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My love—

It’s been five years of marriage. How did that fly by so fast? Sometimes I still feel like the girl with the crush on the quarterback in college.


But then one of our daughters (I won’t name names) puts her hand down her diaper and gets poop on her fingers or the other one (again, keeping names confidential) continually asks, “Can we watch a show? Can we watch a show?” and I remember, I am now married to you and we live with tiny little amazing maniacs whom we created and love deeply and basically what I’m trying to say is...were not in college anymore.

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We are in the world of parenting young children together. A crazy world. But also a very a magical one. A world I’m so glad to share with you.

Since college, where we fell in love, our relationship has grown and changed and deepened over the years. It has challenged us and it has saved us. It has been one of the greatest gifts of my life. ?

I am lucky to love you.

I’ve loved you through the good times and the not so good times. The fun times and the difficult times. The happy and the sad. We’ve been through so much, and our love has been there through it all.

I have loved you when this was all brand new.

And every moment, every touch, every look was exciting. The butterflies! The anticipation! The passion! Our love blossomed quickly and it surprised me. I loved you almost immediately, and I don’t even know if we were ready for it, really. But thankfully we accepted it with open arms.

I have loved you long distance.

When we both needed to pursue our own post-graduate adult life goals. You in Pennsylvania and me in Chicago. I thought I might die without you. I knew that if we could make it through the distance, we could make it through anything. (Which has been proven now since we battle tantrums together and being scolded for our pitch on “I Just Can’t Wait to Be King” on the daily. ?)

I have loved you when we were trying to figure out how to adult.

When we both started working “real” jobs and started paying back our student loans and living in our own apartments and trying our hand at being responsible. We made it through figuring out how to balance jobs and friends and each other. We were clinging to our youth but also so excited to “grow up” and move things along with our relationship.

I have loved you when we committed to forever.

Oh getting engaged was exciting! We were over the moon and in love and ready to plan the party of the century. We got through all the details and planning and spending and family-merging weddings involve and came out *relatively* unscathed. It was the best day. A ceremony filled with love. We were so grateful, so proud of ourselves.

I have loved you through my first pregnancy.

Navigating being pregnant is crazy! Trying to wrap our heads around the concept of becoming parents was exciting and nerve wracking and very scary. But we did it. Together. We had each other’s backs.

I have loved you through becoming homeowners.

Through figuring out where we’d settle down. What our budget was. How we were going to pay for anything. What color we’d (OK, OK...you’d) paint our walls. The stress. The choices. The moving. The excitement. What updates we would make. Prepping the room that would transform into our babies nursery.

I have loved you through new parenthood.

When we looked at our daughter together for the first time. When we were very, very sleep deprived (I mean...we still are, and I still love you.) When we were trying to figure out how to swaddle. When we marveled at this human we created together. When we couldn’t soothe her properly. When we thought our hearts would burst with how cute she was. ?

I have loved you through growing our family.

By another daughter, and another daughter...

Through watching you turn into this amazing, thoughtful, caring, FUN father. I always knew you could be the best dad in the world, but watching you prove it to me has been an honor. I have loved you through my panic attacks about whether I could do this, whether I could manage three kids—you are always there to reassure me and keep my spirits up. You’ve helped me believe in myself like no one else ever has.

I have loved you through planning and dreaming about our future.

Through dreaming about our “perfect” next home and how we’d like to decorate it. Through talking about what our hopes are for our daughters. What vacations we want to take one day. How we want to parent our children. What we want to accomplish professionally, and how we can make it happen by supporting one another.

We’re in this together—every single day. We’re both in the trenches of parenting young children and tending to a young marriage and all the dreams we have. It’s hard and demanding but it is worth it with every fiber of my being.

You are my rock, my inspiration, my best friend and my heart.

It’s been one heck of a ride so far, my darling. Here’s to more adventures together!

Love always,

Your wife

PS: I still have a crush on you. ?

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Jessica Simpson's life seems perfect. She has three beautiful kids, a wildly successful career, a seemingly solid marriage...she has it all, at least as far as we can see. But recent revelations prove that no one really knows what anyone else is secretly dealing with—and Jessica, by her own admission, has been struggling with alcohol issues.

The singer-turned-business-woman recently sat down with TODAY's Hoda Kotb, and it will air on NBC's TODAY Wednesday morning.

"I had started a spiral and I couldn't catch up with myself…and that was with alcohol," Jessica explained. "I would say it openly to everyone. 'I know. I know, I'll stop soon. I'll cut back'," Jessica continued when asked if she realized things were getting out of control. "For me to cut back, like I'm an all or nothing girl, and so I didn't know it was a problem until it was...I completely didn't recognize myself…I always had a glitter cup. It was always filled to the rim with alcohol."

