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It’s science: Having brothers helps you become a better person

The relationship with brothers sure is special—research proves it.

It’s science: Having brothers helps you become a better person

If you have a brother, then you already know how awesome they can be: Brothers are there when you need a shoulder to cry on, help stand up to a bully or be a pal for mischief. And if you get caught, they may even take the heat from your parents for you.


That’s not all, of course. Research shows there are many proven benefits for the girls who are fortunate enough to have brothers in their lives. (And vice-versa.)

“Gender segregation in middle childhood means that children with a sibling of the other sex have unique opportunities to learn about how to interact with the other sex, including with their siblings, as well as with their siblings’ peers,” says Susan M. McHale, director of the Social Science Research Institute at Duke.

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Here are all the reasons why it’s awesome to have a brother, according to science:

A brother can make you nicer

A 2014 Brigham Young University study showed that growing up with a brother can make you a more sympathetic person. What’s more: Researchers also found that having a close sibling relationship can also promote altruism in teenagers particularly among boys—which may have a ripple effect through the rest of the family.

“In our study, most relationships were not as important for boys as they were for girls,” study co-author Laura Padilla-Walker, a professor in BYU’s School of Family Life, says in a university release. “But the sibling relationship was different—they seemed to report relying on sibling affection just as much as girls do. It’s an area where parents and therapists could really help boys.”

...and fine-tune your communication skills

Research has found that sisters who grew up with brothers are better at communicating with men than those who only have sisters or were the only child. As McHale tells Motherly, this may be because brothers are “a source of information and advice as adolescents begin to develop heterosexual relationships.”

A brother can lower your stress levels

When your brother is also your best friend, then you’re likely to feel less stressed. A 2011 Developmental Psychology study found that being around your best friend during trying times decreases your levels of cortisol, the hormone in your body that controls stress. In other words: Your brother can help calm you down when everything around you feels chaotic.

...and improve your health

If your brother is into healthy eating and staying fit, there’s a higher chance you will be, too. Research backs this up: Nearly half of people who responded to the 2011 Edelman Health Barometer survey said family and friends had the most influence on their health overall lifestyle. And more than one-third reported that their loved ones had the biggest impact on their nutrition.

So, how can you show appreciation for you brother? “Warmth, compliments and expressions of pride,” McHale suggests.

Or, of course, a good ol’ noogie.

Why do all of my good parenting or baby-focused inventions come after they've already been invented by someone else? Sigh.

Like the Puj hug hooded baby towel, aka the handiest, softest cotton towel ever created.

Safely removing a wet, slippery baby from the bath can be totally nerve-wracking, and trying to hold onto a towel at the same time without soaking it in the process seems to require an extra arm altogether. It's no wonder so much water ends up on the floor, the countertops, or you(!) after bathing your little one. Their splashing and kicking in the water is beyond adorable, of course, but the clean up after? Not as much.

It sounds simple: Wash your child, sing them a song or two, let them play with some toys, then take them out, place a towel around them, and dry them off. Should be easy, peasy, lemon squeezy, right?

But it hasn't been. It's been more—as one of my favorite memes says—difficult, difficult, lemon difficult. Because until this towel hit the bathtime scene, there was no easy-peasy way to pick up your squirming wet baby without drenching yourself and/or everything around you.

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There's a reason why every mom tells you to buy a sound machine.

So in my defense, I grew up in Florida. As a child of the sunshine state, I knew I had to check for gators before sitting on the toilet, that cockroaches didn't just scurry, they actually flew, and at that point, the most popular and only sound machine I had ever heard of was the Miami Sound Machine.

I was raised on the notion that the rhythm was going to get me, not lull me into a peaceful slumber. Who knew?!

Well evidently science and, probably, Gloria Estefan knew, but I digress.

When my son was born, I just assumed the kid would know how to sleep. When I'm tired that's what I do, so why wouldn't this smaller more easily exhausted version of me not work the same way? Well, the simple and cinematic answer is, he is not in Kansas anymore.

Being in utero is like being in a warm, soothing and squishy spa. It's cozy, it's secure, it comes with its own soundtrack. Then one day the spa is gone. The space is bigger, brighter and the constant stream of music has come to an abrupt end. Your baby just needs a little time to acclimate and a little assist from continuous sound support.

My son, like most babies, was a restless and active sleeper. It didn't take much to jolt him from a sound sleep to crying like a banshee. I once microwaved a piece of pizza, and you would have thought I let 50 Rockettes into his room to perform a kick line.

I was literally walking on eggshells, tiptoeing around the house, watching the television with the closed caption on.

Like adults, babies have an internal clock. Unlike adults, babies haven't harnessed the ability to hit the snooze button on that internal clock. Lucky for babies they have a great Mama to hit the snooze button for them.

Enter the beloved by all—sound machines.

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We're only a few months into the new year and there are already some new celebrity arrivals making headlines while making their new parents proud.

If your little one arrived (or is due to arrive) in 2020, they've got plenty of high profile company.

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