPSUGAR.

This is a wedding trend we are totally here for!

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As Romper first reported, plenty of American parents have noticed that preschoolers are picking up a bit of a British accent thanks to Peppa. Romper's Janet Manley calls it "the Peppa effect," noting that her daughter started calling her "Mummy" after an in-flight Peppa marathon.


Plenty of other parents report sharing Manley's experience, but the British accent is not likely to stick, experts say.

Toronto-based speech and language pathologist Melissa James says this isn't a new thing—kids have always been testing out the accents they hear on TV and in the real world, long before Peppa oinked her way into our Netflix queues.

"Kids have this amazing ability to pick up language," James told Global News. "Their brains are ripe for the learning of language and it's a special window of opportunity that adults don't possess."

Global News reports that back in the day there were concerns about Dora The Explorer potentially teaching kids Spanish words before the kids had learned the English counterparts, and over in the U.K., parents have noticed British babies picking up American accents from TV, too.

But it's not a bad thing, James explains. When an American adult hears "Mummy" their brain translates it to "Mommy," but little kids don't yet make as concrete a connection. "When a child, two, three or four, is watching a show with a British accent and hears [words] for the first time, they are mapping out the speech and sound for that word in the British way."

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As Dr, Susannah Levi, associate professor of communicative sciences and disorders at New York University, tells The Guardian, "it's really unlikely that they'd be acquiring an entire second dialect from just watching a TV show."

It sure is cute though.

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