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These texts between JLaw and Amy Schumer prove that the post-baby friendship struggle is real

It's a big fear for many people when they're pregnant: Will my non-mom friends still want to hang when I become a parent? Will we have anything in common anymore? Will they still call, text or visit me?

Clearly, Amy Schumer is navigating those concerns right now while adjusting to her new #momlife, because her friend Jennifer Lawrence (who doesn't have kids) is struggling with the transition, too.

Schumer shared the evidence in her Instagram Stories, proving JLaw has a sense of humor about the whole thing 

It looks like Lawrence got confused about what was happening on The Handmaid's Tale and needed Schumer's help ASAP, as apparently not understanding a TV plot constitutes "an emergency" in their friendship. (We totally understand).

"Amy!!! What did she do on season 1 to deserve being in the gallows on season 2? I can't remember where I left off. Are you asleep bc of the baby??? Are you asleep before 11? Is this bc of the baby? Don't make me resent the baby."

When Schumer didn't text back instantly, Lawrence took it to a whole other level.

She continues: "Wow, Ur really asleep before 11. I'll be damned."

"Everybody keeping their cool about me having a baby," Schumer captioned a screenshot of the text exchange.

The thing is, people do freak out a big when someone close to them has a baby. It happens, but it doesn't have to ruin a friendship (although maybe chill on the late night texts).

People do change, but relationships can evolve, too.

When people have babies pretty much everything in their life shifts. Priorities, free time, and even what you like to do for fun changes (as Schumer noted on Instagram she actually has a hard time watching The Handmaid's Tale now that she's a mom due to the heavy content—and that happens to a lot of parents as Motherly co-founder Liz Tenety mentions in the latest episode of The Motherly Podcast, Sponsored by Prudential).

But that doesn't mean that someone who doesn't have a baby and someone who does don't have anything in common anymore.

Parents are still people, and we are still the people we were before we had kids. Friendships can endure, and it is beautiful when they do.

According to therapist Rachel Bowers, some moms feel most connected to their pre-mom selves then hang with friends who aren't parents. It's good for us!

Friendships can survive and thrive after motherhood 

Bowers says many moms preemptively assume their friends without kids won't want to chill anymore but that isn't always true. "They may be worried about inviting you places and making you feel disappointed when you can't come or even not wanting to 'bother' you since you have a new baby," says Bowers, but as mom of three Colleen Temple wrote for Motherly, moms often crave those invites from child-free friends and having to say no is better than not getting the invite at all.

It's a complicated situation, but Bowers suggests open communication can make a huge difference. If you're the Amy Schumer, tell your JLaw that you appreciate the text, and if you're not getting them, tell her that her friendship is still important to you even though you have a baby now. And if it doesn't work out, know that that doesn't mean you're not worthy of friendship/

"It's important to remember that some friendships just won't make the transition, and that is okay," says Bowers.

Sometimes parenthood makes us drift apart from some people, but if you prioritize relationships that are important to you it totally doesn't have to. Having some girls time away from the baby is good for mamas, so Schumer should go have a movie night with JLaw (but maybe watch something that hurts a mama heart less than The Handmaid's Tale?.)

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Mom life demands efficiency. Because while the amount of hours in the day are the same as before kids, now a sizable chunk of that time is spent caring for and loving on those little people. Compromises happen—and let's just be honest, the old beauty routine is one of the first things to get cut.

But, wait! You don't have to sacrifice putting on mascara or, worse, skipping the SPF. Instead, why not flip it, reverse it, and look at the bright side? Here's your opportunity to streamline your morning makeup routine. With some savvy skin care and beauty hacks, you can get your radiant glow on in record time.

Here are our tried-and-true hacks passed down from Motherly mamas:

1. Embrace multipurpose items

If the most pressing issue is limited time, consolidate multiple steps of your beauty routine with a multipurpose item. For example, instead of starting with a SPF moisturizer, followed by spot concealer and a blendable foundation, you can take care of all of that in one go with one of our favorites: Earth Mama's 3-in-one Lady Face™ Tinted Mineral Sunscreen. The beauty stick also allows you to easily fold SPF 40 into your routine, because Lady Face doubles as super-safe, clean sun protection. Even better? The sunscreen blocks blue light from those ever-present digital screens with a ray-scattering, non-nano formula.

2. Revive dried mascara

Especially after a sleepless night (#motherhood), mascara can make a major difference in how well rested you appear to be. If you realize your tube of mascara is dried out, don't write it off as a lost cause. Simply soak the sealed tube in warm water to loosen up the mascara — or add a drop of a multi-purpose saline solution into the tube. That should do the trick until you have time to buy a replacement. (But let's face it: You're a mom. It's okay if you're tired.)

3. Keep coconut oil handy

Coconut oil isn't just for the kitchen. From a DIY hair mask to an in-a-pinch lip balm or naturally removing makeup at the end of the day, coconut oil's cosmetic hack-list is long. For summer, we especially like adding a thin swipe of organic extra virgin coconut oil to the cheekbones at the end of the makeup routine for a bit of an extra glow.

4. Multitask while deep conditioning

If your hair needs a bit of TLC, consider applying a natural, paraben-free deep conditioner before doing chores around the house or even a short workout. By working up a bit of a sweat, the conditioner will set even better before you rinse off in the shower.

5. Start your hair care routine the night before

As you work to find your new normal morning routine, it can help to simply reschedule a task or two—like hair. If you shower the night before, get a jumpstart on your look by blowdrying, straightening or even braiding it for loose waves in the morning.

6. Even out your skin tone

Between multiple wake-ups during the night and wavering hormones, complexion issues can become a thing for most mamas. Thankfully, the hack for managing that is as simple as finding a great foundation that goes on smoothly and doesn't cake or crack through a morning of momming. Scope out the ingredient list for naturally nourishing components like coconut oil, shea butter or beeswax — and skip the stress (and the return process if the shade doesn't match) by going for something that easily blends with most skin tones.

7. Find brands your feel great about

As a mom, you might find yourself considering bigger life questions: Are my cosmetics safe for pregnancy and breastfeeding? Are they helping the world my children will grow up in? Can I trust the ingredients and mission? Pro tip: read the ingredients on all your personal care products, memorize the ones you want to avoid, and look for third-party certification to ensure the product is actually what it says it is. When you find a brand that walks the talk, you're going to want to be loyal.

8. When in doubt, go for a bold lip

With happy hours swapped for play dates, your daily routine may look a bit different than it used to. But who says you have to leave your personal style behind? If you've always been a fan of makeup and going a bit glam, keep going for it, mama! The extra 60 seconds it takes to apply lipstick or whatever else gives you a bit of pep in your step is well worth it.


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