Last month, everyone’s favorite dance-in-the-rain celebrity, Drew Barrymore, raised a few eyebrows when she revealed on her talk show last month that she can go “years” without sex. And she can! But not because she hates it altogether.
In a new blog post, Barrymore opens up about her “no sex” lifestyle, and admitted she hasn’t had sex with anyone since her 2016 divorce from her ex-husband Will Kopelman. The two share two young daughters together.
“I’m not a person who needs sex and has to go out there and engage with people on that level,” she wrote in a blog post over the weekend. “I am someone who is deeply committed to fostering how young girls, my daughters, and myself as a woman, are supposed to function in this world!”
“Some people can get out of a marriage or relationship and in the near future find themselves in another relationship,” wrote Barrymore. “There is nothing wrong with that! Not one bit. I do not judge! I celebrate their journey! Because for some people that really works. It didn’t work for me.”
Her ex-husband is currently re-married to Vogue’s fashion director, Alexandra Michler.
Drew Barrymore’s rollercoaster childhood is pretty well-known among most—she shot to stardom as a child and comes from a long, long line of Hollywood Barrymores. Her parents, Jaid and John, were openly negligent while raising their daughter, and Barrymore has even discussed her mother’s abusive nature on her show. She spiraled into drugs and alcohol at just 13 years old. By 14, she was staying in a psychiatric institution after her mom put her there. After a year and a half, she legally emancipated herself from her parents.
In her post, she writes that she often confused sex and love because she was never taught about intimacy growing up.
She says it’s now very clear that “love and sex are not the same thing.” She “engaged in grown up ways since a tender age,” she said, because she “did not have role model parents.”
“And since entering life as a single mom, I have not been able to have an intimate relationship,” she writes. “I have had the honor and a pleasure to actually work on myself and learn what parenting is, again something I was not exactly clear on growing up and I’ve had many learning curves thrown my way.”
And while she’s now committed to raising her daughters and teaching them how to “love themselves” and what true intimacy is, she still wants everyone to know that none of that makes her literally anti-sex.
“So for the record, I do not hate sex!” Barrymore wrote. “I have just finally come to the epiphany that love and sex are simply not the same thing. I searched my whole life for, which is to be a calm woman and not a bombastic party girl.”