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She's hardly alone. The rise of #winemom phenomenon is well documented and many parents struggle with substance abuse problems. But Simpson's story proves there is a way to get your life back.

Simpson quit drinking in 2017 after she found herself unable to get her kids ready for a Halloween party. She says she'd started drinking before 7:30 in the morning, before accompanying her husband, Eric Johnson, to a school assembly for their oldest daughter. Later that night she was unable to get her kids dressed in their Halloween costumes. The next morning she was so ashamed. Feeling like she had failed her kids she slept until they left the house, then got up and drank some more.

That episode was her tipping point. She quit drinking (as did her husband, Eric Johnson, who supports her in her sobriety.)



As parents, we know how overwhelming the demands can be...and how easy it is to sink into habits that don't ultimately serve us well. For Jessica, the way to heal was to sever her relationship with alcohol.

"I had to give [drinking] up," Jessica said. "I'm not going to miss another day. I'm not going to miss another Halloween. I'm not going to miss another Christmas. I'm going to be present."

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Babies come with a lot of stuff. And when you're out and about, a roomy, comfy diaper bag is the place for everything you need to be prepared for whatever the day throws your way. But is a cute, trendy diaper bag that doesn't scream, well... DIAPER BAG, too much to ask? It's not, mamas.

We've rounded up our favorite diaper bags that don't actually look like diaper bags, but instead like the cute, super stylish bags you might have carried before the days of finding crushed up puffs at the bottom of your purse.

These bags prove you can get the job done, mama—and look darn good while doing it.

Freshly Picked City Pack

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This simple, modern backpack can easily take you from a day at work to dinner with the kiddos. We love the hardware details, the lightweight design, and the hidden back pocket.

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Vogshow Waterproof Bag

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Companion Quilted Backpack

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Are you off to sit on the beach for a few hours, or taking your toddlers to the zoo? No one will be the wiser, mamas. We love the quilted look, padded straps, and roomy interior.

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Mommore Diaper Backpack

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Frustrations and emotions were at an all time high for both us. I was worried that my lack of patience would get the best of me, leaving her feeling let down and frustrated with me on her new journey of becoming a “big girl." And selfishly, I was tired of washing wet underwear. For her part, my daughter was tired of being asked for the hundredth time if she needed to use the potty.

We both were feeling a little defeated in this new adventure.

I have found too often as a mother that I expect my child to respond new things, like to potty training, as fast and as close to the last blog post, book or opinion I heard or read. What I have learned is that no two children are alike and the moment I release my expectations for where mine should or should not be, we are both brought back to peace and patience.

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So maybe a break was all we needed to start fresh the next day. We headed to our favorite spot by the lake and had a picnic. My daughter munched on popcorn and chatted away about the weather and pinecones, and listened for the sounds of helicopters—which you hear quite often living on an aviation military base.

Sometimes in the daily struggles of motherhood I have noticed that I can forget who I am and the strength we possess as mothers. It may not come easily at first, but I grow with each new day. Even potty training—this mundane human activity that is emotional and (quite literally) messy, teaches me much about the meaning and purpose of motherhood.

Potty training has taught me a huge lesson on patience. Patience to be present, to pay attention to what is right in front of me. To be encouraging, to not rush the process, to not place expectations on timing or play the comparison game we often play as mothers.

Patience is needed in every area of parenting and potty training is just one way where we can see as parents where our patience is wearing thin.

I have found that it's when I come from a place of patience and presence that I can then glean wisdom from those messy, mundane, time-consuming tasks of potty training, and find that the waiting, sitting and hours of time spent in the bathroom gives me an opportunity to be present in my child's world.

Whether it be the grocery line, a traffic jam, or cleaning up wet bedding, I learn the art and joy in the small and big moments in motherhood. Giving our children space to fail and try it again as many times as it takes encourages them that they too can cultivate the gift of patience in there own tiny lives.

My daughter speaks to me everyday, inviting growth that sometimes feels really hard and frustrating, she provokes patience to be felt and sensed through every minute of the day. And for this I am grateful. Because to truly live and be present in my child's world means “I learn from her, and she learns from me." Even in potty training.

Our children have so much to offer to who we are as individuals and they have so much to teach us. In fact, I have come to live for these exhausting, beautiful, and downright messy moments in time. When I push myself to embrace them, rather than just find them frustrating, I stretch and grow and evolve. I become the mother I hope to be.

And to you mama, whether in the midst of sleepless newborn nights or toddler tornados or the midst of potty training, may you find strength as a mother, as a wife, and as a person to let go of any expectations or judgements you place upon yourself.

May love and gratitude fill our hearts and peace be with all of us on the journey that motherhood is.

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