How to Get a New Mom Out of the House

6 ways to help your BFF leave the safety of her living room.

How to Get a New Mom Out of the House
*We’ve partnered with Baby K’tan to help keep new moms hit the road with comfort and confidence. Whether you’ve been there as a new mama, or you’re experiencing motherhood vicariously through your BFF, it should come as no surprise that getting out of the house with (or without!) your newborn baby is a must. What you may not know (or remember) is that even for the most laid-back mom, hitting the road with a little one can be a daunting task. It’s a whole new world out there -- between the binkies, bottles and blowouts, there’s a lot to pack and worry about, and staying home forever might not seem like that bad of an idea. But don’t let your best friend resign herself to life on the sofa just yet. Helping her get out of the house can keep postpartum depression at bay and provide a much-needed break from the new baby bubble. In that spirit, we have partnered with Baby K’tan to give you six great ideas to get your best friend out of the house once she becomes a mom. 1. Start by gifting her with a baby carrier. The outside world can be loud and overstimulating. Baby carriers promote calmness in your little one, keeping them snuggled in tight. They also give you access to your hands, meaning you can eat, drink, shop or text all while holding your baby close. The Baby K’tan carrier is a great choice for transitioning your little one from womb to world. It has the chic aesthetic of a wrap, but without all that complicated wrapping. It comes in a variety of soft and breathable fabrics, including organic and is designed with your comfort in mind, adjusting baby’s weight evenly across your back. 2. Focus on health and fitness. Take her to a mommy-and-me yoga class. Hit up your favorite new vegan lunch spot. According to the Mayo Clinic, simple things like a daily walk around the neighborhood and healthy eating choices can help speed postpartum depression recovery, and connecting with other people can help ease PPD and anxiety. So a little walking and talking can really go a long way for her mental health. 3. Help her build a mom tribe. For some women, it’s hard to get out there and meet other new moms. So offer to be her wingman at parks, new mom classes or meet-and-greets with other new moms. You can also remind her to check out her hospital support groups, neighborhood listserv and social media feed to help her find local moms. 4. Offer to help around the house. New parents have a hard time juggling it all, so give her a hand. Do the dishes. Fold the laundry. Take out the trash. This will give her some time to leave the house with her little bundle of joy guilt free. 5. Have dad take the reigns. Handing the babe over to papa for a few hours can do wonders for mom’s morale. Take her to the movies or for a mani-pedi, sans bebe. She’ll be happy to have you there to ease her mind the first few times she leaves the house without her little. 6. Take her shopping. Even if she’s lost her baby belly, chances are she needs a new postpartum wardrobe. She may even need a stylish diaper bag, too. We love the Baby K’tan diaper bag for its super soft material and thoughtful features. Plus, it’s the only diaper bag on the market that includes an FDA-approved wet bag, which is perfect for food, liquid and anything else you don’t want to leak.


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My first baby and I were alone in our Brooklyn apartment during a particularly cold spring with yet another day of no plans. My husband was back at work after a mere three weeks of parental leave (what a joke!) and all my friends were busy with their childless lives—which kept them too busy to stop by or check in (making me, at times, feel jealous).

It was another day in which I would wait for baby to fall asleep for nap number one so I could shower and get ready to attempt to get out of the house together to do something, anything really, so I wouldn't feel the walls of the apartment close in on me by the time the second nap rolled around. I would pack all the diapers and toys and pacifiers and pump and bottles into a ginormous stroller that was already too heavy to push without a baby in it .

Then I would spend so much time figuring out where we could go with said stroller, because I wanted to avoid places with steps or narrow doors (I couldn't lift the stroller by myself and I was too embarrassed to ask strangers for help—also hi, New Yorkers, please help new moms when you see them huffing and puffing up the subway stairs, okay?). Then I would obsess about the weather, was it too cold to bring the baby out? And by the time I thought I had our adventure planned, the baby would wake up, I would still be in my PJs and it was time to pump yet again.

Slowly, but surely, and mostly thanks to sleep deprivation and isolation, I began to detest this whole new mom life. I've always been a social butterfly. I moved to New York because I craved that non-stop energy the city has and in the years before having my baby I amassed new friends I made through my daily adventures. I would never stop. I would walk everywhere just to take in the scenery and was always on the move.

Now I had this ball and chain attached to me, I thought, that didn't even allow me to make it out of the door to walk the dog. This sucks, I would think regularly, followed by maybe I'm not meant to be a mom after all.

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There is rightfully a lot of emphasis on preparing for the arrival of a new baby. The clothes! The nursery furniture! The gear! But, the thing about a baby registry is, well, your kids will keep on growing. Before you know it, they'll have new needs—and you'll probably have to foot the bill for the products yourself.

Thankfully, you don't have to break the bank when shopping for toddler products. Here are our favorite high-quality, budget-friendly finds to help with everything from meal time to bath time for the toddler set.

Comforts Fruit Crisps Variety Pack

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If there is one thing to know about toddlers, it is this: They love snacks. Keeping a variety on hand is easy when the pack already comes that way! Plus, we sure do appreciate that freeze-dried fruit is a healthier alternative to fruit snacks.

Comforts Electrolyte Drink

Comforts electrolyte drink

Between running (or toddling!) around all day and potentially developing a pickier palate, many toddlers can use a bit of extra help with replenishing their electrolytes—especially after they've experienced a tummy bug. We suggest keeping an electrolyte drink on hand.

Comforts Training Pants

Comforts training pants

When the time comes to start potty training, it sure helps to have some training pants on hand. If they didn't make it to the potty in time, these can help them learn their body's cues.

Comforts Nite Pants

comforts nite pants

Even when your toddler gets the hang of using the toilet during the day, nighttime training typically takes several months longer than day-time training. In the meantime, nite pants will still help them feel like the growing, big kid they are.

Comforts Baby Lotion

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Running, jumping, playing in sand, splashing in water—the daily life of a toddler can definitely irritate their skin! Help put a protective barrier between their delicate skin and the things they come into contact with every day with nourishing lotion.

Another great tip? Shopping the Comforts line on to find premium baby products for a fraction of competitors' prices—and follow along on social media to see product releases and news at @comfortsforbaby.

This article was sponsored by The Kroger Co. Thank you for supporting the brands that support Motherly and mamas.

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The American Academy of Pediatrics says that newborns, especially, do not need a bath every day. While parents should make sure the diaper region of a baby is clean, until a baby learns how to crawl around and truly get messy, a daily bath is unnecessary.

So, why do we feel like kids should bathe every day?

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